While I sympathized with your other post I feel you are in the wrong here. While I agree she should not have been spreading an offensive odor in the bus, you were being just as offensive. While I curse all the time I will only do it when I know the surrounding people don't care. Were there children on the bus? Did you even care to look? In a post I did in your other thread I said saying hurtful and racial slurs was because the guy had run out of intelligent things to say in the argument and it seems to me you reacted just as badly as he did. Just my opinion but that situation could have been handled much better and while the smell would have been annoying to me I would have left the bus thinking you were the jack@$$.
Stupid woman on the 830 applying fingernail polish!!!
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DEEKAYPEE8569
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Two possible ways to deal with the situation:
1) Be honest, but civil: 'Excuse me, could you not do that right now?' 'I don't know about others here, but the smell is a bit much for this space.'
2) Be honest with an attempt at humor; like I would likely try: 'I'm sorry, could you not do that right now?' 'My eyes are foggin' up over here.'
If you get flipped off, etc., then you jump into this person's business with both feet.
Hank
my war
Hank
my war
:toot: or :shart:?
Misfit
Lawful neutral
Hank
my war
Shart, butt people get allwhen you poo a little on the bus
Mom always said, "Don't leave the house without your diapers on".... or at least a spare pair of undies.
LightRoasted
If I may ...
If I may ...
I believe he expressed some deserved righteous contemptuous indignation towards an ignorant untrained young woman who didn't have the upbringing to apply her fingernail polish the night prior, or the morning of, her work day before getting on that bus. Somehow, it seems, that many people feel it is their right to intrude, and encroach upon, others space, whatever that encroachment entails, and in this case, air space. What he also did in that moment, was to put others on notice, in case they ever wanted to try the same thing, that certain behaviors on a packed bus, and with no escape, will not be tolerated. Many times, his is the reaction needed in this, "better be quite and keep to myself and don't make a scene" society we have become. Aggressiveness, such as his, in that moment, does help to create, and maintain, a polite society. Also, you have to give him credit. He didn't use any qualifiers as to the woman's race or ethnicity.
I believe he expressed some deserved righteous contemptuous indignation towards an ignorant untrained young woman who didn't have the upbringing to apply her fingernail polish the night prior, or the morning of, her work day before getting on that bus. Somehow, it seems, that many people feel it is their right to intrude, and encroach upon, others space, whatever that encroachment entails, and in this case, air space. What he also did in that moment, was to put others on notice, in case they ever wanted to try the same thing, that certain behaviors on a packed bus, and with no escape, will not be tolerated. Many times, his is the reaction needed in this, "better be quite and keep to myself and don't make a scene" society we have become. Aggressiveness, such as his, in that moment, does help to create, and maintain, a polite society. Also, you have to give him credit. He didn't use any qualifiers as to the woman's race or ethnicity.
steppinthrax
Active Member
bing bing bing bing.....
And if it were a man doing this and a small woman turned around and cursed me out and I acted soft. I would have been laughed at.
I'm sure many woman who responded to this post think there is nothing wrong with someone letting out fumes that can trigger asthma attacks (yes I have asthma).
I'm sure many woman think the real problem is I had some issue with her applying nail polish. Almost like I would have known this unless it had a smell. And that it's a woman's god given Amendment right to apply nail polish in a confined area. As this has been a common complaint with men........
WHAT A DOUBLE DOUBLE DOUBLE DOUBLE STANDARD WORLD WE LIVE IN......
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Hank
my war
I have a friend in Portland, Maine that wears a gas mask when in public places. Have you considered this?
This idea is all fine and well until the other person decides to respond in like kind. Then it becomes a shouting match and can easily escalate into physical violence. Violence not being a part of polite society.
steppinthrax
Active Member
In certain situations I had my asthma get so bad that I had to pretty much stay in one place and not move for a few.....
I'm coming into work for a meeting, worse situation is her #### messes up my day....
steppinthrax
Active Member
Hank
my war
But don't you feel that others have the right to ride on a bus without hearing expletives being thrown around loudly. I would have found that much more annoying than the fingernail polish. As for your argument of helping to create a polite society, what would have happened if someone took exception to his actions and jumped up screaming like a lunatic, then someone else took exception to their actions and so on and so forth. She was applying nail polish with no regard for anyone else just like he flew off the handle with no regard for anyone else. He may think he is speaking for everyone but if I were on the bus I would not want him representing me.
happyazz
Skiing in the clouds
Time to move back to the GHETTO. THUG
If your first reaction is to yell, then you have lost your audience. Have I stooped to using a few expletives to make a point, yes, but it was done after trying to make the same point in a more polite manner, the profanity laced tirade was done to make a point and to take someone down a notch or two. But I asked nice first.
If your first contact had been, "Excuse me, people are starting to smell your nail polish and it could be a problem for those with allergies.", it would have been a better start.
The second try might have been a little firmer, but the gloves come off for round 3, that's were you say, "Listen B****, put the cap on the bottle and stow it before I shove it up your a**."
And you don't scream it, you lower your voice and growl it to her.
BOP
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@ClemShady #appliancerepairwhileyouwait