Anyone have any advice

[wiggly]

First off wanted to say hi I am new...

Now I have a 2 yr old son (turned 2 the 16th of January) he was very sick about a month ago and I kept him with me day and night to moniter his temp. and also to give him his medicine. Since then he gets up in the middle of the night and wants to sleep with me. Here this past week he knows he cant get into Mommys bed so I wake to find him on the couch anyone have any suggestions on how to get him to stay in his bed? TIA

 

[mAlice]

Put one of those thingies on the door knob so he can't open it.

http://www.totsafe.com/proddetail.asp?prod=6382&cat=3

 

[suzeQ]

First off wanted to say hi I am new...

Now I have a 2 yr old son (turned 2 the 16th of January) he was very sick about a month ago and I kept him with me day and night to moniter his temp. and also to give him his medicine. Since then he gets up in the middle of the night and wants to sleep with me. Here this past week he knows he cant get into Mommys bed so I wake to find him on the couch anyone have any suggestions on how to get him to stay in his bed? TIA

Wiggly,

He sounds like a smart enough kid, if he is going along with the 'don't get in Mommy's bed,' but going to the couch. I would try talking/reasoning with him. Often if you treat a child with intelligence, they will rise to the occasion. Find out why he doesn't want to sleep in his own bed. Maybe he relates the illness to his bed. Does he have flannel sheets? If not, I highly recommend them. They are so warm and cozy, it might be enough to keep him in bed.

Make sure and praise him when he stays in his own bed and try not to make a big deal of it if he ends up on the couch. I can understand why you don't want him in your bed every night, but make sure he knows (maybe explain when this is all over) that if he needs you in the middle of the night, he can wake you.

Good luck.

 

[wiggly]

Put one of those thingies on the door knob so he can't open it.

http://www.totsafe.com/proddetail.asp?prod=6382&cat=3

sorry had to change my user name... thanks but I have tried those and he knows how to take them off.

 

[mAlice]

Wiggly,

He sounds like a smart enough kid, if he is going along with the 'don't get in Mommy's bed,' but going to the couch. I would try talking/reasoning with him. Often if you treat a child with intelligence, they will rise to the occasion. Find out why he doesn't want to sleep in his own bed. Maybe he relates the illness to his bed. Does he have flannel sheets? If not, I highly recommend them. They are so warm and cozy, it might be enough to keep him in bed.

Make sure and praise him when he stays in his own bed and try not to make a big deal of it if he ends up on the couch. I can understand why you don't want him in your bed every night, but make sure he knows (maybe explain when this is all over) that if he needs you in the middle of the night, he can wake you.

Good luck.

Somebody catch that flying eyeball, will ya'?

 

[wiggly]

Wiggly,

He sounds like a smart enough kid, if he is going along with the 'don't get in Mommy's bed,' but going to the couch. I would try talking/reasoning with him. Often if you treat a child with intelligence, they will rise to the occasion. Find out why he doesn't want to sleep in his own bed. Maybe he relates the illness to his bed. Does he have flannel sheets? If not, I highly recommend them. They are so warm and cozy, it might be enough to keep him in bed.

Make sure and praise him when he stays in his own bed and try not to make a big deal of it if he ends up on the couch. I can understand why you don't want him in your bed every night, but make sure he knows (maybe explain when this is all over) that if he needs you in the middle of the night, he can wake you.

Good luck.

I dont think it is his bed, when he gets out of it he carries his spiderman blanket with him. On New Years eve I took his pacifiers away. Then 2 days later that is when he got sick. At first I thought it was the pacifier but he only screams for that when we are in the truck and he is tired. He is very smart, and when he wakes up in the middle of the night I do put him in his bed and tell him that is where he is supposed to sleep. Those are the nights that he stays in his bed, and comes to me at 4:00am.

 

[huntr1]

Why worry about it? My boy will get up in the middle of the night and go sleep on the couch sometimes. I have no worries about it.

 

[wiggly]

Why worry about it? My boy will get up in the middle of the night and go sleep on the couch sometimes. I have no worries about it.

Im starting to think that to. I just can not sleep with him. He snores like a grown man. I guess as long as he is smart enough to cover himself up he will be fine.

 

[AC/DC]

Im starting to think that to. I just can not sleep with him. He snores like a grown man. I guess as long as he is smart enough to cover himself up he will be fine.

As an adult, you shouldn't be sleeping with the boy anyway, regardless if he snores or not.

 

[RoseRed]

Im starting to think that to. I just can not sleep with him. He snores like a grown man. I guess as long as he is smart enough to cover himself up he will be fine.

Maybe you should have his snoring checked out. Could be sleep apnea.

 

[suzeQ]

I don't see anything wrong with sleeping with your child in circumstances such as this. She said her son was very ill and she slept with him to keep an eye on his fever and administer medicines. In some cultures children sleep with the parents for years. Don't you remember 'The Family Bed' theory? While mine didn't sleep with me on a regular basis, my bed was always available to them if they needed the comfort.

 

[wiggly]

As an adult, you shouldn't be sleeping with the boy anyway, regardless if he snores or not.

Well I dont think that is entirely true. I have known people that had their kids sleeping in the bed with them and they didnt sleep in their own bed until they were 10. He has his own bed, and that is where he has slept since he was born.

 

[jwwb2000]

My 4 year old daughter will still come and crawl in bed with us at night. She will carry her panda bear and a blanket with her. It is a pain when she does this!!!

 

[wiggly]

Maybe you should have his snoring checked out. Could be sleep apnea.

I have told his doctor about his snoring and we keep his humidifier on in his room, another reason why he sleeps in his own bed.

 

[pixiegirl]

My kid will never ever fell as if they can't come to me whenever he needs me and that includes the middle of the night. I put him to sleep in his own bed and thank God these days he falls asleep there just fine. Occasionally he will wake in the middle of the night and come get in bed with me. As long as it's a not a nightly occurance I don't see a problem with it. I don't remember what it's like being a 3 year old but I can only imagine that waking in the middle of the night is frightning and overwhelming. I don't want him to fell like he can't come to me if he needs me.

Locking a child in their room is cruel! Waking to the point of not being able to fall back to sleep on their own is not a normal behavior and locking a child in their room to prevent them from getting to you is disgusting. They are children and sometimes children need their parents at inconvienent hours.

I don't coddle my son at all. If anything I expect more from him then most parents. But if the day ever comes when I feel like I should lock my kid in his own room then that's the day I shouldn't be a parent.

 

[wiggly]

I dont lock my kid in his room I tried the door knob things on my room that I have things that he shouldnt be playing with. Also I do let him come in my bed, after we have tried all other solutions. But him getting out of his bed has become a nightly occurance.

 

[mAlice]

My kid will never ever fell as if they can't come to me whenever he needs me and that includes the middle of the night. I put him to sleep in his own bed and thank God these days he falls asleep there just fine. Occasionally he will wake in the middle of the night and come get in bed with me. As long as it's a not a nightly occurance I don't see a problem with it. I don't remember what it's like being a 3 year old but I can only imagine that waking in the middle of the night is frightning and overwhelming. I don't want him to fell like he can't come to me if he needs me.

Locking a child in their room is cruel! Waking to the point of not being able to fall back to sleep on their own is not a normal behavior and locking a child in their room to prevent them from getting to you is disgusting. They are children and sometimes children need their parents at inconvienent hours.

I don't coddle my son at all. If anything I expect more from him then most parents. But if the day ever comes when I feel like I should lock my kid in his own room then that's the day I shouldn't be a parent.

You don't know the circumstances, and I'm not compelled to explain them.

 

[pixiegirl]

You don't know the circumstances, and I'm not compelled to explain them.

If you're not compelled to explain your reasoning behind your choice then you should probably not give an opinion.

Now if there are circumstances in which say a child sleep walks and puts themselves in danger then there of course would be an exception. But if the case is just a child waking in the middle of the night and going straight to the parents room or to a couch then in my opinion it's cruel to lock a child in.

 

[mAlice]

If you're not compelled to explain your reasoning behind your choice then you should probably not give an opinion.

Now if there are circumstances in which say a child sleep walks and puts themselves in danger then there of course would be an exception. But if the case is just a child waking in the middle of the night and going straight to the parents room or to a couch then in my opinion it's cruel to lock a child in.

So, you think it's safe for a 2 year old to wander around the house in the wee hours of the night unsupervised?

 

[pixiegirl]

So, you think it's safe for a 2 year old to wander around the house in the wee hours of the night unsupervised?

Did you read what I wrote? I said if the child sleep walks then there should be an exception to the rule. If the child occasionally wakes and goes directly to the parents room or even a couch without wandering the house in the process then they should not be locked in their room.