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janey83 said:
Oh cry me a river. You will get zero sympathy from most of us that have worked 40+ PROFESSIONAL jobs not some college-student-a-trained-monkey-could-do-it-job such as working at the student union or something like that. We also have houses and families. I didn't have the luxury of my mommy & daddy supporting me while I went to college right after high school.
And FYI..I am taking a full course load during my semesters and working my full time PROFESSIONAL job. My mortgage, car, lights, groceries, and etc. still has to get paid!
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DoWhat said:
I am not that shallow, and I hadn't planned on going back to school full-time but that is the way it happened.
janey83
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I never said I had it worse than anyone, just saying that I'm tired of people thinking that college is so easy and carefree. That's like me saying high school is a breeze, eventhough that's one of the hardest things to go through in life -- not the work, but the pressures and uncertainty of everything. I'm at a stage in my life where I have no idea what or where I'll be in a year, or even 6 months from now. I wish I had some kind of certainty -- I know so many people my age right now who are engaged, married or expecting kids; and that could be me in a year, who knows. I might stay here and find a job, or I might move. And there's a whole heck of a lot of pressure right now, b/c my graduation party for January is being planned *right now*, which means I better graduate by December or else. :shrug:
JabbaJawz
Be about it
janey83 said:
I went to school full-time while working full time. It's really not that big of a deal if you manage your time wisely. Oh...and I also had a child most of the time I was doing that, but that's really irrelevant.
You should be thankful for the opportunity to go away to college and experience dorm life. Some people don't, and there are so many more pros than cons.
janey83
Twenty Something
JabbaJawz said:Pressure from a graduation party?Try pressure from a mortgage, or deadline at work, etc... Why are you making such a big deal, and what makes you think you won't graduate by December?
:shrug: B/c hardly anyone in my extended family has finished college (a grand total of 2) and I'm the first girl in my immediate family to go to college. I'm scared of not finding a job, not being able to support myself...I know so many people my age who would agree with me on this, and how this is stressful, but anyone who is 5yrs + up older than me just wants to write it off as some silly girl who worries about nothing. Well these are real issues, excuse me.
JabbaJawz
Be about it
janey83 said:
Guess what...I'm the one and only grandchild or great-grandchild in my family to have a college education, and there are TONS of us. Out of the nine aunts/uncles on one side, and 4 on the other - only 2 out of the 13 have college degrees. It's great that you've decided to further your education, but why do you think you're extra special b/c of it? It's really just the right thing to do. Not completely relevant, but anyway...it reminds me of the Chris Rock special where he talks about men who are not with their child's mothers and go on and on saying, "I take care of my kids!!! I pay my bills!!" Well no crap, a-hole...you're supposed to do that!
janey83 said:
You are so self-centered and out of touch with the real world. Really, you are.
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czygvtwkr
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I know 5 years seems like a long time now, but once you get out of college it goes by in the blink of an eye.
You should be enjoying college not stressing out over silly things.
Finding a job, thats something you should think about from choosing your major while your still in high school. If your degree is in liberal arts just practicing saying "do you want fries with that?" and you will be fine. Honestly start looking atleast 6 months before you graduate, in my last semester I had 15 on campus interviews that lead to 5 on site interviews and 7 on site interviews that I got on my own from checkout out websites of various employers. Moral of this story is visit your colleges career services center they want to help you get a job because it makes them look good.
Really if stuff like this bothers you that much you will want to carefully choose a job, work stress is far greater than anything I went through in high school, undergrad, and graduate school thats why I so fondly look back on those days and am considering going to law school or going back for my PhD.
You should be enjoying college not stressing out over silly things.
Finding a job, thats something you should think about from choosing your major while your still in high school. If your degree is in liberal arts just practicing saying "do you want fries with that?" and you will be fine. Honestly start looking atleast 6 months before you graduate, in my last semester I had 15 on campus interviews that lead to 5 on site interviews and 7 on site interviews that I got on my own from checkout out websites of various employers. Moral of this story is visit your colleges career services center they want to help you get a job because it makes them look good.
Really if stuff like this bothers you that much you will want to carefully choose a job, work stress is far greater than anything I went through in high school, undergrad, and graduate school thats why I so fondly look back on those days and am considering going to law school or going back for my PhD.
truby20
Fighting like a girl
JabbaJawz said:
Why is everyone in such a hurry for Janey to evolve into the "real-world"? It just makes you bitter, depressed, and resentful of missed opportunities...(the above messages make this point). I finished college two years ago and became a cog very quickly, I still haven't lost all of the optimism I gained in college but working in a cube for 9+ hours a day doesn't help it.
Most of us went through the same fears you have Janey, not being able to finish in time, worrying about getting a job (much less one that you would actually enjoy), losing friends and becoming pretty close to 100% self reliant. Yes some people will never go through these feelings, they were forced to be totally self reliant years ago because of things beyond their control, but that doesn't make your feelings any less valid.
Hang in there, just make the most of your last semester, you will never be able to recreate the experience.
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janey83 said:
Same thing in my family, except my cousins didn't even graduate from high school and the main goal in their life was cranking out as many kids as they could. Last I knew my 33 year old cousin in up to 6, my 25 year old cousin is up to 5, and my 21 year cousin is at 8(he is a guy). OH and then my 28 year old cousin is doing time in jail for robbing a bank!
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DoWhat said:
Because I can. Also Janey was making it sound like she was so special because she is the only girl in her immediate family to graduate from college.
Chasey_Lane
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DoWhat, would you do the honors?truby20 said:Why is everyone in such a hurry for Janey to evolve into the "real-world"? It just makes you bitter, depressed, and resentful of missed opportunities...(the above messages make this point). I finished college two years ago and became a cog very quickly, I still haven't lost all of the optimism I gained in college but working in a cube for 9+ hours a day doesn't help it.
Most of us went through the same fears you have Janey, not being able to finish in time, worrying about getting a job (much less one that you would actually enjoy), losing friends and becoming pretty close to 100% self reliant. Yes some people will never go through these feelings, they were forced to be totally self reliant years ago because of things beyond their control, but that doesn't make your feelings any less valid.
Hang in there, just make the most of your last semester, you will never be able to recreate the experience.
Ponytail
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truby20 said:Why is everyone in such a hurry for Janey to evolve into the "real-world"? It just makes you bitter, depressed, and resentful of missed opportunities...(the above messages make this point). I finished college two years ago and became a cog very quickly, I still haven't lost all of the optimism I gained in college but working in a cube for 9+ hours a day doesn't help it.
Most of us went through the same fears you have Janey, not being able to finish in time, worrying about getting a job (much less one that you would actually enjoy), losing friends and becoming pretty close to 100% self reliant. Yes some people will never go through these feelings, they were forced to be totally self reliant years ago because of things beyond their control, but that doesn't make your feelings any less valid.
Hang in there, just make the most of your last semester, you will never be able to recreate the experience.
College is over rated. granted, life is what you make of it. I'm having more fun now than I ever did in college. Well, maybe not right this instant, but in general, I'm having more fun.
And I graduated college 9 years ago...and still paying off the loan. Refinancing is my friend. Life is a paymant plan. 