Adult children paying rent

[Godblesdon1218]

As a young guy I worked for 75 cents an hour during the summer when school was out. If I remember correctly, Mom made me pay $30 a month rent during those times. Gave me a very strong sense of how to manage money that I've followed all my life.

now that is a great son. My father passed away last year, but when he was 17, his father died. He had to take care of his mother and 6 sisters. He did it by working in the Navy Yard in the 1930"s and later went on to marry my mother and have 10 kids. He was the best provider. Sent us all to Catholic Schools. He was in the army and air force. I hope my son turns out like my father. My dad was like a father to my 17 year old son. I am glad that my son inherited some of his qualities. To the mother who is having problems, please talk to your child and if he/she is so selfish that they cant AT LEAST OFFER SOMETHING, THEN I WOULD LET THE hUSBAND DEAL WITH IT.( Keep hitting cap locks )----sorry

 

[kom526]

What are you getting pissy about? I am all for a helping hand.

Too damned stupid to realize that welfare was meant as a hand up, not a hand out.

Too many people see it as the latter and THAT is why there is generational poverty, pure unadulterated laziness perpetuated by parents who are willing to let their adult children walk all over them.

 

[kom526]

I have a problem with getting my son to do things around the house because he works full time and I only work part time and take care of a 7 month old w/ disabilities. He feels as though he should not have to do any yard work or clean because he pays 100.00 per week. I pay the remainder of the rent, utilities, cable etc. I don't mind cooking and cleaning but I hate yard work.

You need to tell that sorry sack o' shiat that there a PLENTY of people in this world that have full time jobs and still manage to cut grass, clean house, cook dinner, raise kids, coach soccer and volunteer in the community. I suggest you find some testicular fortitude and tell him the gravy train is going to grind to a halt if he doesn't start acting like a freaking adult.

Q>>> Jeezus Key-Rist how do people expect to raise responsible members of society while bottle feeding them into their twenties!?


A>>> I know! I'll ask people on the interwebs how to raise my kids!

 

[Godblesdon1218]

I think that is exactly what I will do. Thank you for the advice. How do you feel about charging child for gas money since I get up with the baby every morning and we drive him to work? Is that going overboard?

 

[happy_bee4]

A friend of mine had to start paying a small amount of rent after we graduated from high school. She lived with her parents until she bought her own place, at which time her parents gave her the keys to the fat bank account they'd been saving her "rent" money in. I always wished my parents had made me pay fake rent.

That is a really good idea! I'm going to have to remember that in about 13 years!!

 

[HeavyChevy75]

I think that is exactly what I will do. Thank you for the advice. How do you feel about charging child for gas money since I get up with the baby every morning and we drive him to work? Is that going overboard?

No that is not overboard at all. Let him take a taxi or ride a bike to work if he doesnt want to pay. Mom's taxi service costs something.

 

[acommondisaster]

So, back to the OP's original question. Nothing's been said about whether the daughter receives child support for the baby. If she doesn't, she should be pursuing that. And if and when she gets it, you should raise her rent accordingly.

I feel like we've raised a whole generation of "kids" who we wanted to be "friends" with, instead of parents to. They should both definitely be paying rent. Your food bills, your utilities are all higher because they are living there so they should be contributing. It's a shame you have to ask.

Making them pay any amount will start them on the road to more responsibility, even if it's nothing more than $25 a week. You know what they make and what they can afford - make it in line with that. Your daughter should pay more because there are two of them.

The whole "putting it into an account and giving it back to them later" is a nice idea, but frankly, you are paying for them to live there, and if they think they'll be getting it back, there's a pretty good chance they won't pay you. If you don't feel good about taking their money, put what they pay you back into the house - a new appliance, a new piece of furniture, whatever - that everyone can use.

I think there should be consequences for not paying you - like putting a lock on the electrical panel and turning off the power to their room/bathroom when they don't pay. They need to start finding out NOW what it's like in the real world, even if it is on a smaller scale.

I hope that you don't have ask them for help around the house - as adults they should already know what needs to be done and be doing it. But if they haven't already offered to kick in some rent money, I'll bet they're deadbeats when it comes to helping out, too.

 

[Roberta]

That is a really good idea! I'm going to have to remember that in about 13 years!!

A friend of mine had to start paying a small amount of rent after we graduated from high school. She lived with her parents until she bought her own place, at which time her parents gave her the keys to the fat bank account they'd been saving her "rent" money in. I always wished my parents had made me pay fake rent.

That is just wrong. It sends mixed messages. They will think they can do anything and Mom and Dad with have their back. Not a good idea.

 

[SoccerMom2]

If you are an adult then you need to be paying your own bills! Living at home doesn't mean free rent. Parents only are responsible financially til you are 18.Hubby and I agreed if our kids want to stay living with us when they are 18 and graduated from high school they have to pay rent. Rent will be more if they are not in college.

 

[vraiblonde]

I think that if you want your kids to pay rent, you should make them pay rent.

If you want them to get out of the house and on their own, you should throw them out.

Not sure why anyone else's opinion should matter. They're your kids.

 

[K_Jo]

That is just wrong. It sends mixed messages. They will think they can do anything and Mom and Dad with have their back. Not a good idea.

You're right. My friend was really disappointed when she sold her first house and the mortgage company didn't give her all her money back. She assumed she'd been paying "fake mortgage."

 

[Otter]

been out since I was barely 16. Have means, will travel

Was that when you joined the circus?

 

[Dye Tied]

Was that when you joined the circus?

Yes, with the daring young men on the flying trapeze!

 

[BadGirl]

I want my three year old to pay rent now. No sense in making him wait till he's 18, right? I could use the money now anyway. It's not like Matchbox cars and Juicy Juice boxes are cheap nowadays.

 

[K_Jo]

I want my three year old to pay rent now. No sense in making him wait till he's 18, right? I could use the money now anyway. It's not like Matchbox cars and Juicy Juice boxes are cheap nowadays.

You mean you haven't been making him pay rent all this time? He's in for a rude awakening in a decade and a half!

 

[vraiblonde]

I want my three year old to pay rent now. No sense in making him wait till he's 18, right? I could use the money now anyway. It's not like Matchbox cars and Juicy Juice boxes are cheap nowadays.

Little moochers just think stuff grows on trees. Good to wise them up early.

 

[BadGirl]

Little moochers just think stuff grows on trees. Good to wise them up early.

Can you believe that he wants ME to pay for his damn daycare?!?!?! Un-freakin'-believable.

I wish he'd get a damn job.

 

[Velocity26]

I think that is exactly what I will do. Thank you for the advice. How do you feel about charging child for gas money since I get up with the baby every morning and we drive him to work? Is that going overboard?

You're too stupid to have procreated. Please refrain from doing it again. TIA.

 

[Velocity26]

In todays world it is at least a job.....APPLAUD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
not all are fortunate enough to make 25 and 30 an hour...certainly if the workers that made 9 to 10 an hour didn't work..then you would have nowhere to shop or take your rich azz to lunch. All the ones that don't make money work at places you probably like to frequent. so in essence the government takes care of you, by over paying you.

1. $9.00-10.00 hour jobs are for kids in high school or college. Not adults with kids as another poster said.
2. I am not rich.
3. The govt. does NOT take care of me.
4. I do not work for the govt.

 

[Cowgirl]

You're too stupid to have procreated. Please refrain from doing it again. TIA.

Glad to see the "be nicer" thing is working for ya.