kvj21075
Meow
i guess you werent around when i explained the inside joke on that one.... sheesh
Who pays for the wedding?
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sockgirl77
Well-Known Member
No, this is the most I've posted in 2 weeks.
Sweet 16
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I guess there was always an assumption on both sides that my parents would pay for my college and my wedding because that's what you did back in the day. I never asked them to, they just did. I had a nice church wedding and a reception at the O-club. We cut costs where we could -- we got the wedding gown on sale and discounts on the printing, flowers, hair, makeup, video and DJ (friends and relatives). None of that bridezilla nonsense for me but it was still nice.
Sounds like sour grapes. You have nothing in this, your parents are entitled to help their daughter with her wedding. It doesn't mean they love you less. And it doesn't help your family relationship to air your bitter gripe in a public forum. Just be happy for them and stay out of the financing, it is nonya.
punchbuggy
New Member
Paid for our own wedding...$4,000 total -(we set a budget and stuck to it) catered our own food with the help of family & friends, rented a hall and hired a DJ - bought a dress - friends took great pictures and the hall was decorated by us. Approx. 75 guests with a keg, sodas and coffee - oh yeah and a cake & food. It can be done if you do your homework and do a lot of it yourself. No need for Mom & Dad to pay for it all. It's good manners to ASK if inlaws or parents can help with one thing - photographer and let them set the budget. If you're not willing to bend for assistance you are given then you should pay for it yourself. Wonder how many of the bride's family are going to want to go to S.C. for a fancy shmancy wedding....????:shrug: Since MD isn't good enough....I'd let the groom and in-laws handle everything... (jmo)
dixiepeach
Member
No not really, Mom called ME in tears last night about this. She said they have lost so much in the stock market that she and dad are really stressed and she ASKED ME WHAT I THOUGHT.
Cowgirl
Well-Known Member
Our wedding was *maybe* $4,000, and it was perfect for us. We didn't go into debt. Who wants to start out their life together going into debt for one day? We did a ton of things to save money (like doing the food ourselves...not getting it catered). My mom made my dress and the bridesmaid dresses. My sister made the flowergirl dresses. We grew the flowers. My dad gave us a generous gift to help, and his parents paid for the rehearsal dinner. The majority came out of our own pockets. We saved up a good bit of money while we were engaged.
If we weren't lucky enough to have parents that could help, we would have done everything ourselves. You should make your wedding fit your budget, not make your budget fit your wedding.
If we weren't lucky enough to have parents that could help, we would have done everything ourselves. You should make your wedding fit your budget, not make your budget fit your wedding.