? for wives/mothers

[BS Gal]

If anything it will make him think.

If he's gonna be home this weekend, get up early Saturday and leave him that note. Tell him you're taking a late Mother's Day.

 

[kwillia]

jenben, how do you plan on handling Father's Day?

 

[missperky]

I got nothing...Part of life.

 

[jenbengen]

jenben, how do you plan on handling Father's Day?

I'm not sure yet. I just talked to him- he said he didn't get me one when he got his mom's because he was going to go out later and get one. Then he said he didn't the Saturday before because we ended up going out that morning and after lunch he had a couple of beers and forgot. He said he knew he had forgotten. Yet he said nothing and didn't write a note or anything.

As for Father's Day- my mother, who always defends him, said not to give him anything. However, I am just not that type of person. One of my better qualities is always making sure that the people I love feel appreciated.

Maybe he takes advantage of that.

 

[Nanny Pam]

Go on strike his next time home. Leave a couple of TV dinners in the freezer and a note. that says.

" To my beloved family, as you have most likely noticed tonight I will not be joining you for dinner. I have decided that in life it is the simple things that mean the most, so I have chosen now to embrace me this evening. As you will notice at the close of this note I have left simple handwritten instructions as to how to prepare your frozen meals and I only hope as you stare at one another tonight searching for idle chatter that you think of me. I, BTW will be treating myself to the Mother's Day manicure and massage that I so richly deserve ansd can assure you that your needs will be the last thing on my mind. Please ensure that you tidy up after yourself's, lay out your clothes for the morning and pack your lunches as I will probably home late since I'm going to see the Chippendale dancers. Much love and kisses' The forgotten Mom"

P.S. Don't wait up.

That is awesome!! ​

 

[lugebob]

IT took me almost 18 years to finally GET IT and even though the kids moved out I still get her something and reference all the times I did not let her know when I should have...

As a guy I hate to say it, but a little training is needed in things of the heart.

 

[BS Gal]

IT took me almost 18 years to finally GET IT and even though the kids moved out I still get her something and reference all the times I did not let her know when I should have...

As a guy I hate to say it, but a little training is needed in things of the heart.

Desertrat went out in the wetlands and dug up plants for me for my pond, then potted them. He had four ticks on him when he got home and he was wet. He knew I wanted them, but I really didn't expect them. Better than any card or other gesture he could have done for me. How friggin sweet was that? He's the best. And he made a great meal for me. I did NOTHING on Mother's Day that involved any work.

 

[jenbengen]

IT took me almost 18 years to finally GET IT and even though the kids moved out I still get her something and reference all the times I did not let her know when I should have...

As a guy I hate to say it, but a little training is needed in things of the heart.

That's understood. I appreciate your honesty- it helps. It has been 10 yrs of marriage where he does sometimes come through and doesn't others. The fact that he does it sometimes and not others just makes me think he chooses to be lazy at times at the expense of my feelings.

I don't ask a lot- just a note/gesture of love or appreciation maybe 5 times a year (Mom's Day, birthday, anniversary, Valentine's Day and Christmas). I'm not a high-maintence girl...I appreciate simple gestures and notes MUCH more than expensive presents.

 

[BS Gal]

That's understood. I appreciate your honesty- it helps. It has been 10 yrs of marriage where he does sometimes come through and doesn't others. The fact that he does it sometimes and not others just makes me think he chooses to be lazy at times at the expense of my feelings.

Men don't think like we do. While I don't "expect" anything, my feelings are hurt if I am forgotten. You have every right to feel hurt.

 

[Kain99]

My husband ran out to Foodlion at 2:00 when he realized it was MD... He bought me a bunch of flowers. My kids on the other hand woke up with gifts in hand.

After many years you come to stop hoping. They really and truly don't think like us, so BFD baby!

 

[jenbengen]

Men don't think like we do. While I don't "expect" anything, my feelings are hurt if I am forgotten. You have every right to feel hurt.

Thanks everybody. I don't feel so bad for having my feelings hurt now. He's now aware of it and I don't intend to hang it over his head. Just expect him to listen and maybe improve a little!

 

[Kain99]

Thanks everybody. I don't feel so bad for having my feelings hurt now. He's now aware of it and I don't intend to hang it over his head. Just expect him to listen and maybe improve a little!

Don't hold your breath darlin..... They is what they is!

 

[Chain729]

Say husband doesn't get you a Mother's Day card or even a little note saying that he appreciates having you as the mother of his children. Would your feelings be hurt?

Mine didn't get one or write a note or anything and I have been pulling double-duty for 3 months while he is away (aside from the weekends when he comes home).

I am feeling totally unappreciated but want to make sure I am not over-reacting. I try not to be the over-reacting type. My feelings are definitely hurt, but I want to see how many others would feel this way.

I wouldn't mind hearing a male's point of view, too!

Unless you married your son, what's the problem? It's your kids' job to show appreciation for you on Mother's Day, not your husband's.

 

[BS Gal]

Thanks everybody. I don't feel so bad for having my feelings hurt now. He's now aware of it and I don't intend to hang it over his head. Just expect him to listen and maybe improve a little!

Screw that. Take off next year with a girlfriend and do a "mommy" weekend at a spa.

 

[lugebob]

That's understood. I appreciate your honesty- it helps. It has been 10 yrs of marriage where he does sometimes come through and doesn't others. The fact that he does it sometimes and not others just makes me think he chooses to be lazy at times at the expense of my feelings.

I don't ask a lot- just a note/gesture of love or appreciation maybe 5 times a year (Mom's Day, birthday, anniversary, Valentine's Day and Christmas). I'm not a high-maintence girl...I appreciate simple gestures and notes MUCH more than expensive presents.

In that case.. I think you should make a bigger deal when he does something, than when he don't. Men don't get a woman scorn, but we do like to know what makes them smile and feel good. For men that thought is mutually exclusive.

 

[BS Gal]

Unless you married your son, what's the problem? It's your kids' job to show appreciation for you on Mother's Day, not your husband's.

You have an entirely different situation going on, dude. She has a right to expect her hubby to do something. You, on the other hand, have no obligation to get the mother of your child something since you are both mom and dad. And I commend you for that!

 

[jenbengen]

Unless you married your son, what's the problem? It's your kids' job to show appreciation for you on Mother's Day, not your husband's.

My kids are 7 and 3...their father could help a little. But thanks for reminding me how narrow-minded men can be.

Hehe.

 

[jenbengen]

In that case.. I think you should make a bigger deal when he does something, than when he don't. Men don't get a woman scorn, but we do like to know what makes them smile and feel good. For men that thought is mutually exclusive.

Believe me, he gets PLENTY of appreciation for nice gestures.

 

[aps45819]

I am upset that he bought his mother and step-mom something when money is really tight and did not get me anything. To his defense he did buy me a card and wrote a note at the bottom of it which was better than any gift he could of bought. !

This is why men will NEVER understand women

 

[jenbengen]

This is why men will NEVER understand women

Can't argue with that one.