Adult children paying rent

[jaie]

I had moved in with my Grandparents a few years back. I was there for a while and gave them $150 every 2 weeks and got my own food. If they happend to pick up something for me or my child at the store I gave them money for it.

 

[MissKitty]

Huh? My 14 and 16 year old are expected do house work, yard work, and home improvements now so it would have absolutely no bearing on rent should they be in a position that leaves them having to stay in our house once they are graduated from high school.

 

[MissKitty]

After all they did already raise theirs.

And hopefully right where they are not still bumming off of M&D.

 

[kwillia]

M replaced an electrical socket for me yesterday. His first... and completely on his own. When he turned the power back on and it worked perfectly he grinned and gave me a, "Who da man?"

 

[tiltedangel]

If this truely is the situation I would require they pay 100 per week min, for the 3 of them. I would HELP with sitting but not make it a priority and I would require proof (bank statement) of them saving.

I know someone in this situation. The mother/father are never home, always saying have to work. They don't contribute $$ in any way for food, electric, rent, ect. Nor do they contribute to household chores, as they're never home. The initial plan was husband/wife and baby would move in for one year and save $$ to go out on own. One year has become two years and are now saying they still need to save more. Of course noone knows how much has actually been saved to date.

now that is just taking full advantage of the parents, and that is sad. Truth be known they probably haven't saved anything. They are playing while mom and dad struggle with bills and child care. By now the baby probably thinks as grandma as mommy.

 

[MissKitty]

M replaced an electrical socket for me yesterday. His first... and completely on his own. When he turned the power back on and it worked perfectly he grinned and gave me a, "Who da man?"

Call me when he starts reupholstering furniture and sewing.

 

[SoccerMom2]

I had to pay bills at the age of 16. I paid phone and cable and bought $200 in groceries every month. Not to mention i paid for my car insurance , gas and clothes. I say if your 18 and you live at home you need to pay something.

 

[carie_47421]

Fake rent is STUPID! there is no such thing as "Fake Rent" in the real world....so why do it? thats like I'm going to pretend to pay my cell phone bill & maybe they will let it stay on....NOT

 

[vraiblonde]

Fake rent is STUPID! there is no such thing as "Fake Rent" in the real world....so why do it? thats like I'm going to pretend to pay my cell phone bill & maybe they will let it stay on....NOT

You're just not really in the spirit of this whole nurturing thing, are you?

I actually paid rent when I got my first job at 14. Yep. We were dirt friggin' poor and my Ma needed the money. So I kicked in like $25 a month or something like that. Then it got raised up to $50 a month when I was was older and working regularly. After I graduated high school, I was paying almost half the rent on our apartment.

It's amazing I turned out as good as I did, with that mean witch who "raised" me.

 

[lovinmaryland]

You're just not really in the spirit of this whole nurturing thing, are you?

I actually paid rent when I got my first job at 14. Yep. We were dirt friggin' poor and my Ma needed the money. So I kicked in like $25 a month or something like that. Then it got raised up to $50 a month when I was was older and working regularly. After I graduated high school, I was paying almost half the rent on our apartment.

It's amazing I turned out as good as I did, with that mean witch who "raised" me.

Did you walk to work or did your parents drive you? I was just discussing this w/ my oldest the other day... If he expects to use my veh or have be drive him to and from his job he can kick down some gas $ I am a mean mommy

 

[vraiblonde]

Did you walk to work or did your parents drive you? I was just discussing this w/ my oldest the other day... If he expects to use my veh or have be drive him to and from his job he can kick down some gas $ I am a mean mommy

Lincoln is a great transportation town, with bike paths all over the city and a very good bus system. I rode my bike, mostly, but when it was bad weather I took the bus. Sometimes I caught a ride with a co-worker and kicked in for gas.

I've been independent since I was very young, which is why I can go anywhere and do anything without being scared or insecure. I know I can take care of myself. My Mom feels some guilt about that, but she actually gave me a great gift.

 

[carie_47421]

I completly agree with u V

 

[Dye Tied]

You're just not really in the spirit of this whole nurturing thing, are you?

I actually paid rent when I got my first job at 14. Yep. We were dirt friggin' poor and my Ma needed the money. So I kicked in like $25 a month or something like that. Then it got raised up to $50 a month when I was was older and working regularly. After I graduated high school, I was paying almost half the rent on our apartment.

It's amazing I turned out as good as I did, with that mean witch who "raised" me.

been out since I was barely 16. Have means, will travel

 

[hotmomma]

Just don't get taken advantage of. Your husband may feel that is whats going on and no one likes that. They may not have plans of moving out on their own if they do not think they need to. You have raised your children and it is time to have quality time with your husband. Nothing wrong with helping them out but they may get comfortable with the living condition and not feel a need to go anywhere.

 

[CalvertNewbie]

As long as they (3 boys) were in school of any kind we let them stay at home free but when they stopped school or graduated then they had to pay rent. We charged them "fake Rent" but they had no idea it was fake, and bought the kids stuff with the money when they moved into their own place. It really helped them out.

That was the deal for my brother & I also, no rent payment while in school. I guess it was their way of encouraging us to go to college because neither one of us exactly loved school. We had to pay for car insurance, car payments, phone bill, clothes, going out, etc. We also did a lot around the house/yard.

If our cars needed repairs & we were short on money, my parents paid for the repair & we paid them back on payday. There were quite a few times that they'd say, "oh don't worry about paying us back" but they raised us both better than that. We always paid them back, even if it meant slipping the money into Dad's wallet. To this day, my brother & I are both very responsible financially. Although I didn't like paying rent then, I appreciate it now. Parents who allow their adult children to freeload aren't doing them any favors in the long run.

 

[Godblesdon1218]

How

Huh? My 14 and 16 year old are expected do house work, yard work, and home improvements now so it would have absolutely no bearing on rent should they be in a position that leaves them having to stay in our house once they are graduated from high school.

I have a problem with getting my son to do things around the house because he works full time and I only work part time and take care of a 7 month old w/ disabilities. He feels as though he should not have to do any yard work or clean because he pays 100.00 per week. I pay the remainder of the rent, utilities, cable etc. I don't mind cooking and cleaning but I hate yard work.

 

[DoWhat]

Family.

 

[Godblesdon1218]

Im Not

What are you getting pissy about? I am all for a helping hand.

I am not getting pissy, sorry if it sounded like that , I am just very blunt

 

[getbent]

Huh? My 14 and 16 year old are expected do house work, yard work, and home improvements now so it would have absolutely no bearing on rent should they be in a position that leaves them having to stay in our house once they are graduated from high school.

They live in one of those in-law apts on her property so they pay their own utilities, groceries etc. They only ask her to put the kids on the bus and babysit for an occasional date night. They do everything else as far as home/yard care. The original agreement was no rent in exchange for help around the property. I guess they are mostly upset she came out of nowhere and didn't try to sit down with them. She made them feel like it's their fault she needs money. I agree kids should pay rent if living at home but it should definitely be laid out at the beginning.

 

[oldman]

As a young guy I worked for 75 cents an hour during the summer when school was out. If I remember correctly, Mom made me pay $30 a month rent during those times. Gave me a very strong sense of how to manage money that I've followed all my life.