? for wives/mothers

[jenbengen]

Say husband doesn't get you a Mother's Day card or even a little note saying that he appreciates having you as the mother of his children. Would your feelings be hurt?

Mine didn't get one or write a note or anything and I have been pulling double-duty for 3 months while he is away (aside from the weekends when he comes home).

I am feeling totally unappreciated but want to make sure I am not over-reacting. I try not to be the over-reacting type. My feelings are definitely hurt, but I want to see how many others would feel this way.

I wouldn't mind hearing a male's point of view, too!

 

[RoseRed]

You are entitled to your feelings. It is a shame that no one recognized your Motherly efforts.

 

[flomaster]

Say husband doesn't get you a Mother's Day card or even a little note saying that he appreciates having you as the mother of his children. Would your feelings be hurt?

Mine didn't get one or write a note or anything and I have been pulling double-duty for 3 months while he is away (aside from the weekends when he comes home).

I am feeling totally unappreciated but want to make sure I am not over-reacting. I try not to be the over-reacting type. My feelings are definitely hurt, but I want to see how many others would feel this way.

Why don't you tell him this? Don't be a biatch about it. Just say hey, and lay it out for him. Be surprised he may have brainfarted. Happens to the best of us.

I have learned the hard way that not speaking up only leads to resentment and irreversable damage down the road. JMO.

 

[lips_sealed]

I would most likely be hurt, if he didnt even mention it. Is money an issue, maybe the reason for no card. That doesnt explain why he didnt even metion it

Now I have heard some men say they dont give their wives anything because "She isnt my mother".

Its a little late......HAPPY MOTHERS DAY

 

[jenbengen]

Why don't you tell him this? Don't be a biatch about it. Just say hey, and lay it out for him. Be surprised he may have brainfarted. Happens to the best of us.

I have learned the hard way that not speaking up only leads to resentment and irreversable damage down the road. JMO.

I definitely intend on saying something tonight when we talk on the phone. I should have said something earlier...guess I was hoping for something late.

Wish I could blame it on a brainfart. But he went to the store to get his mom a card, but not the mother of his children. :shrug:

 

[jenbengen]

I would most likely be hurt, if he didnt even mention it. Is money an issue, maybe the reason for no card. That doesnt explain why he didnt even metion it

Now I have heard some men say they dont give their wives anything because "She isnt my mother".

Its a little late......HAPPY MOTHERS DAY

Definitely not a money issue. I thought about the "not my mother" thing, but considering he knows that the one thing I really need to feel needed from him are either cards/notes, seems like maybe he could have picked up a pen.

 

[flomaster]

I definitely intend on saying something tonight when we talk on the phone. I should have said something earlier...guess I was hoping for something late.

Wish I could blame it on a brainfart. But he went to the store to get his mom a card, but not the mother of his children. :shrug:

I did get a gift for the wife from our daughter and a card from the little one. I didn't get her a card from me as she isn't my mom but getting it for her from the kids is my way to tell her she is appreciated as a Mom.

 

[jenbengen]

I did get a gift for the wife from our daughter and a card from the little one. I didn't get her a card from me as she isn't my mom but getting it for her from the kids is my way to tell her she is appreciated as a Mom.

Would've worked for me!

 

[godsbutterfly]

Does he usually get you one and this year he just didn't? Either way I definitely think it's a good idea to talk to him. Good luck.

 

[foodcritic]

I would definitly be upset. Heck I am upset that he bought his mother and step-mom something when money is really tight and did not get me anything. To his defense he did buy me a card and wrote a note at the bottom of it which was better than any gift he could of bought.

I would of already chewed him out by now. Don't be afraid and lay it on the line. You deserve to be acknowledged for all the hard work you do especially from your husband who got his mother a card. Unbelievable!!!!!!

 

[BS Gal]

Say husband doesn't get you a Mother's Day card or even a little note saying that he appreciates having you as the mother of his children. Would your feelings be hurt?

Mine didn't get one or write a note or anything and I have been pulling double-duty for 3 months while he is away (aside from the weekends when he comes home).

I am feeling totally unappreciated but want to make sure I am not over-reacting. I try not to be the over-reacting type. My feelings are definitely hurt, but I want to see how many others would feel this way.

I wouldn't mind hearing a male's point of view, too!

How old are the kids? Did they make you something in school or anything? Hubby and I decided a few years ago that a $4.00 card was a waste of $ for any occasion.

Edit: Oh wait, he was home, not out on a ship or something. Screw him. I'd be pissed.

 

[Tigerlily]

Go on strike his next time home. Leave a couple of TV dinners in the freezer and a note. that says.

" To my beloved family, as you have most likely noticed tonight I will not be joining you for dinner. I have decided that in life it is the simple things that mean the most, so I have chosen now to embrace me this evening. As you will notice at the close of this note I have left simple handwritten instructions as to how to prepare your frozen meals and I only hope as you stare at one another tonight searching for idle chatter that you think of me. I, BTW will be treating myself to the Mother's Day manicure and massage that I so richly deserve ansd can assure you that your needs will be the last thing on my mind. Please ensure that you tidy up after yourself's, lay out your clothes for the morning and pack your lunches as I will probably home late since I'm going to see the Chippendale dancers. Much love and kisses' The forgotten Mom"

P.S. Don't wait up.

 

[RoseRed]

Go on strike his next time home. Leave a couple of TV dinners in the freezer and a note. that says.

" To my beloved family, as you have most likely noticed tonight I will not be joining you for dinner. I have decided that in life it is the simple things that mean the most, so I have chosen now to embrace me this evening. As you will notice at the close of this note I have left simple handwritten instructions as to how to prepare your frozen meals and I only hope as you stare at one another tonight searching for idle chatter that you think of me. I, BTW will be treating myself to the Mother's Day manicure and massage that I so richly deserve ansd can assure you that your needs will be the last thing on my mind. Please ensure that you tidy up after yourself's, lay out your clothes for the morning and pack your lunches as I will probably home late since I'm going to see the Chippendale dancers. Much love and kisses' The forgotten Mom"

P.S. Don't wait up.

 

[Queenofdenile1]

I definitely intend on saying something tonight when we talk on the phone. I should have said something earlier...guess I was hoping for something late.

Wish I could blame it on a brainfart. But he went to the store to get his mom a card, but not the mother of his children. :shrug:

Oh, I'm so sorry. I have no explanation why some men do the things that they do. I know I would be hurt but DEFINATELY say something to him and NO, you are not OVERREACTING!!! Don't let him make you feel you are overreacting either!!!! He should appreciate you for being the mother of his children. Being a mom is a job and a hard one at that. I was watching the Today show and if stay at home Moms were paid.....calculations were roughly $113,000.00 a year.

 

[Queenofdenile1]

Go on strike his next time home. Leave a couple of TV dinners in the freezer and a note. that says.

" To my beloved family, as you have most likely noticed tonight I will not be joining you for dinner. I have decided that in life it is the simple things that mean the most, so I have chosen now to embrace me this evening. As you will notice at the close of this note I have left simple handwritten instructions as to how to prepare your frozen meals and I only hope as you stare at one another tonight searching for idle chatter that you think of me. I, BTW will be treating myself to the Mother's Day manicure and massage that I so richly deserve ansd can assure you that your needs will be the last thing on my mind. Please ensure that you tidy up after yourself's, lay out your clothes for the morning and pack your lunches as I will probably home late since I'm going to see the Chippendale dancers. Much love and kisses' The forgotten Mom"

P.S. Don't wait up.

I like yours better!!! That is telling them!!! I would do that and probably not say anything. I'd make him feel like the schmuck he is.. but that's me.

 

[Cowgirl]

I think if the children are too young to do anything on their own, the spouse should step up and get it done. I always make sure the kids get/make something for BF for special occasions. Technically I'm not a mom, but BF took me to dinner and thanked me for doing what I do.

 

[mommarock]

Go on strike his next time home. Leave a couple of TV dinners in the freezer and a note. that says.

" To my beloved family, as you have most likely noticed tonight I will not be joining you for dinner. I have decided that in life it is the simple things that mean the most, so I have chosen now to embrace me this evening. As you will notice at the close of this note I have left simple handwritten instructions as to how to prepare your frozen meals and I only hope as you stare at one another tonight searching for idle chatter that you think of me. I, BTW will be treating myself to the Mother's Day manicure and massage that I so richly deserve ansd can assure you that your needs will be the last thing on my mind. Please ensure that you tidy up after yourself's, lay out your clothes for the morning and pack your lunches as I will probably home late since I'm going to see the Chippendale dancers. Much love and kisses' The forgotten Mom"

P.S. Don't wait up.

I am saving this note!

 

[jenbengen]

How old are the kids? Did they make you something in school or anything? Hubby and I decided a few years ago that a $4.00 card was a waste of $ for any occasion.

Edit: Oh wait, he was home, not out on a ship or something. Screw him. I'd be pissed.

Thank you.

 

[jenbengen]

Go on strike his next time home. Leave a couple of TV dinners in the freezer and a note. that says.

" To my beloved family, as you have most likely noticed tonight I will not be joining you for dinner. I have decided that in life it is the simple things that mean the most, so I have chosen now to embrace me this evening. As you will notice at the close of this note I have left simple handwritten instructions as to how to prepare your frozen meals and I only hope as you stare at one another tonight searching for idle chatter that you think of me. I, BTW will be treating myself to the Mother's Day manicure and massage that I so richly deserve ansd can assure you that your needs will be the last thing on my mind. Please ensure that you tidy up after yourself's, lay out your clothes for the morning and pack your lunches as I will probably home late since I'm going to see the Chippendale dancers. Much love and kisses' The forgotten Mom"

P.S. Don't wait up.

Niiiiiiiiiiice.

 

[Tigerlily]

Niiiiiiiiiiice.

If anything it will make him think.