Etiquette Question

Gilligan

#*! boat!
PREMO Member
And then there used to be the guy here that was psycho and beat up his washer with a golf club. :lol:

I'm fortunate to have great neighbors. 😊
The neighbors on the northwest side of my place used to be a great source of entertainment. First, they had a mentally-challenged psycopath son that would visit occasionaly and generally wreak havoc. Nothing like waking up on a Sunday morning to see and hear a SWAT team deploying outside your bedroom window.

Then, later, the old man got dementia real bad and would wander off or do all sorts of erratic things. The only thing that kept him in check was the oxygen cart he had to drag around with him.

Then, not long after the old man passed, a buddy of mine moved in with their gorgeous daughter..but she turned out to be batchit crazy and they'd have epic fights..inside the house and out in the yard. We nicknamed her "Ice Pick" because we kept telling my buddy he was gonna wake up with one stuck between his eyes one day.

But alas....the place is now owned by a heck of nice guy that turned it in to an AirBnB and all the fun is gone.
 

frequentflier

happy to be living
Agree for the most part but I do have friends who are terrific people and one of their neighbors was such a psychopath nightmare they sold their house and moved.
Actually we paid the bills and mortgage for that house for 1.5 years. Because of his reputation, no one wanted to live next to him. And the shame of it was, my husband is a pilot and loved having his airplane in the front yard.
When we moved into the current house; that has no neighbors "next door", a kind woman brought us a plate of cookies to welcome us. While we were remodeling, a few people stopped by to say hello and see our progress.
It sure beat being called an ugly fu@king whore multiple times a day; not to mention all the other horrific actions and harassment of this sociopath. I had successfully gotten five peace orders. The last being after we moved out.
I read on FB he moved to Maine and died. Good riddance. The world is a better place!
 
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Gilligan

#*! boat!
PREMO Member
Give it time.... I've heard stories about AirB&B renters.
We had one particularly large and noisy group stay there last summer. What killed me, though...they had an immense array of food brought in. Apparently didn't want to cook for themselves. Big trays of seafood, meat platters, cheeses..on an on. We let the neighbor's cleaning crew use our large dumpster and the Monday after the crowd left our dumpster was half full of half-eaten high-end food platters. :confused:
 
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lucky_bee

RBF expert
We really lucked out with our neighbors. Our entire block and cul-de-sac is full of lovely, quiet, and respectful folks - most prior military too. When we moved in I was pregnant and got to meet lots of the folks as I miserably walked up and down our streets :lol: after he was born, we came home a few times to boxes of boys hand-me-downs from a few of them. Our direct neighbors have basically become family at this point, holiday dinners and watching each other's dogs - my son has his own sippy cup at their house. In the summer time when we leave our back doors open, I'll often find both my dogs and kid in their living room mooching cookies 🤦‍♀️ Honestly, my husband and I are typically introverts and avoid people but they kind of forced their way in and we're welcome for it now.

but there's always one miserable SOB. He's our other direct neighbor. He works second shift and likes to t/yell at people not to do normal things outside in their yards - like mowing or playing with dogs - before 10am. He thinks he has claims on the street in front of his house too and asks everyone to move. He's been nasty to every person on our block except us - and we're the loudest ones :lol: he's 100% scared of my 6'5" 300+lb husband with his loud diesel truck and metal music and U.S. Veteran attire. Last time he tried to yell at another neighbor because her dog was barking at a squirrel, I stuck my head out, yelled back and then called the cops just to get his ridiculousness documented incase he starts to do more. He's just a miserable prick. But his wife brought my kids candy and many apologies once when he asked me to move my car. Even she knows he's a d!ck.
 

Dakota

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We have lived in our neighborhood almost 2 decades now and we have only had issue with 1 person. The odd thing is this person lives several streets away and has zero business even being on our street or property. It started a few years back when she would walk her enormous dog down our street and plop her rear end smack dab in the center of our front yard under a tree. It drove my dogs insane, and she didn't just stay there 5, 10, 15 minutes but often an hour. I became highly suspicious she was stalking my neighbor's house and looking in their windows. I asked those neighbors if they knew her, and they explained the connection. I was highly concerned, so the next time she plopped her rear end down in my yard, my husband and I both approached her and asked her not to do it. She later moved to the other side of my driveway and continued to do this DAILY. Eventually, her dog collapsed in front of our house and soon after, died. The dog was old, in fact, way too old to be walked nearly a mile every day to sit in my fricken yard daily, sometimes on extremely hot days. Let's face it, this is not normal behavior.

Fast forward, recently, she started walking a new dog and posted a crappy post on a community board for our entire neighborhood to see. We were approached by a few who seriously thought it was directed at us, so we did some verification, and it really could have only been directed at us. So... I said something. There is more to all of this, but she later had her Ukraine flag flying, liberal, Satan worshipping, Biden supporter son who is upwards of 30ish years old (and still lives with his mommy) do a slow drive past our house. We have video and so again, I said something for the entire community to see. Again, her behavior is not normal. We are currently on our P's and Q's and will certainly be watching although she claims to want no further confrontation from me. All that is fine by me just leave me alone and stay out of my yard.

This is the thing. People generally work hard to keep their homes nice, and granted, you do get a few who don't. I am not one of those people. I have busted my butt both inside and outside my home and I'll be damned that some stuck up snob living streets away has the nerve to utter one iota about my yard yet has junk all over her driveway. Clean up your own space before you judge others, and if you have a complaint, there is a process for that, and it isn't being a see you next Tuesday on a community board. And, for the record, she has never posted anything on the community board that isn't dripping with distain.

Like I said before, one bad apple. Everyone has told me her husband is like the nicest guy. I feel sorry for him being married to such a miserable cow.
 

Sneakers

Just sneakin' around....
We have lived in our neighborhood almost 2 decades now and we have only had issue with 1 person. The odd thing is this person lives several streets away and has zero business even being on our street or property. It started a few years back when she would walk her enormous dog down our street and plop her rear end smack dab in the center of our front yard under a tree. It drove my dogs insane, and she didn't just stay there 5, 10, 15 minutes but often an hour. I became highly suspicious she was stalking my neighbor's house and looking in their windows. I asked those neighbors if they knew her, and they explained the connection. I was highly concerned, so the next time she plopped her rear end down in my yard, my husband and I both approached her and asked her not to do it. She later moved to the other side of my driveway and continued to do this DAILY. Eventually, her dog collapsed in front of our house and soon after, died. The dog was old, in fact, way too old to be walked nearly a mile every day to sit in my fricken yard daily, sometimes on extremely hot days. Let's face it, this is not normal behavior.

Fast forward, recently, she started walking a new dog and posted a crappy post on a community board for our entire neighborhood to see. We were approached by a few who seriously thought it was directed at us, so we did some verification, and it really could have only been directed at us. So... I said something. There is more to all of this, but she later had her Ukraine flag flying, liberal, Satan worshipping, Biden supporter son who is upwards of 30ish years old (and still lives with his mommy) do a slow drive past our house. We have video and so again, I said something for the entire community to see. Again, her behavior is not normal. We are currently on our P's and Q's and will certainly be watching although she claims to want no further confrontation from me. All that is fine by me just leave me alone and stay out of my yard.

This is the thing. People generally work hard to keep their homes nice, and granted, you do get a few who don't. I am not one of those people. I have busted my butt both inside and outside my home and I'll be damned that some stuck up snob living streets away has the nerve to utter one iota about my yard yet has junk all over her driveway. Clean up your own space before you judge others, and if you have a complaint, there is a process for that, and it isn't being a see you next Tuesday on a community board. And, for the record, she has never posted anything on the community board that isn't dripping with distain.

Like I said before, one bad apple. Everyone has told me her husband is like the nicest guy. I feel sorry for him being married to such a miserable cow.
Recording Security Cameras. If you don't have them, get them.
 

Dakota

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Recording Security Cameras. If you don't have them, get them.

We do. In fact, I have been a strong advocate for others in our neighborhood to get them connected as well.

I did just remind my husband to pull that latest video off, because we only have about 45 days of storage and it rewrites over the footage.

I just cannot believe we have even been subjected to any of this.
 

RoseRed

American Beauty
PREMO Member
A couple of years ago a couple moved into the empty house across the road. They were a chit show from the very beginning. Feral kids and dogs that continuously came across the road to my and my next door neighbors yards. Mom was no help, she was just as feral. Police and animal control were called several times. They belonged back in the ghetto.

Fast forward, they sold after a little more than a year and new neighbors have moved into the house in October. Nice and quiet. Haven't had a chance to meet them yet.
 

Dakota

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A couple of years ago a couple moved into the empty house across the road. They were a chit show from the very beginning. Feral kids and dogs that continuously came across the road to my and my next door neighbors yards. Mom was no help, she was just as feral. Police and animal control were called several times. They belonged back in the ghetto.

Fast forward, they sold after a little more than a year and new neighbors have moved into the house in October. Nice and quiet. Haven't had a chance to meet them yet.

I hope we get that lucky and it may be a possibility. She was asking around for real estate suggestions a few weeks ago.

On our street, we are friendly with everyone here. My husband and I speak to just about every homeowner, some daily. I have enjoyed the close-knit community on our street, so I try to keep that in mind and not let the other bother me too much.
 

RoseRed

American Beauty
PREMO Member
I hope we get that lucky and it may be a possibility. She was asking around for real estate suggestions a few weeks ago.

On our street, we are friendly with everyone here. My husband and I speak to just about every homeowner, some daily. I have enjoyed the close-knit community on our street, so I try to keep that in mind and not let the other bother me too much.
Same with my next doors neighbor. We hang out sometimes. They watch my cats, I watch theirs when out of town. Key's to each others homes, etc.
 

Gilligan

#*! boat!
PREMO Member
Reading so many "neighbor stories" makes me glad I've only ever had two property neighbors here on the island. I cannot imagine what its like to live surrounded by "neighbors"...and don't want to ever find out. It's bad enough that "neighbors" half way around the island from me call the cops when we're hunting/shooting. The island is being overrun with uptowners...

On the other hand...lots of folks in the wider hood know me and know that they can always count on a favor when needed. But the number of "old locals" keeps dwindling..... ;-(
 

Toxick

Splat
I second Rose's suggestion, leave a nice, brief, thank you note or card in their mailbox. If you feel really brave you may even write your name and phone number on it.

I'd like to ask, assuming you have more than one neighbor, how do you know which neighbor left the goodie bag? Did you see them or did they leave a card? Seems odd they wouldn't leave a small welcome note. Maybe multiple neighbors contributed?


They left a card with the goodie bag and they put their address on it. It's my next-door neighbor.

I say "they" because they said "we" on the card, so I'm guessing it's a couple. I haven't seen or heard children there.


I don't know which mailbox is theirs....as yet, I don't know which mailbox is MINE - I tried all with the keys I was left, and it doesn't open any of them. I'm going to contact the post-office this weekend. This weekend is going to be busy af.


Anyway if I leave a note, I'll tape it to their front door.
 

Toxick

Splat
Typical SOMD forum thread responses when someone asks for advice :rolleyes:

I expected nothing less, honestly.

Last time I asked advice, I got 4 pages without a single piece of helpful advice. At least this time, some good answers are peppered in there, so I'm ahead this time.



If you know which neighbor left the care package, why not go over and thank them? Possibly share the same story you wrote in the OP. Might spark conversation and lead to interesting things in common. Nothing wrong with some old-school neighborly interaction.


I might - that's why I was asking what the etiquette was. I feel weird doing that.
I'm not shy, and I like meeting people... but to just cold-knock on someone's door. It feels too forward somehow.

But hey - they initiated the interaction I guess.

I'm just wondering what - if anything - is expected. Should I return the gesture by bringing treats myself?
 

Toxick

Splat
No No No No No. Nothing goes in a mailbox without a stamp being cancelled.

I dated a postal worker for a while, so I know this is probably not a good idea. I'd tape a note to their door, or in their windshield wiper.



Although I once had a landlord/property manager once, who threatened to shoot me "right in the ****ing face" (actual quote) for taping my rent to his front door one time. I'm guessing this person is not as hostile, as there are cookies involved.
 
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