pixiegirl
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jenbengen said:Huh? I better leave this one alone...![]()

jenbengen said:Huh? I better leave this one alone...![]()
From my own personal experience, some women don't necessarily choose a poor mate - their husband *becomes* a poor mate. You can choose a guy who is terrific, stable and a good family man, then they kirk out and start doing stupid things to wreck the family.pixiegirl said:Your mother obviously chose a poor mate
pixiegirl said:Did you read that I said it was not directed at your mother as I'm sure that was a different time? 99% of the time bad luck is a result of poor choices. Period. Your mother obviously chose a poor mate, is this Joetaxpayers fault or responsibility? And before you get your panties in a bunch over THAT statement go read my reply to Vrai. I did the same.
vraiblonde said:From my own personal experience, some women don't necessarily choose a poor mate - their husband *becomes* a poor mate. You can choose a guy who is terrific, stable and a good family man, then they kirk out and start doing stupid things to wreck the family.
My own experience PLUS:
A friend whose husband couldn't take the job pressure, so he got hooked on crack.
My DIL's father who decided life was passing him by, so he ran off with some 20 year old chickie.
And there are countless others. It's not always that the woman made a bad choice. People change. And, yeah, sometimes you can see the train wreck coming from miles away, but not always.
vraiblonde said:And one more:
My ex-husband's cousin married a wonderful gal. Really, nobody could see anything wrong with this woman. She was kind, educated, compassionate, stable, came from a stable home, was very devoted to her husband and looking forward to having children. The cousin is a peach, very devoted to her, had a great job, nice house, calm stable upbringing, good values. They were the perfect match.
Then one day we get the call that she had begun an affair with some guy she met through work, had run off with him, and was now using drugs and drinking heavily.
vraiblonde said:From my own personal experience, some women don't necessarily choose a poor mate - their husband *becomes* a poor mate. You can choose a guy who is terrific, stable and a good family man, then they kirk out and start doing stupid things to wreck the family.
My own experience PLUS:
A friend whose husband couldn't take the job pressure, so he got hooked on crack.
My DIL's father who decided life was passing him by, so he ran off with some 20 year old chickie.
And there are countless others. It's not always that the woman made a bad choice. People change. And, yeah, sometimes you can see the train wreck coming from miles away, but not always.
I guess you just take a chance and hope for the best.jenbengen said:Good God woman. Any more horror stories? I'll begin spying on my husband tonight.
jenbengen said:I guess the mom should just give up the kids that she can't afford. That'll help- let's let the taxpayers pay for children of the state. MUCH BETTER. Oh, and you say "give them up"...how many moms who love their kids would do that??!! And who the f**k is going to take 4 kids?! Just shut up while you're ahead.
Believe it. We knew him and saw the change. He never even smoked pot in high school, stopped at 3 beers, no substance abuse problems at all ever. Then one day he decided to "try" cocaine to help him "deal with his job pressure". Moved on to crack shortly after and that was the end.pixiegirl said:The crackhead... I don't believe that ANYONE is that mentally unstable and there are NO warning signs. Denial is different that the signs not being there.
vraiblonde said:I guess you just take a chance and hope for the best.
But you can't predict the future. Another friend's father died, leaving her mother with four young children to care for and no insurance tohelp them out. Stuff happens.
vraiblonde said:I guess you just take a chance and hope for the best.
But you can't predict the future. Another friend's father died, leaving her mother with four young children to care for and no insurance tohelp them out. Stuff happens.
pixiegirl said:No insurance = a poor choice.
They were young teenagers - 13 and 15.pixiegirl said:The DILs father... If he's old enough that you're making a big deal out of him running off with a 20 year old than I have to assume his children for the most part have reached the age of majority and should be supporting themselves or are very close to that age if there were multipule children.
vraiblonde said:I guess you just take a chance and hope for the best.
But you can't predict the future. Another friend's father died, leaving her mother with four young children to care for and no insurance tohelp them out. Stuff happens.
This was a long time ago and life insurance wasn't prevalent back then.pixiegirl said:No insurance = a poor choice.
pixiegirl said:Absolutely not... You hope for the best but prepare for the worst! Raising children should NEVER be a game of chance.
It shouldn't be, but it is. Relationships in general are a game of chance because, as someone wise once said, it only takes one of you to screw it up for everyone.pixiegirl said:Raising children should NEVER be a game of chance.
vraiblonde said:They were young teenagers - 13 and 15.
The Mom - get this - actually waited until she was in her late-20s to get married because she didn't want to make any impulsive marital mistakes.