Adult children paying rent
- Thread starter Dedee
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sorry, just saw that.
Cowgirl
Well-Known Member
Are you replying to me? What does the average apartment down there go for? $900? That's how much she's been saving them each month. She can always kick them out. Would that be better?
libertytyranny
Dream Stealer
MDTerps
Back in the saddle
I was 19 living at home with my mom and step father. I paid her each month I don't recall the amout. I would go to the store and buy things for the house.
When I moved back in with 5 years ago during my divorce I paid $400.00 a month. I was only there a few days a week and everyother weekend. I again brought food and other supplies for the house and I had my own bathroom so I kept that stocked myself. This time around I was also supporting my own child.
If I had to move back in today I would pay her, and probably more then I did 5 years ago. I don't expect my parents to support me. I'm a 32 year old with 2 kids I should be able to take care of me and my own. But there are times when help is need from your parents. Just do over do your welcome.
Velocity26
New Member
reward mediocrity
Applauding $9-10.00/hr wages is not encouraging anyone to do better. Hope they like having the kids live at home...
getbent
Thats how them b*tch's R
I guess either way they are screwed. If they pay her or rent something either way they will no longer have money for a house. She came out of the blue and told them not asked for money. She could have went about it another way. I feel for them cause I know what its like to scrap by while trying to save money.
MissKitty
New Member
Are you on Gov't Assistance?
I'm not the parent, I was that adult child........house rules for me were pay rent in addition to several rules that weren't unreasonable.
Rent $50 wk plus my share of any bills they didn't have but I wanted.
Things like cable or internet service, if they didn't need/want it, were paid by me but food and their existing utilities were included.
Rules:
home by 2A
call if not coming home or late
keep room and bathroom clean
do own laundry
be helpful with chores (cut grass, dust, something to contribute to upkeep)
saving/checking accounts monitored by a parent
This (even when I was younger) is not unreasonable to me and I'll have the same rules for my children when the time comes. It absolutely made an impression that life is not free and a perspective on how much more $$ it was going to cost to be on my own.
AND the nice surprise in the end was, they gave it all back to me when I moved out. I didn't know they were going to do it.
From this comment I would say that you are enabling them.
Sounds like this may have gotten out of hand and you're being taken advantage of.
Are they saving $$.
Do they do anything for you in return.
This should be give and take, doesn't sound like they're giving.
carie_47421
Yea Right
Lets back up here.....when I was 21 only making $10.00 an hour...I was living on my own, with a roomate. We each paid 400.00 / month in rent and split everything else. so YES $10.00 / Hr works just fine....some one said earlier...they need to adjust there life style! 10-11... / Hr way better than what most grown folks are getting. tell him or her to suck it up, move out and grow the helll up...this is whats wrong with this world
now...cut the cord already.
now...cut the cord already.tiltedangel
New Member
Applauding $9-10.00/hr wages is not encouraging anyone to do better. Hope they like having the kids live at home...
In todays world it is at least a job.....APPLAUD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
not all are fortunate enough to make 25 and 30 an hour...certainly if the workers that made 9 to 10 an hour didn't work..then you would have nowhere to shop or take your rich azz to lunch. All the ones that don't make money work at places you probably like to frequent. so in essence the government takes care of you, by over paying you.
I have a question.....from what I read.......
daughter works 9-5 and sends her child to daycare. Then she works again in the evenings and on weekends, we'll say 1-8hr Sat and 4hrs an evening.
You work all day (?), watch her child at night and on Sat.
This would mean you are working, cooking, cleaning, feeding and housing them both.
It sounds to me like your husband is dead on, life is not free nor easy.
What does you daughter do on off days to contribute to the household?
Basicly she's paying for daycare with her part time job so where is the rest of the money going.
Is she saving it?? I would want proof of that or she'd be out. Granted there's a grandchild but perhaps your daughter needs a reality check on how much you're doing for her.
daughter works 9-5 and sends her child to daycare. Then she works again in the evenings and on weekends, we'll say 1-8hr Sat and 4hrs an evening.
You work all day (?), watch her child at night and on Sat.
This would mean you are working, cooking, cleaning, feeding and housing them both.
It sounds to me like your husband is dead on, life is not free nor easy.
What does you daughter do on off days to contribute to the household?
Basicly she's paying for daycare with her part time job so where is the rest of the money going.
Is she saving it?? I would want proof of that or she'd be out. Granted there's a grandchild but perhaps your daughter needs a reality check on how much you're doing for her.
tiltedangel
New Member
Somehow i don't think it is a question of having her kids at home. They are her kids and she loves her kids i am sure. And hopefully she will follow her gut on this one and do what she feels is right. It's not like the kids never lived there before. To have something left after bills would be nice. maybe 100 a month from each. Put it away or have a nice night out on the kids.
This is true..BUT I wonder if the daughter is working so many hours to just get out of the house and away from responsibility.
kwillia
n/a
Huh? My 14 and 16 year old are expected do house work, yard work, and home improvements now so it would have absolutely no bearing on rent should they be in a position that leaves them having to stay in our house once they are graduated from high school.
tiltedangel
New Member
funny thing is...that is a real possibility. Which is probably the key. Make her pay for a baby sitter more. Mom and stepdad might just be getting burned out. After all they did already raise theirs. Or find out what a babysitter would charge and have her pay that to mom. Me thinks you got something there...
Times change, I guess. When I turned 18, the very first thing I did was get my own place. Couldn't imagine living with my Mom while trying to become a grown-up person instead of a kid with a curfew. Had a roommate, we split everything, were poor, but that's okay because we had our own apartment like big girls and it was cool. 
I can't imagine adult children who would want to live with Mommy and Daddy. You'd think it would cramp their style.
I can't imagine adult children who would want to live with Mommy and Daddy. You'd think it would cramp their style.
bobbyb
New Member
As long as they (3 boys) were in school of any kind we let them stay at home free but when they stopped school or graduated then they had to pay rent. We charged them "fake Rent" but they had no idea it was fake, and bought the kids stuff with the money when they moved into their own place. It really helped them out.
libertytyranny
Dream Stealer
Those are fantastic jobs for teenagers or those working their way through college..not adults with children.
If this truely is the situation I would require they pay 100 per week min, for the 3 of them. I would HELP with sitting but not make it a priority and I would require proof (bank statement) of them saving.
I know someone in this situation. The mother/father are never home, always saying have to work. They don't contribute $$ in any way for food, electric, rent, ect. Nor do they contribute to household chores, as they're never home. The initial plan was husband/wife and baby would move in for one year and save $$ to go out on own. One year has become two years and are now saying they still need to save more. Of course noone knows how much has actually been saved to date.