Am I a sociopath?

[mv_princess]

I agree. Don't worry be happy.

So if something happens to your neighbor, remember you can't be sad, it wasn't you. Or if something happened to someone on here, remember you can't be sad it wasn't you.

 

[Thor]

So if something happens to your neighbor, remember you can't be sad, it wasn't you. Or if something happened to someone on here, remember you can't be sad it wasn't you.

Now you misunderstand what I said.

I am emotionally invested in my neighbor. As far as the folks on the boards go probably wouldn't bother me if someone bought the farm. I don't know you folks well enough to be emotionally invested in you.

 

[slotted]

Sad that for all the social advances we proclaim, humans are generally the same as they were shortly after creation.

You know that I don't believe in creation, but I was wondering if you've ever read "Ishmael" by Daniel Quinn.

 

[vraiblonde]

You are good at what is known as "compartmentalizing".

As am I. After all, if all those things were to affect one too greatly life would be nothing but depression as one blast of sadness hit, and then another, then another.

There ya go

There's only so much grieving a person can do. If you're going to get worked up over every stranger who gets killed or has something bad happen to them - Jeesh, you'll be depressed every waking second. I tend to save it for people I know.

 

[Kain99]

No, I don't feel obligated to cry, show sorrow or light a candle. When I grieve, NOBODY can assist me. NOBODY can make it better for me. So I do it privately and request no assistance.

This is a very "telling" sentence.

 

[hvp05]

I don't know you folks well enough to be emotionally invested in you.

This is thought provoking.

Would you say that, once you do become "emotionally invested" in someone, your bond is almost always long-term?

I know I am that way. I am introverted and selective and, thus don't have many true friends, but once I form a friendship with someone it tends to be a deep bond that lasts for years. As opposed to people that make countless superficial "friends" and hardly ever get to know anyone deeply.

 

[Thor]

This is thought provoking.

Would you say that, once you do become "emotionally invested" in someone, your bond is almost always long-term?

I know I am that way. I am introverted and selective and, thus don't have many true friends, but once I form a friendship with someone it tends to be a deep bond that lasts for years. As opposed to people that make countless superficial "friends" and hardly ever get to know anyone deeply.

Oh absolutely. Once I know and trust someone I will do pretty much anything for that person and that bond will last for a very very long time. But I don't give that trust easily.

 

[hvp05]

There's only so much grieving a person can do.

This reminds me of the "Seinfeld" (aired just a few nights ago, actually) where Jerry's girlfriend cried over every minor thing - like her hot dog or broken boot lace, but when her grandmother died she simply shrugged it off.

 

[Redskinsmama]

question. when you hear of a child being molested and killed, do you feel sad by this? i'm just amazed that someone could lack the capacity to harbor feelings of compassion.

 

[Thor]

question. when you hear of a child being molested and killed, do you feel sad by this? i'm just amazed that someone could lack the capacity to harbor feelings of compassion.

kids are the one area that does get me. especially if they are the same age as mine.

 

[pingrr]

Now you misunderstand what I said.

As far as the folks on the boards go probably wouldn't bother me if someone bought the farm. I don't know you folks well enough to be emotionally invested in you.

I know what you mean there are a couple people on here that I would like to see bite the farm.

 

[vraiblonde]

question. when you hear of a child being molested and killed, do you feel sad by this?

I feel sad but I don't dwell on it or internalize it. Most of the time I avoid reading those stories in the first place.

 

[Redskinsmama]

i have an uncle that is the exact same way as you. shows no emotion EVER until he is around a child or is stricken with tragedy himself. you don't have to grieve if you don't want to, and i agree that the media is going overboard, but those students had their lives taken from them so selfishly and IMO, deserve sympathy and respect. i look at it this way, that gunman could be anywhere, it could be a person in your office, and what if that happened to you? i would hope that condolensces would be given on behalf of myself and my family. i've had a lot of people close to me pass away, and maybe that's why i feel different, but it made a world of difference when people i didn't know had the compassion to let me know i was in their prayers.

 

[hvp05]

kids are the one area that does get me. especially if they are the same age as mine.

Yeah, because they are vulnerable.

To use the hurricane example again: If 1,000 adults were killed due to a hurricane I would ask, "Why didn't they leave?" But if 1,000 children were killed I would immediately feel sympathy first and ask questions later.

 

[Redskinsmama]

Yeah, because they are vulnerable.

To use the hurricane example again: If 1,000 adults were killed due to a hurricane I would ask, "Why didn't they leave?" But if 1,000 children were killed I would immediately feel sympathy first and ask questions later.

the college students were vulnerable to the gunman. they had no clue, not like they were given warning to not attend their classes. they were getting an education and were stripped of their safety and lives. that's about as vulnerable as you can get.

 

[Thor]

the college students were vulnerable to the gunman. they had no clue, not like they were given warning to not attend their classes. they were getting an education and were stripped of their safety and lives. that's about as vulnerable as you can get.

they were adults. wrong place wrong time, life sucks, get over it.

 

[Redskinsmama]

they were adults. wrong place wrong time, life sucks, get over it.

a life is a life whether your 5 or 80. A child lost a mother/father...do you feel for the child that is without a parent? or is it just a kid getting hurt/killed that touches you

 

[hvp05]

that's about as vulnerable as you can get.

Not quite. A 19 year old college student (so presumably not an idiot) should generally be more aware, cautious and knowledgeable about the world than, say, a 5 year old.

They at least had a chance to protect themselves and possibly even do something to stop the gunman. Whereas a 5 year old who is approached by a grown man looking to molest that child will likely have little hope of escape.

 

[Redskinsmama]

Not quite. A 19 year old college student (so presumably not an idiot) should generally be more aware, cautious and knowledgeable about the world than, say, a 5 year old.

They at least had a chance to protect themselves and possibly even do something to stop the gunman. Whereas a 5 year old who is approached by a grown man looking to molest that child will likely have little hope of escape.

if a gunman walked into your room right now, would you not be vulnerable?

they don't teach a course at college for what do you when a psycho comes on campus and shoots up the place. i see the point your making obviously, but i would say that having an armed man shooting at unarmed individuals is just as vulnerable situation as the latter.

 

[Redskinsmama]

I don;t have a kid. So could care less if some other dumb kid gets hurt

thank you lord for granting me a soul. you know i've seen it on here many times how heartless people can be on here, but jeez, have a heart!