Why Women Gladly Date Ugly Men....................

Queenofdenile1 · May 16, 2008

toppick08 said:
Queenofdenile1 said:

It's just unfortunate that it works this way most times. Great guy, but physically not appealing. Then the men we find appealing, in most instances, are just jerks or turn out to be jerks. UGH![/QUOTE]

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Are you frowning cause your agreeing with the statement or was this something on a more personal man note?

What is attractive to one female may not be attractive to another. It works the same for men too. I didn't make the rules. I can't help they way we (people) were put together.

toppick08 · May 16, 2008

Queenofdenile1 said:
toppick08 said:

Are you frowning cause your agreeing with the statement or was this something on a more personal man note?

What is attractive to one female may not be attractive to another. It works the same for men too. I didn't make the rules. I can't help they way we (people) were put together.

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Personal.........there are some real gentlemen left out here.

GWguy · May 16, 2008

toppick08 said:
Queenofdenile1 said:

Personal.........there are some real gentlemen left out here.

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toppick08 · May 16, 2008

GWguy said:
toppick08 said:

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Dye Tied · May 16, 2008

jetmonkey said:
This might be a little off topic, but is it just me or does Tila Tequila have serious praying mantis head. Do not want.

Good way to describe it, I was calling it a squished head. :barf:

Queenofdenile1 · May 16, 2008

toppick08 said:
Queenofdenile1 said:

Personal.........there are some real gentlemen left out here.

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I understand. I try to believe that but when 99% of them are that one has personally dealt with, it's discouraging. You start to wonder if there are any decent ones left or if there ever were any decent men at all. Just consider me a bit Jaded!!

GWguy · May 16, 2008

Queenofdenile1 said:
I understand. I try to believe that but when 99% of them are that one has personally dealt with, it's discouraging. You start to wonder if there are any decent ones left or if there ever were any decent men at all. Just consider me a bit Jaded!!

It actually comes down to exactly what has been said in this forum... Many of us truly are nice guys and true gentlemen, but because we aren't "hunks" we don't get the chance for others to get close enough to know the real us.

I'm sure that's very true of men looking at women, too. I know looks are important to me too, but it MUST be accompanied with intelligence and a good attitude. If a women is incredibly striking but the 'tude stinks, they don't even make it to a first date.

Queenofdenile1 · May 16, 2008

GWguy said:
It actually comes down to exactly what has been said in this forum... Many of us truly are nice guys and true gentlemen, but because we aren't "hunks" we don't get the chance for others to get close enough to know the real us.

I'm sure that's very true of men looking at women, too. I know looks are important to me too, but it MUST be accompanied with intelligence and a good attitude. If a women is incredibly striking but the 'tude stinks, they don't even make it to a first date.

Oh, I'm not disagreeing with you at all. Here is my thing, you perhaps don't think your a "Hunk" but that doesn't mean your not. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Your statement of a striking woman applies with an attractive man as well. If he has some sort of attitude, I wouldn't go out with him again. However, sometimes you don't find out what kind of a person they are for awhile. They can be charming and sweet and all that and you think "Wow what a great guy or gal", and learn later, sometimes much later, they aren't that great. Even the "not so attractive" can be jerks too. I'm not sure why that is but I've dated a few who were "in the beginning" extremely sweet and couldn't do enough for you. Made you feel like "I've never been treated this well before" until...... a few months later, thinking you've found the guy or gal (maybe not the best looking but fairly cute)who has now turned on you like a German Shepard and has you tears (I'm not sure how men react). So, any way you look at it, attractive, not attractive, cute, mediocre, it doesn't matter, it's all gamble and your taking a chance with the ole heart.

SamSpade · May 23, 2008

nhboy said:
"It's a pretty well known fact that most women - attractive women - will happily date ugly men.

Yeah right. If there was an ounce of truth to that, I'd have a list this long.

warneckutz · May 23, 2008

SamSpade said:
Yeah right. If there was an ounce of truth to that, I'd have a list this long.

Roxy1104 · May 23, 2008

Pete said:
So what was it, the chubby, skin tags or brillo hair? If he got the skin tags cut off would he have been OK then?

NO. He was not appealing to me in any way, shape or form. But I tried...

Roxy1104 · May 23, 2008

Queenofdenile1 said:
toppick08 said:

I understand. I try to believe that but when 99% of them are that one has personally dealt with, it's discouraging. You start to wonder if there are any decent ones left or if there ever were any decent men at all. Just consider me a bit Jaded!!

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Roxy1104 · May 23, 2008

Queenofdenile1 said:
Oh, I'm not disagreeing with you at all. Here is my thing, you perhaps don't think your a "Hunk" but that doesn't mean your not. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Your statement of a striking woman applies with an attractive man as well. If he has some sort of attitude, I wouldn't go out with him again. However, sometimes you don't find out what kind of a person they are for awhile. They can be charming and sweet and all that and you think "Wow what a great guy or gal", and learn later, sometimes much later, they aren't that great. Even the "not so attractive" can be jerks too. I'm not sure why that is but I've dated a few who were "in the beginning" extremely sweet and couldn't do enough for you. Made you feel like "I've never been treated this well before" until...... a few months later, thinking you've found the guy or gal (maybe not the best looking but fairly cute)who has now turned on you like a German Shepard and has you tears (I'm not sure how men react). So, any way you look at it, attractive, not attractive, cute, mediocre, it doesn't matter, it's all gamble and your taking a chance with the ole heart.

You and I must have been dating the same sociopaths! :jameo:

shiki · May 23, 2008

I prefer my men to be extremely attractive :diva:

I like them young and pretty. Old farts do nothing for me.

PsyOps · May 23, 2008

shiki said:
I prefer my men to be extremely attractive

I like them young and pretty. Old farts do nothing for me.

Guess I'm out. And I'm kind of glad because you look just like Spock. And he creeps me out.

virgovictoria · May 25, 2008

In my pre-K years, and in between committed relationships, I would date fellas based on their value as a human. I appreciate humor, kindness, confidence, chivalry and some attribute that lies outside of the norm.

:shrug: Call me crazy, but I think chicks just dig real men.

FromTexas · May 25, 2008

virgovictoria said:
In my pre-K years, and in between committed relationships, I would date fellas based on their value as a human. I appreciate humor, kindness, confidence, chivalry and some attribute that lies outside of the norm.

:shrug: Call me crazy, but I think chicks just dig real men.

Aladdin is going to be bummed you said that.

cwo_ghwebb · May 25, 2008

pixiegirl said:
I am shallow enough to admit that I will only date men that I personally find atractive. I don't give a flying hoot if the whole world or only his mama find him attractive; it's about how I see him. In order for a relationship to sustain there has to be a level of attraction.

Now I will say that I've met plenty of men that were quite attractive off the get but after getting to know them I was so turned off by thier personalities that I no longer saw them as physically attractive. And the opposite is true; I've found myself more physically attracted to some I thought were just decent looking because they had a good personality.

Like it or not ladies, our attraction thermometer is directly connected to our feelings.

Right on the money. Physical attraction is the first thing folks see, whether you're a man or a woman. Physical attributes in a mate fades as time wears on. Hell, we all age, it's natural. Am I as good looking to my wife as when she first met me? Heck no! But shared experiences, common interests and being close to each other brings a contentment that far outweighs that initial 'spark' we had for each other.

AndyMarquisLIVE · May 27, 2008

nhboy said:
Why Women Gladly Date Ugly Men (And Probably Even Prefer Them)

"It's a pretty well known fact that most women - attractive women - will happily date ugly men. We see it on TV -- in shows like King of Queens, though I would probably argue that Kevin James is kind of a stud, and really, that's exactly the point I plan on making-- and we see it in our friends.

There are plenty of studies on this strangely anti-Darwinian phenomenon - studies which I think don't answer the question as well as I, with my oh-so-steadfast opinions, can, do, and will.

So let's talk about this. Let's talk about what exactly is wrong with these conventionally attractive men, and let's talk about what is right about these, well, conventionally un-attractive men. "

Verena von Pfetten: Why Women Gladly Date Ugly Men (And Probably Even Prefer Them)