The concept of the IUD is nice ... worry-free, long-term BC.
I had Mirena for about 5 months then had it removed because I was having screwey cycles (2 weeks on, 2 weeks off, 2 weeks on ...) but that doesn't mean it would happen with you. Otherwise, it was great. Insertion was a bit painful though.
I will say that most ob/gyn's are hesitant to insert an IUD if you have not already had children and/or are married for a couple of reasons ... it's meant to be a long-term (couple years) solutions ... and it's somewhat difficult/painful to have your cervix dialated if you've not borne children previously. I'd had a c-section with DQ, and when I had Mirena inserted, the GYN said I had a cervix like Fort Knox.
... also, while you may not be one of them, you have a lot of young twits out there who confuse birth control with STD-protection.
Now, I also have done (and currently use) the nuvaring and have no side effects, my cycles are normal, and it's almost worry-free (once every 3 weeks isn't bad compared to a pill daily). But that's only until I have my tubes snipped, tied, burned, etc. here in another month or so.
It's hard enough trying to find a place that doesn't get rubbed by pants, bra, etc...you're being too picky. You should feel lucky that the woman is willing to go through that crap (BC) to make both of your lives easier. Geesh... isn't a patch on the butt better than a condom?
The differences between people aren't really good. Maybe I will just stick with my Ring.
I'm snipped. You could use me until you're ready to have kids, then dump me. We just have to figure out how to sell my wife on this plan.
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