But he's a cute monster!
Crying it out
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But he's a cute monster!
lovinmaryland
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She is 100% correct
: Believe me my sister did not let her child cry it out... he is almost 3 and he still will not fall asleep on his own. She lived with me for a few months and I'll tell you those were the worst months ever
We've used a pacifier since day 2 (in the hospital). The paci usually works during the night, but when he gets crying he spits the paci out and wants nothing to do with it.
He's been drooling for weeks and loves to chew on his hands. I do believe he's teething, but he doesn't seem to be uncomfortable from it - yet.
cattitude
My Sweetest Boy
Thanks. But I may have to call Vrai instead. I don't smoke, but I may need a cigarette.
Ah, yes...but I have vodka.
workin hard
Icebox
Last week I tried the method of pick up/put down. That's where you put them down drowsy, let him cry for a certain amount of minutes, pick them up, and as soon as they stop crying, put them right back down. Repeat as much as necessary.
Well that method was a DISASTER. He screamed harder each time I put him back down. After about 5 or 6 times of this, I had to pick him up and rock him. It took 10 minutes for him to stop crying. It was horrible for both of us.
He's 4 months tomorrow which Ferber suggests is the earliest to start CIO. I'm going to talk to his pediatrician about it on Friday, but I know he'll suggest CIO.
I think I'm ready to let him CIO, but not screaming, and that's what he does.
We never let him learn to fall asleep on his own. Horrible mistake.
Maybe don't pick him up when you go in there. Let him see that your there, fix his blanket, give him his binky and make sure all of the regular stuff is ok (diaper,etc) and then walk out. I put a radio in my baby's room and so far he loves it. Plus it helps block out the noise that is going on in the house too.
Pete
Repete
Try this: It is a fact babies cannot cry if their foreheads are not all wrinkled up. If he starts crying just unwrinkle his forehead and he will stop.
lovinmaryland
Well-Known Member
Sounds like he is teething
I'd get some baby ambesol and give him tylenol before bed JMO
Pete
Repete
Ok, well, I don't know anything about babies, because I've never had one...
BUT.....my sis has had 2 little ones, and I thought she mentioned the general age to start CIO was 6 months? Something about babies not really being able to self-soothe until that age. :shrug:
I didn't discover self-soothing until around 14. :shrug:
Ok, well, I don't know anything about babies, because I've never had one...
BUT.....my sis has had 2 little ones, and I thought she mentioned the general age to start CIO was 6 months? Something about babies not really being able to self-soothe until that age. :shrug:
A lot of "specialists" say not to start CIO until 4-6 months. Supposedly before that age they are learning to trust you.
cattitude
My Sweetest Boy
That's all fine and good but they don't live with the babies.
What does your mom say? I'd listen to her more than I'd read about what the experts say or aren't you happy with how you turned out?
That's all fine and good but they don't live with the babies.
What does your mom say? I'd listen to her more than I'd read about what the experts say or aren't you happy with how you turned out?
Ahhh, don't get me started on what my mom says. She's all for him crying. However, whenever she's holding him and he starts crying, she immediately hands him to me.
She is getting on me everyday to feed him cereal. She's been doing this for at least a month. She showed me my baby book and I was fed cereal with a spoon at two weeks old!
lovinmaryland
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I have 4 and let them all CIO before 6 months, I guess it depends on the situation.
I look at it this way if nothing you are doing is soothing them then rather than get frustrated yourself lay them in the crib where they are safe and go in the other room for a few minutes then go back.:shrug:
Cowgirl
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Mom may be onto something. Dougie was 2 weeks old and would cry his head off. If I didn't put him down and walk outside, I'd have thrown him out the window (of course, now I don't even hear babies crying because I'm used to teenagers shouting at each other
).Anyway, my Mom came to visit and gave him a bit of cereal in his formula - he corked right off and slept for a miraculous 5 hours.
cattitude
My Sweetest Boy
Ahhh, don't get me started on what my mom says. She's all for him crying. However, whenever she's holding him and he starts crying, she immediately hands him to me.
She is getting on me everyday to feed him cereal. She's been doing this for at least a month. She showed me my baby book and I was fed cereal with a spoon at two weeks old!
Exactly. Everyone used to feed babies cereal earlier years ago...guess what, you didn't die, did you? Are you fat?
I still think he's just working you. He may be drooling but they all do that. Mine "teethed" for 4 months, both cut their first teeth around 8 months. The longer you put off letting him cry, the worse it will be. Right now you can control the situation. Once he's up and around, forget it. And then he'll fling himself on the ground and act like an ass.
lovinmaryland
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Now they say cereal before 6 months can lead to allergies. I'm sure we'll be starting it soon. As long as the pedi okays it.
I don't want an ass for a son.
It was horrible for both of us.
He's 4 months tomorrow which Ferber suggests is the earliest to start CIO. I'm going to talk to his pediatrician about it on Friday, but I know he'll suggest CIO.
I think I'm ready to let him CIO, but not screaming, and that's what he does.
We never let him learn to fall asleep on his own. Horrible mistake.
I have four kids...their reaction to bedtime was different with each of them. We established a routine. I would read two or three books, even as little guys, put on lullabyes and nurse them. Generally they were asleep when I laid them down until they were at least 10 months...and then I'd lay them down and leave. If they cried, I'd let them cry for 5 to 10 minutes and go in and turn the tape over. Lay them back down and leave. If I was certain they were tired and not sick, I'd just keep going in, reassuring them and leave. It did not take long for the routine to establish itself.
But, babies don't mature on a time line. Their idea of permanence isn't all that put together at 4 months. If your baby isn't catching on, he may not yet understand that when he can't see you, that you are still there. Maybe you should give a bit longer and try again to let him cry it out. I'd rather error on the side of caution, if it were me.