I am dating a man with a 13 year old daughter. He is incredibly caring and thoughtful, which is what I love about him. However, this is also a problem.....
His daughter is the most rude, inconsiderate child I have ever met in my life. When she is around groups of people, she is very quiet, almost shy. However, when it is just us, or when her friends are over, she yells and screams at him, throws things at him and dictates what she will do and when she will be doing it. There are absolutely no boundaries.
This child is given everything single thing that she wants. She has had 4 cell phones since Christmas, wears the most expensive desinger clothes, doesn't take care of them, always "loses" them and they are immediately replaced. She has 'lost' a laptop, cell phone, digital camera and an ipod, all of which were given to her at Christmas. Yet, she still continues to receive eveything that she asks for.
Her father does everything for her. She has no chores, he washes and folds her laundry, cleans the house, cooks, and she sits on the computer while he does all of this for her. I do all of the cooking and cleaning while we are at my house (he takes her laundry home to do it for her)
I do not feel comfortable giving her chores at my house, and he has asked that I not say anything to correct her behavior, becasue he is afraid of her backlashing on me.
He says he does this out of guilt, and that he doesn't want her to choose living with his ex over living with him. SO, he sets no boundaries.
I have children of my own, and while they may be spoiled a bit materialistically, they are very polite and always willing to help. They would never think of yelling at me, let alone throw something at me!
This is all very hard to watch. I care for this man very very much, but I do not know how to deal with his daughter. It is hard for me to sit back and shut up while this child is waited on hand and foot, and wathc the total lack of respect that she has for him.
She is not this way with anyone other than her parents. The mother is not as wishy washy, and she is called a f^&%n B*$%ch by her daughter because she tries to enforce limits.
Is it worth staying in this relationship or should I run as fast as I can?????
His daughter is the most rude, inconsiderate child I have ever met in my life. When she is around groups of people, she is very quiet, almost shy. However, when it is just us, or when her friends are over, she yells and screams at him, throws things at him and dictates what she will do and when she will be doing it. There are absolutely no boundaries.
This child is given everything single thing that she wants. She has had 4 cell phones since Christmas, wears the most expensive desinger clothes, doesn't take care of them, always "loses" them and they are immediately replaced. She has 'lost' a laptop, cell phone, digital camera and an ipod, all of which were given to her at Christmas. Yet, she still continues to receive eveything that she asks for.
Her father does everything for her. She has no chores, he washes and folds her laundry, cleans the house, cooks, and she sits on the computer while he does all of this for her. I do all of the cooking and cleaning while we are at my house (he takes her laundry home to do it for her)
I do not feel comfortable giving her chores at my house, and he has asked that I not say anything to correct her behavior, becasue he is afraid of her backlashing on me.
He says he does this out of guilt, and that he doesn't want her to choose living with his ex over living with him. SO, he sets no boundaries.
I have children of my own, and while they may be spoiled a bit materialistically, they are very polite and always willing to help. They would never think of yelling at me, let alone throw something at me!
This is all very hard to watch. I care for this man very very much, but I do not know how to deal with his daughter. It is hard for me to sit back and shut up while this child is waited on hand and foot, and wathc the total lack of respect that she has for him.
She is not this way with anyone other than her parents. The mother is not as wishy washy, and she is called a f^&%n B*$%ch by her daughter because she tries to enforce limits.
Is it worth staying in this relationship or should I run as fast as I can?????
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