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BernieP

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RoseRed said:
I keep my circle small. Not thousands of people. Who really has that many friends IRL.
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It's a competition I think. The more followers you have, the more important you are.
Unless you block people, a friend of a friend can probably find you, and see some of your content.
Unless it's private, and only you can see it. But then what's the point?
 
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BernieP said:
It's a competition I think. The more followers you have, the more important you are.
Unless you block people, a friend of a friend can probably find you, and see some of your content.
Unless it's private, and only you can see it. But then what's the point?
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Good thing I'm not important! Sure, people can find me, but they can't see my content unless I accept a friend invite. Unless a "friend" shows them my page. But my stuff is pretty boring. I only have two people blocked.
 
vraiblonde

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I find it hard to block out time to talk on the phone so I prefer online messages that I can respond to when I can settle in. I rarely answer my phone.

And everyone on my FB is someone I know personally, so I'm in the 400s and not the 1000s.
 
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rio

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I am one of the few people on the planet that has no fb page. If something important is going on I want to hear about it verbally. If you want to catch up and see how life is going, call or send a text saying "hey, call when it's a good time to chat". If you just want to be nosy and see how that weird girl from HS turned out, or if your kid is smarter than mine, or your husband's biceps are bigger, don't bother, cause if we're friends you'll already know those things.
 
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rio said:
I am one of the few people on the planet that has no fb page. If something important is going on I want to hear about it verbally. If you want to catch up and see how life is going, call or send a text saying "hey, call when it's a good time to chat". If you just want to be nosy and see how that weird girl from HS turned out, or if your kid is smarter than mine, or your husband's biceps are bigger, don't bother, cause if we're friends you'll already know those things.
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I too have no fb page. (I deleted it a few years ago after learning how horrid the company is and reflecting more on how little value or enjoyment the platform provided me.)
 
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rio said:
If you just want to be nosy and see how that weird girl from HS turned out
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The weird kids from my HS turned out to have pretty amazing lives and I wouldn't miss that for the world. I like reading about their smart kids and spouse mush, too. In fact, if you want to do a Christmas brag letter let me send you my address because I love that sort of thing.

I use FB for its initial intended purpose: to keep up with friends and family, both current and long ago. One of my HS besties just became a grandfather for the 7th time and I want to see that bebe. Another HS friend just retired and keeps posting pics of her and other friends laying by her pool - and PS, she's one of those former weird kids who became a tearing beauty in her adulthood.

I don't want them to call me every time something fun but routine happens (although the new granddad did call and texted me a pic of the grandkid before he got permission to post it on FB), but I do want to see it on their page and comment or like it. One friend and his wife are constantly gifting each other with small luxury items and I want to see what they get (she used to be the regional beauty products manager for Macy's and always had swanky new products to drool over). I want to keep up with friends I made on the road. I want to follow my friend's Appalachian Trail hike. I want to see people's dinner and pedicures.

If I had to speak to them on the phone every time they had something to say - my god, my ear would fall off. I'd have to hire another me to share the load.

People who say FB is too much drama need to get better friends. My FB is filled with babies and travel and new shoes and food porn.
 
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rio

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vraiblonde said:
The weird kids from my HS turned out to have pretty amazing lives and I wouldn't miss that for the world. I like reading about their smart kids and spouse mush, too. In fact, if you want to do a Christmas brag letter let me send you my address because I love that sort of thing.

I use FB for its initial intended purpose: to keep up with friends and family, both current and long ago. One of my HS besties just became a grandfather for the 7th time and I want to see that bebe. Another HS friend just retired and keeps posting pics of her and other friends laying by her pool - and PS, she's one of those former weird kids who became a tearing beauty in her adulthood.

I don't want them to call me every time something fun but routine happens (although the new granddad did call and texted me a pic of the grandkid before he got permission to post it on FB), but I do want to see it on their page and comment or like it. One friend and his wife are constantly gifting each other with small luxury items and I want to see what they get (she used to be the regional beauty products manager for Macy's and always had swanky new products to drool over). I want to keep up with friends I made on the road. I want to follow my friend's Appalachian Trail hike. I want to see people's dinner and pedicures.

If I had to speak to them on the phone every time they had something to say - my god, my ear would fall off. I'd have to hire another me to share the load.

People who say FB is too much drama need to get better friends. My FB is filled with babies and travel and new shoes and food porn.
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I agree that fb is great for that sort of thing, it's just not my thing. I didn't have the kind of HS experience that I care to keep in touch with people. The exceptions, I have kept in touch with.
I guess I'm more of the type that has friends " for reasons during different seasons" of my life. I love getting the "brag" letters at Christmas from them, or that once a year phone call where we set aside enough time to chat for an hour or so to catch up. I guess I just don't have enough of those people in my life to keep me busy for hours a day. More like hours a year😁.
Didn't intend for my post to come across as a judgement on others who use FB, just saying why I don't.😏
 
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rio said:
I didn't have the kind of HS experience that I care to keep in touch with people. The exceptions, I have kept in touch with.
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I didn't either but I'm glad for FB so I could reconnect with people I hadn't even thought about in decades. Most of them are much better adults than they were teenagers.

One guy I knew slightly was this little bitty nerd dude who grew up to be a ridiculous success and crazy handsome, but still intelligent and down to earth - his wife is a hot vivacious redhead who I've become quite good friends with after hanging out with her at a reunion and becoming FB friends. Every time he posts I hope the mean kids from HS who grew up to be mean adults eat their hearts out.

So there's that part of it... :lol:

But not just friends....I have a set of cousins who are a generation younger than me - they weren't even born when I left home to go be an adult. I wouldn't keep up with them really except through my mom or aunts, but because of FB I get to be part of their lives. When my cousin's wife finally became pregnant after years of infertility treatments, I got to cry and cheer for her. I get to watch my other cousin's children grow up. When my Auntie gets her nails blinged out for Husker games, I want to see. When my mom's cousin, who I hadn't seen since I was a small child, saw we were in Sarasota he contacted me and we met up in Tampa a few times for dinner and bar crawling and had a blast. My youngest cousin is 17 and plays bass for the city youth symphony and I get to see her performances.

There are a million stories like that, and THAT is what FB is supposed to be about. Not bitching and whining and drama queening and passive-aggressive lashing out, but to connect with humans that mean something to you even if on a small scale. And maybe making that scale bigger.

I mean, I hate to tout FB because they really are dicks, but if you can get some positive out of evil why not....
 
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BernieP

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RoseRed said:
Good thing I'm not important! Sure, people can find me, but they can't see my content unless I accept a friend invite. Unless a "friend" shows them my page. But my stuff is pretty boring. I only have two people blocked.
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I know I blocked one person, but they found a way to stalk me by attacking mutual friends.
There may be a few others who somehow got added and when I saw what they were, I not only un- everything, but blocked them
Let's just say they were marketing their wares
 
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BernieP said:
I know I blocked one person, but they found a way to stalk me by attacking mutual friends.
There may be a few others who somehow got added and when I saw what they were, I not only un- everything, but blocked them
Let's just say they were marketing their wares
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Attack mutual friends? How so?
 
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Kyle said:
Mine was filled with dark humor, twisted humor, political humor and dogs until I got axed! :lmao:
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I found this picture of you....

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mitzi

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rio said:
If you want to catch up and see how life is going, call or send a text saying "hey, call when it's a good time to chat".
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I agree with you on that. However, it seems like nobody else likes to do that anymore. I've been told "just message me, I don't like to talk on the phone anymore".
 
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Merlin99 said:
Speaking of people eaters, I found out today that one of the few meats that people with meat allergies can eat is people, another being chimp.
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I can't begin to tell you how thankful I am to have learned that. No..really...I can't....maybe Kyle will benefit more from this information...
 
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