Divorce and the last name.

[mAlice]

I would become ###### nmn #######.

Divorce and the last na... 12-02-2006 08:16 AM lick my crack up and down, lick it til your toungue turns do do brown you ignorant bastard

I wonder who hangs out with scum like this.

Oh, btw. I'm not a bastard child, so that would make you the ignorant one.

 

[Chasey_Lane]

I wanted so bad to go back to my maiden name (daddys name) after the bastard left, but I couldnt cause of the kids. Why should my kids feel any more change/disruption than they already felt? SOOOOOO, when I got recently remarried I still kept my kids last name (the exs) - for their sake. And my husband is cool with it. He knows that I put the kids first and thats what he expects of me.

Are you implying that a name change will scar them for life?

 

[Dougstermd]

I wonder who hangs out with scum like this.

Oh, btw. I'm not a bastard child, so that would make you the ignorant one.

It looks like you and mike have the same admirer

http://forums.somd.com/showpost.php?p=1815982&postcount=1130

 

[persimmoncf]

Are you implying that a name change will scar them for life?

No, my kids have gone thru enough change. They need no more.

 

[SamSpade]

I think both of my sisters - who have kept their married name - keep them because it's their chidren's last name. I also think they like it better than their maiden names.

I think this thread is interesting more to me because almost every woman I know at my workplace has kept their *maiden* name whether they got married or not. In every case, they've all said it's largely because it's easier than changing a million pieces of information at their workplace - login ID's, badges, and just about every piece of information relating to their job is stored separately - so their health insurance would have to be modified by itself as would their retirement accounts, payroll - absolutely everything is set up in a different department with no crossover between departments. It is a LONG process to fix things.

And I've already seen some of this just for myself - I left my job at one place and returned to it years later - and the confusion just in having old ID's reactivated versus new ID's issued has been a mess.

You'd think as common as this sort of thing is, *someone* would figure out a way to make it simpler.

 

[Tina2001aniT]

I have never been married so I still have my maiden name, I can tell you that had I married babies daddy I SURELY would have dropped his name in the divorce, I just wouldn't want it.

My mom and dad were married for 19 years, my mom kept her married name she said I was a "S" was longer than I was a "R". Which makes sense, that name was part of her. Also all of us kids have that name, of course. Mom also kept dad's name when she remarried. :shrug: I would think if I was stepdad that would bother the heck outta me, but stepdad doesn't seem to mind.

 

[Nicole_in_somd]

I kept my ex's last name when we divorced because that's who I was and that was my name. I still identify myself occasionally with my ex's last name (even though I've been remarried for over 8 years) because that's how people I don't regularly talk to think of me. I'd have kept it after Larry and I got married but that seemed disrespectful.

DID YOU KNOW.. that "Moore" isn't Demi's maiden name, but the last name of her first husband?

maybe it was because those hollywood types get married and divorced and then remarried she figured eventualy she would end up marrying him again someday down the road?

 

[Bronwyn]

I kept my married name for nine years until I re-married. That was because of my son only. Now when I take him to the Doctors, they still call me Mrs. C., because they just look at his last name and assume....

 

[Azzy]

When I got my divorce, I went back to my maiden name. Less than a week later, I took David's last name when I married him.

 

[remaxrealtor]

When I got my divorce, I went back to my maiden name. Less than a week later, I took David's last name when I married him.

Couldn't go back to my maiden name fast enough.....for those of you who know my ex.....you understand!

 

[RoseRed]

When I got my divorce, I went back to my maiden name. Less than a week later, I took David's last name when I married him.

That was quick.

 

[Shetiger]

I went back to my maiden, I think even If I get married again I am going to keep it.

 

[Azzy]

That was quick.

Yeah

 

[Chasey_Lane]

That was quick.

Who got remarried faster - Azzy or TWL's_Wife?

 

[Azzy]

Who got remarried faster - Azzy or TWL's_Wife?

Probably me. I got my papers and the same day, I filed for a license, waited the 2 days or whatever, then got married.

 

[Nicole_in_somd]

I have a sorta goofed up last name, but it fits me. I like it's unique-ness. If I were to get married, I'd keep my maiden name just because it feels comfortable to me.

Whats goofed up about it?

 

[Chasey_Lane]

Whats goofed up about it?

Well, her first name is Sharon and her last name is Peters. You do the math.

 

[Nicole_in_somd]

Well, her first name is Sharon and her last name is Peters. You do the math.

sorry I did not her last name....that is too cool in a away

 

[migtig]

If the ex had a problem with it then I would have. There was no reason to before I got remarried. It was a simple "non-issue" for everybody involved.

Changing SS cards, your license, checking account, credit cards and numerous other items are not as simple as you might think. It's nothing that difficult, but it just wasn't necessary. He had his identity/life and I had mine regardless of last names.

I actually like my maiden name better, however, it was such a hassle to get everything changed the first time. I really didn't want to go through it again. Plus there was an option on the divorce paperwork where he could have insisted that I go back to my maiden name if he had an issue with it. However, we had already discussed it and it was a non-issue. I gave the engagement ring back. :shrug: