Why are guys so complicated?

vraiblonde

vraiblonde

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Seriously, it seems most of the time when they have a problem they'll solve it with the most complicated method when something simpler will do. I have a zillion personal examples of this:

One of my ex-husbands used to fuss at me for using a nail file as a screwdriver, or a high heel for a hammer. "Tsk," he'd say. Then he'd run off to find the tool box and unearth the "proper" tool, and by the time he came back with it the job was done.

He bought this jar opening contraption - why, I have no idea because we were only in our mid-20s and not arthritic yet. Confronted with a stubborn jar of jam, he started rummaging around for the jar opener. I picked up the jar, gave it a couple of quick taps, and popped the lid right off.

He was also the king of "I can make it fit," as in something would be the wrong size and instead of taking it back and getting the correct size, he'd "make it fit". Typically this didn't work out and he'd end up going back to exchange it like he should have done in the first place. Or he'd spend hours and make two trips for the tools needed to put a square peg in a round hole.

There are many, many more stories I could tell but the guys are on here and I don't want to personally bust them out. :lol:

So why is this? Are men just genetically predisposed to do things the hard way? Why they won't ask for directions, or read the instructions on something they're putting together? Not all men, and I know this, but it does seem to be a common theme. Is it a gadget thing, as in they just like their gadgets? Or don't care to be told what to do?
 
GWguy

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:lol: Vrai, you usually post something like this triggered by a recent event.

What set this one off??

And to answer, guys are as anal about using the right tool for the right job as women are about putting the toilet seat down.
 
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bresamil

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Well boys do love their toys, but a lot of men just like the challenge of fixing something or putting it together using their own ingenuity.

I watch my sons do this all the time. They are always wondering if this or that would work and then they just do it. They don't care if it fails, they just try it again a new way.
 
vraiblonde

vraiblonde

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bresamil said:
Well boys do love their toys, but a lot of men just like the challenge of fixing something or putting it together using their own ingenuity.

I watch my sons do this all the time. They are always wondering if this or that would work and then they just do it. They don't care if it fails, they just try it again a new way.
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Ahhh, an explanation! Men like to tinker, whereas women just like to get the job over with. That makes perfect sense. :yay:
 
Larry Gude

Larry Gude

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vraiblonde said:
So why is this? Are men just genetically predisposed to do things the hard way? Why they won't ask for directions, or read the instructions on something they're putting together? Not all men, and I know this, but it does seem to be a common theme. Is it a gadget thing, as in they just like their gadgets? Or don't care to be told what to do?
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Lori calls it "Guy way vs. girl way" and doesn't look at it as 'wrong/hard way (guy way) vs. Right/Easy (Girl way). I mean, she does :lol: but, she takes it as a balance, both having their place and the trick is using the 'better' way at a given time for a given application. There are times when I see a much more direct and efficient way of doing X and sometimes, the crew, all women except for two, I just get out of their way. They call it "Girl Power" and are quite pleased with themselves when they make me look like Rube Goldberg incarnate. Not that that is some sort of great or rare feat. :lol:

I mean, the greenhouse is a great example. We have the automatic basket systems, pot robots, the bench system, pot filler, computer controlled vents, heat, curtains, lights and so forth. Not all are absolutely necessary but, for the most part, they make tedious, repetitious jobs MUCH easier. All are 'guy way' creations of complexity and wonder and yet girls then take them and make it work better, putting all that stuff to better/best use. On the flip side, girls would never have created all that stuff and we'd all live in a much simpler world.

Guys invent stuff. Girls put it to best use. Sometimes, we make automated, climate controlled beer hats. Sometimes, we make computers.

To better designed automated climate controlled beer hats.
 
Vince

Vince

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bresamil said:
Well boys do love their toys, but a lot of men just like the challenge of fixing something or putting it together using their own ingenuity.

I watch my sons do this all the time. They are always wondering if this or that would work and then they just do it. They don't care if it fails, they just try it again a new way.
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Yep, just need an excuse to go out and buy a new tool. :banana:
 
PsyOps

PsyOps

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vraiblonde said:
Seriously, it seems most of the time when they have a problem they'll solve it with the most complicated method when something simpler will do. I have a zillion personal examples of this:

One of my ex-husbands used to fuss at me for using a nail file as a screwdriver, or a high heel for a hammer. "Tsk," he'd say. Then he'd run off to find the tool box and unearth the "proper" tool, and by the time he came back with it the job was done.

He bought this jar opening contraption - why, I have no idea because we were only in our mid-20s and not arthritic yet. Confronted with a stubborn jar of jam, he started rummaging around for the jar opener. I picked up the jar, gave it a couple of quick taps, and popped the lid right off.

He was also the king of "I can make it fit," as in something would be the wrong size and instead of taking it back and getting the correct size, he'd "make it fit". Typically this didn't work out and he'd end up going back to exchange it like he should have done in the first place. Or he'd spend hours and make two trips for the tools needed to put a square peg in a round hole.

There are many, many more stories I could tell but the guys are on here and I don't want to personally bust them out. :lol:

So why is this? Are men just genetically predisposed to do things the hard way? Why they won't ask for directions, or read the instructions on something they're putting together? Not all men, and I know this, but it does seem to be a common theme. Is it a gadget thing, as in they just like their gadgets? Or don't care to be told what to do?
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Out of the sheer joy of knowing ^THIS^ will be the response :biggrin:



success is a sweet thing
 
Cheeky1

Cheeky1

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vraiblonde said:
...One of my ex-husbands used to fuss at me for using a nail file as a screwdriver, or a high heel for a hammer. "Tsk," he'd say. Then he'd run off to find the tool box and unearth the "proper" tool, and by the time he came back with it the job was done...
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He's right. You mess up and break the heel of your shoe = more $ spent on new shoes (but maybe you planned it that way and were annoyed upon his return, not because he brought a hammer, but because you weren't able to break the heel of your old-style, worn-out shoes).

You use a hammer, the hammer doesn't break = job done and no more $ required.

Just sayin' :shrug:
 
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xobxdoc

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vraiblonde said:
Seriously, it seems most of the time when they have a problem they'll solve it with the most complicated method when something simpler will do. I have a zillion personal examples of this:

One of my ex-husbands used to fuss at me for using a nail file as a screwdriver, or a high heel for a hammer. "Tsk," he'd say. Then he'd run off to find the tool box and unearth the "proper" tool, and by the time he came back with it the job was done.

He bought this jar opening contraption - why, I have no idea because we were only in our mid-20s and not arthritic yet. Confronted with a stubborn jar of jam, he started rummaging around for the jar opener. I picked up the jar, gave it a couple of quick taps, and popped the lid right off.

He was also the king of "I can make it fit," as in something would be the wrong size and instead of taking it back and getting the correct size, he'd "make it fit". Typically this didn't work out and he'd end up going back to exchange it like he should have done in the first place. Or he'd spend hours and make two trips for the tools needed to put a square peg in a round hole.

There are many, many more stories I could tell but the guys are on here and I don't want to personally bust them out. :lol:

So why is this? Are men just genetically predisposed to do things the hard way? Why they won't ask for directions, or read the instructions on something they're putting together? Not all men, and I know this, but it does seem to be a common theme. Is it a gadget thing, as in they just like their gadgets? Or don't care to be told what to do?
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Maybe they were trying to stay occupied on that off chance that you would not engage them in conversation and unload on them about every minute detail of your day.
 
Dakota

Dakota

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I must be a guy whose balls haven't dropped yet. I never ask for directions which is why I love my GPS so much.... I don't get lost as often. When I buy something, I will try to figure it out first and when I get stuck, read the directions. I have a box full of tools and typically use the proper one (although I have banged a nail in with a shoe before). I own 'jar openers' but I don't use them. I just bang the jar on the counter.
 
DEEKAYPEE8569

DEEKAYPEE8569

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vraiblonde said:
Seriously, it seems most of the time when they have a problem they'll solve it with the most complicated method when something simpler will do. I have a zillion personal examples of this:

One of my ex-husbands used to fuss at me for using a nail file as a screwdriver, or a high heel for a hammer. "Tsk," he'd say. Then he'd run off to find the tool box and unearth the "proper" tool, and by the time he came back with it the job was done.

He bought this jar opening contraption - why, I have no idea because we were only in our mid-20s and not arthritic yet. Confronted with a stubborn jar of jam, he started rummaging around for the jar opener. I picked up the jar, gave it a couple of quick taps, and popped the lid right off.

He was also the king of "I can make it fit," as in something would be the wrong size and instead of taking it back and getting the correct size, he'd "make it fit". Typically this didn't work out and he'd end up going back to exchange it like he should have done in the first place. Or he'd spend hours and make two trips for the tools needed to put a square peg in a round hole.

There are many, many more stories I could tell but the guys are on here and I don't want to personally bust them out. :lol:

So why is this? Are men just genetically predisposed to do things the hard way? Why they won't ask for directions, or read the instructions on something they're putting together? Not all men, and I know this, but it does seem to be a common theme. Is it a gadget thing, as in they just like their gadgets? Or don't care to be told what to do?
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I thought the three major things we men need were food, sleep and sex. :confused:
 
Dakota

Dakota

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Well, on 2nd thought, I'm not moody enough to be a man. Men can be some moody ass people, I swear.
 
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