MMDad
Lem Putt
I doubt a jury would convict you, but if they did most judges wouldn't give you much time. Think about it - if you'd done it back when you wanted to, you'd be out of prison by now.
Could you forgive your cheating spouse?
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I doubt a jury would convict you, but if they did most judges wouldn't give you much time. Think about it - if you'd done it back when you wanted to, you'd be out of prison by now.
smoothmarine187
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checkingthenews
C'mon...Smile!
What if you caught your spouse cheating with their coworker? Could you forgive and forget with the two of them still working together? Would you make your spouse quit his/her job? Would you even bother trying to reconcile?
Hmmm, forgive, maybe...forget...NEVER!
godsbutterfly
Free to Fly
Good thing I didn't know you back when I was going thru everything - you probably could have easily encouraged me to act on my impulses!
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Roxy1104
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I wouldn't and didn't forgive my first or my second husband. I left them both without ever looking back. Especially my first -- I'm surprised his dk hasn't rotted and fallen off from all the women he's screwed (literally) over the years. We've been apart 23+ years now. My second husband, as much as it hurt, I left. I just could not trust him, plus there were other issues also. But I cried for years. He's dead now. Sometimes I wonder if I had stayed, he wouldn't have been where he was when he was, and that he would be alive today, because I never stopped loving him. But then I ask myself -- could I have survived ALL THOSE YEARS of abuse? The answer is NO. I have more self-respect than that.
Geek
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Roxy1104
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CRoyal
Infinite Impetus
If I were to get past it, (which I don't think would happen) he certainly wouldn't be working there anymore.
They say the workplace is the most likely place for a spouse to find 'another'
Lugnut
I'm Rick James #####!
jenbengen
Watch it
He couldn't outrun me to the police station. No way.
Geek
New Member
HOW MUCH RED DO YOU WANT???
I forgot to highlight the part where you said "he was dead now". They way you worded it was funny. Obviously I am not laughing at your pain. Well, now I am laughing at you. You can give me as much red as you can muster.
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ditto
Etred101
New Member
Good for you.
starsmom
New Member
I had this happen to me,kind of. I was dating my now husband and he used to go out with our supervisor. She got jealous that he had moved on to me and gave me the worst work to do,and came on to him. After we married,I stayed home,and was expecting our daughter,and she actually lifted her skirt while they were in a vehicle together - he was a driver - and that was the final straw. I was having a hard pregnancy and told them both that since I could not beat anyone's azz at 7 months pregnant,he had a choice to make. She was out of his life and so was that job,or I was leaving..too stressful. Long story short,he quit right then and there,and she is still 300 pounds and desperate. Saw her not too long ago on Match.com,someone we both knew forwarded me a link. I was so glad to see the massive weight gain and desperation!
Novus Collectus
New Member
Time ask about a threesome then.
theArtistFormerlyKnownAs
Well-Known Member
Good for you and Hubby.
She sounds like a sleez
anywho....I really don't think I could ever get past it if my SO cheated...I'm assuming we are counting cheating as sexing another person correct? I mean, how do you people feel if it isn't QUITE that? HMMMM
If that trust barrier is broken, that is a special thing we have and I don't think I could continue on.
For the record...the once a cheater, always a cheater argument is
in some cases some people change 
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dems4me
Guest
If it were me (although I'm not married), it would pretty much depend on the cirumstances, if it was an affair or whether it was just something that got out of hand. :shrug: I'd probably forgive them the first time. :shrug: However what would hurt me more would be the trust and honesty breakdown more than the act itself. If the trust and honesty can be built back up, then yes, I'd forgive the person. :shrug: If I felt they were still being dishonest too me and they continue to break my trust in other issues absolutely not. :shrug:
Mdcopswife
Boss Lady
I would never ever take a cheat back. Not for any reason. First husband was a Dr. We had a nice huge house, nice cars, 2 kids and money was not an issue. He cheated I left and took half of everything including his practice. Beat the crap out of his mistress and told his entire “fake azz friends and co-workers”
Married second husband. Told him if you need to screw someone else let me know so we can divorce, and you better hide your guns. He agreed and we have not had any problems.
Married second husband. Told him if you need to screw someone else let me know so we can divorce, and you better hide your guns. He agreed and we have not had any problems.
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wantnafemale
Guest
If your in a relationship and you communicate and both parties are pleased emotionally and physically then the cheating will never happen, it starts at home.
I agree, but never say never. I think there is a lot temptation out there and if someone else gives you a little bit of attention no matter how satisfied things may be at home the temptation can take over.