Facebook & teenagers

Chasey_Lane

Chasey_Lane

Salt Life
hotmomma said:
My question: As a parent, would you contact the boy personally and tell him to stay away from your daughter and you know the conversation that took place or just leave it alone and chalk it up to him being a horny 14/15 (may be 16, she said he failed a grade) year old kid.
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No. You are the adult and he's a minor. If I felt strongly enough *I* would make a general post on my daughter's FB page telling people not to engage in sexual conversation.

I monitor my daughter's FB (she's 15), and I have wrote on her wall before to her friends to knock stupid #### off.

At the end of the day... she's in high school and will be subject to this kind of behavior. Continue to monitor her internet time but also let her have her space. You shouldn't butt into every negative attention she receives.
 
RoseRed

RoseRed

American Beauty
PREMO Member
Chasey_Lane said:
No. You are the adult and he's a minor. If I felt strongly enough *I* would make a general post on my daughter's FB page telling people not to engage in sexual conversation.

I monitor my daughter's FB (she's 15), and I have wrote on her wall before to her friends to knock stupid #### off.
At the end of the day... she's in high school and will be subject to this kind of behavior. Continue to monitor her internet time but also let her have her space. You shouldn't butt into every negative attention she receives.
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I have done that, too. One smart ass boy questioned who I was. Her friends (boys & girls) all gave him a smack down and showed him the light. :lol:
 
Bann

Bann

Doris Day meets Lady Gaga
PREMO Member
RoseRed said:
I have done that, too. One smart ass boy questioned who I was. Her friends (boys & girls) all gave him a smack down and showed him the light. :lol:
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Thing2 just told me today that a couple of his friends watch what they say & post on his page, knowing I'm around and could be "creeping" his page. (as they say!)

He knows I can see what he posts, so he's careful. Remind me to tell you the hot tub story sometime. :jet:
 
Hank

Hank

my war
Bann said:
Thing2 just told me today that a couple of his friends watch what they say & post on his page, knowing I'm around and could be "creeping" his page. (as they say!)

He knows I can see what he posts, so he's careful. Remind me to tell you the hot tub story sometime. :jet:
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Ropes in the hot tub? Gross! :barf:
 
Dakota

Dakota

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Your daughter did the right thing and I feel if you bring more attention to all this than need be, she might not be so willing to discuss anything with you next time.

I am convinced that girls can be just as bad as boys when it comes to sex. I will not go into too much detail but there were some not-so-nice photos sent to my son a few years ago from some girls at school. I was using monitoring software to see his activity. I talked to him about that and decided that if some parents out there are not as pro-active in monitoring their child’s online activity, why should I do it for them? Same goes for the phone as some were sent that way also.
 
Bann

Bann

Doris Day meets Lady Gaga
PREMO Member
Hank said:
You are the epitome of a troll, my dear... follow certain people around and just agree with them.... :bigwhoop:
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Hank, eff off. And keep your freaking comments about my kid(s) to yourself, jerk.

This was a thread started by a concerned parent about a very serious topic she wanted advice on. You have nothing positive or constructive to add to this topic (or many other topics on the forums for that matter), so why don't you just leave it?

Troll (Internet) - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
In Internet slang, a troll is someone who posts inflammatory,[2] extraneous, or off-topic messages in an online community, such as an online discussion forum, chat room, or blog, with the primary intent of provoking readers into an emotional response[3] or of otherwise disrupting normal on-topic discussion.
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pelers

pelers

Active Member
Sounds to me like you did a great job raising her. She CAN ignore and unfriend any person who makes unwelcome advances towards her. That's something that truly baffles me about FB is people's unwillingness to "unfriend" people who make them uncomfortable.

I wouldn't have a chat with the boy. It sounds like your daughter handled it beautifully and it's good for her to gain the confidence of knowing how to handle that sort of situation on her own. I think if you go in and sweep up after her it might shake that new confidence a bit, that she didn't do a good enough job on her own.
 
hotmomma

hotmomma

mmmmhmmmmm
Dakota said:
Your daughter did the right thing and I feel if you bring more attention to all this than need be, she might not be so willing to discuss anything with you next time.

I am convinced that girls can be just as bad as boys when it comes to sex. I will not go into too much detail but there were some not-so-nice photos sent to my son a few years ago from some girls at school. I was using monitoring software to see his activity. I talked to him about that and decided that if some parents out there are not as pro-active in monitoring their child’s online activity, why should I do it for them? Same goes for the phone as some were sent that way also.
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Can you tell me about monitoring software. I am new to this. Is it a program that you buy at a store? What does it record? I check her history on the computer but I know that can be easily erased.
 
Dakota

Dakota

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hotmomma said:
Can you tell me about monitoring software. I am new to this. Is it a program that you buy at a store? What does it record? I check her history on the computer but I know that can be easily erased.
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Yes, there are several out there and they all do different things, depending on what you want to monitor.

The program I used was installed on his computer without his knowledge. What I didn't like about that software was that in order for me to see what he was doing, I had to sign on his computer because the activity reports I received by email were not specific enough. Example: email rec'd from "blahblahblah@yahoo.com" attachment downloaded. (In order for me to see that attachment, I had to sign on his computer.)

Fast forward to 3 or so years later, I will tell you that now better monitoring software does exist on the market that doesn't have you returning to the monitored computer to view. Like the one linked here....

SpectorSoft - SPECTOR PRO
 
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EmptyTimCup

Guest
Contact his Parents through the school



and if he is soliciting nude photos, that enters the realm of Child Porn
 
Dakota

Dakota

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JMO, if you decide you want to monitor your child's online activities - you really have to pick and choose your battles. You cannot protect your child from every temptation out there so do keep that in mind. I knew everything going on but only decided to approach him over these photos. This type of sexting is now illegal and I told him you don't want to go down because some girls in heat want to send you nasty photos of themselves.
 
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EmptyTimCup

Guest
Dakota said:
This type of sexting is now illegal and I told him you don't want to go down because some girls in heat want to send you nasty photos of themselves.
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or girls coerced into giving up photos


I get to have an uncomfortable conversation with an ex GF and my 17 yr old about the company she is keeping and the photos and videos he is demanding she send - this weekend
 
Homer J

Homer J

Power Chord
This is probably the next option.



Seriously though, sounds like you're doing a good job raising a good kid.
 
SoMDGirl42

SoMDGirl42

Well-Known Member
EmptyTimCup said:
or girls coerced into giving up photos


I get to have an uncomfortable conversation with an ex GF and my 17 yr old about the company she is keeping and the photos and videos he is demanding she send - this weekend
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Are you going to give him the oppurtunity to "demand" them from you before you kill him?

I don't think I'd have the patience for that, I'd just kill him first.
 
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