Does anybody like their kids?

MMDad

MMDad

Lem Putt
Nickel said:
What does she do, if you don't mind my asking? I decided to stay at home when we moved...the cost of living here is much lower, and if I wanted a decent job I'd have to commute to the Hampton Roads area. I'm not willing to do that, and since D's salary stays the same, we can afford for me to stay home. We own a nice home (on the small side, but perfect for us), and have one new vehicle, one used and paid off. We can't go out to dinner and movies all the time like we used to, but the sacrifice is worth it. I'm hoping to earn my degree before we have to move to another duty station. Ideally I'd love to work from home, but there aren't a ton of viable options.
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Medical transcription. doesn't pay great, but it's something.
 
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Wenchy

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Nickel

Something for us to consider:

http://www.pennfoster.edu/medtrans/index.html?semkey=Q086505

MMDad? Did your wife go through something like this? How has she found her clients?

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I just saw your link, and see she had prior training. I haven't...would a course like what I posted a link to be a waste of money?
 
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Geek

Geek

New Member
MMDad said:
:yay: My wife gave up her teaching job and works at home for about 1/2 of what she would be making. I drive a 10 YO car. I don't regret it one tiny bit and I know it's better for the kids.
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I worked in an amazing daycare center. We were all highly trained and very professional. I taught so many kids their first words, hugged them, kissed the boo boos, sang songs. The kids had a great day. I knew in the middle of all that, the most important thing to me was doing that stuff with my own kids. Staying home is not easy. Staying home is not for everyone. Sometimes it is impossible. I feel really lucky that we are making that choice right now. I also know when you show up to drop your child off so you can go shopping, the people watching your child might roll their eyes and shake their head.
 
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Wenchy

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Geek said:
I also know when you show up to drop your child off so you can go shopping, the people watching your child might roll their eyes and shake their head.
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:shrug: I paid them well to do that :shrug:

I never felt guilty, and I got everything done that needed to be done for my family. You sang songs to my kids instead of them pulling a bottle of prune juice off the shelf at Food Lion and shattering it all over the floor. (Yes, that did happen)
 
Geek

Geek

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Wenchy said:
:shrug: I paid them well to do that :shrug:

I never felt guilty, and I got everything done that needed to be done for my family. You sang songs to my kids instead of them pulling a bottle of prune juice off the shelf at Food Lion and shattering it all over the floor. (Yes, that did happen)
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A lot of times daycare providers can't imagine you not wanting to be with a child they love so much. I am glad you did not feel guilty, that means you did what was right for you. Your child's opinion is the only one that matters, if you are secure and happy and she/he is too, than this thread is not about you and I'm glad for it. Seriously, I really don't understand parents that want nothing to do with their kids, it does not seem like you fit that bill. I always grocery shop with my kids so that does not seem like a hard job to me, but everyone is different.
 
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Wenchy

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Geek said:
A lot of times daycare providers can't imagine you not wanting to be with a child they love so much.
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I felt great leaving them there because they were so loved. I could drop them off in the afternoon and come back a few hours later.

Geek said:
I am glad you did not feel guilty, that means you did what was right for you. Your child's opinion is the only one that matters, if you are secure and happy and she/he is too, than this thread is not about you and I'm glad for it. Seriously, I really don't understand parents that want nothing to do with their kids, it does not seem like you fit that bill. I always grocery shop with my kids so that does not seem like a hard job to me, but everyone is different.
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The gals there encouraged me to do this, and I would be very surprised if an eye was ever rolled in my direction. My children did become their children, and my daughter has worked there for the past 2 years. A win-win situation.
 
CMC122

CMC122

Go Braves!
Geek said:
A lot of times daycare providers can't imagine you not wanting to be with a child they love so much. I am glad you did not feel guilty, that means you did what was right for you. Your child's opinion is the only one that matters, if you are secure and happy and she/he is too, than this thread is not about you and I'm glad for it. Seriously, I really don't understand parents that want nothing to do with their kids, it does not seem like you fit that bill. I always grocery shop with my kids so that does not seem like a hard job to me, but everyone is different.
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I'm with my kids 24/7, except when I go grocery shopping, I prefer it that way:lmao:
 
mrweb

mrweb

Iron City
Geek said:
I understand the need for daycare. I guess what I am saying is that people get used to dropping the kids off and making things easier for themselves. Your child has their whole life to socialize, your time with them is so precious, they only get to be kids once, most kids love to be with their parents doing anything at all. The case that got me started is a person I know has had two children one is 6 weeks and one is 3. They are in daycare from 6:00 am to 6 or 7 at night. 3 weekends out of the month they are at Grandma's house. It just seems crazy to me. She treats them like accessories. As far as keeping them in daycare because you paid for it, I think that kids' lives and memories are more important than the money you pay to the provider. I am crazy about my kids, I am thankful for every moment they are here. We had the death of a 3 1/2 year old in the family, so I guess time looks really special to me, I feel like I can not waste a second.
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Hey Geek, you get an A+ from me. You seem to have a good feeling for raising your kids and being a good parent. He!!, there have been times I wondered why we had them in the first place, but at the end of EVERY day you fall to sleep with that warm family feeling in your heart. You sound like a good mom. I speak from that of being a dad of wonderful daughters of 22 and 15.
 
mAlice

mAlice

professional daydreamer
Geek said:
emost kids love to be with their parents doing anything at all.
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You don't have kids, do you? You notice the kids out shopping with mom that are screaming and throwing temper tantrums? They don't want to be there. They are not happy. They are bored and miserable.

But I know what you're talking about. Women who make babies, then dump them on anybody else to take care of. These are the same women who ignore them when they have to have them around.
 
Geek

Geek

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elaine said:
You don't have kids, do you? You notice the kids out shopping with mom that are screaming and throwing temper tantrums? They don't want to be there. They are not happy. They are bored and miserable.

But I know what you're talking about. Women who make babies, then dump them on anybody else to take care of. These are the same women who ignore them when they have to have them around.
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Being honest, the times I have gone to the store with out them has been easier and faster, but I don't have a choice most of the time. Because I have to bring them I had to teach them "store manners". It requires me to keep talking to them, playing games, bringing things for them to do etc. I have got a 2,3, and 6 year old. Every single one has tested me, I have been frustrated and we had to leave the cart and go home. Eventually they got the idea, realized if they wanted food they had to help me buy it. This was hardest with the first and easiest with the last. I am not perfect and neither are the kids, but we try and have a good time and I always tell them when they are doing a great job.


"Hey Geek, you get an A+ from me. You seem to have a good feeling for raising your kids and being a good parent. He!!, there have been times I wondered why we had them in the first place, but at the end of EVERY day you fall to sleep with that warm family feeling in your heart. You sound like a good mom. I speak from that of being a dad of wonderful daughters of 22 and 15."-Mr. Web

Thanks! Right back at ya... I think this is the most important job in the world and if I try really hard and raise good people then It will be the best thing I could ever do. I think if that is your goal, daycare or not your kids will be winners. Congrats on the wonderful daughters!
 
mAlice

mAlice

professional daydreamer
Geek, not all parents teach their kids "store manners". They're perfectly clueless about what to do with a screaming child in a store, or even at home, most likely.

I always did my shopping when dad was at home, or a quick trip right after nap time. You can't run errands all day with little ones and expect them to be angels, and that's the problem. Even now that I'm working, if I had little ones, I'd run mini-errands. A stop at the grocery store for the essentials only takes about 20 minutes. Most of the time when I hear kids screaming in stores they're saying "I wanna' go home". If they're not saying, it's still what they need.
 
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jwwb2000

pretty black roses
I am one of the parents that does not take my kids to daycare on my CWS days. Why...I like to sleep in a bit and so do they. The only time I have taken the kids to daycare on my day off was due to a doctor appointment or for a tattoo. I am not gonna drag my kids along to the doctor office unless it is for them. Most of the time, the kids go where I go unless I want to go out alone, then they stay home with dad. We rarely get a sitter for our two kids. We would rather take them with us. I am sure things would be different if our parents lived closer because the kids do love going to granny's house.
 
Bustem' Down

Bustem' Down

Give Peas a Chance
vraiblonde said:
I always like my kids and I like my step-daughters, too. There's no harm in getting a sitter so you and the hubby can go to a movie or dinner, or getting one occasionally so you can treat yourself to a pedicure or shopping trip. But if you need that much "my" time, why bother to have kids in the first place?
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That's why I'm not having kids, I like myself too much. Don't really like children anyways.
 
Geek

Geek

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Bustem' Down said:
That's why I'm not having kids, I like myself too much. Don't really like children anyways.
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I have so much respect for that decision. I think it takes a really smart, strong minded person to know kids are not for them.
 
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