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craberta

craberta

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I cried on mothers day, it was like any other day. It sucked. At least my daughter called and son called, but I got no card or gifts, and was sort of told I have bad taste, in decor. Then I went out and bought myself some nice things.
 
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Queenofdenile1

Love is Blind
jenbengen said:
I'm not sure yet. I just talked to him- he said he didn't get me one when he got his mom's because he was going to go out later and get one. Then he said he didn't the Saturday before because we ended up going out that morning and after lunch he had a couple of beers and forgot. He said he knew he had forgotten. Yet he said nothing and didn't write a note or anything. :blahblah:

As for Father's Day- my mother, who always defends him, said not to give him anything. However, I am just not that type of person. One of my better qualities is always making sure that the people I love feel appreciated.

Maybe he takes advantage of that. :eyebrow:
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I realize it's your husband and forgive me when I say "DIRTBAG". LAME, LAME, LAME!!!! Those don't even make sense. If your in the store picking out a MD card for Mom, why would you put off to get your wife's MD card? He's a bad liar!! Your Mother is right. Fathers Day...Conveniently FORGET and then say "Whoops, Oh I'm so sorry, I completely forgot. I was in the store and thought about getting you a card but then I got sidetracked with this gorgeous man in isle 10 and it just slipped my mind". I'm not joking. Don't be his doormat!!! You go buy him something, he's going to continue to take advantage of it. This year it's a MD card but it escalates from there. Wants to see how much he can get away with.
 
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usagent

usagent

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jenbengen said:
Say husband doesn't get you a Mother's Day card or even a little note saying that he appreciates having you as the mother of his children. Would your feelings be hurt?

Mine didn't get one or write a note or anything and I have been pulling double-duty for 3 months while he is away (aside from the weekends when he comes home).

I am feeling totally unappreciated but want to make sure I am not over-reacting. I try not to be the over-reacting type. My feelings are definitely hurt, but I want to see how many others would feel this way.

I wouldn't mind hearing a male's point of view, too!
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You should be furious. Your a great Mother and wife you deserve to be appreciated. If I were you I'd have a no-strings attached evening of hot sex with a forumite you've never met to ease your anger.




PM me:howdy:
 
lbreder

lbreder

2into4
I dont get why Mothers Day is blown out to be such a BIG event. Im a mother of two and my husband has been through two deployments. Its just a day! I think people expect too much these days. They want flowers, gifts, dinner and much more. Whats wrong with just enjoying a nice Sunday? Just expect nothing and when you do get something it will be just as nice.
 
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Queenofdenile1

Love is Blind
lbreder said:
I dont get why Mothers Day is blown out to be such a BIG event. Im a mother of two and my husband has been through two deployments. Its just a day! I think people expect too much these days. They want flowers, gifts, dinner and much more. Whats wrong with just enjoying a nice Sunday? Just expect nothing and when you do get something it will be just as nice.
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Your right however, society has made it this way and it has been instilled in us. She wasn't asking for flowers, dinner, etc. A simple note, card, would have been fine. If my husband was on deployment, of course there are certain exceptions, I wouldn't expect much, but when he's home, thats a whole other story. Women keep the home fires burning while they are away, they need to remember that and not take it for granted.
 
lbreder

lbreder

2into4
I just dont get why she needs a note or card. She should know shes loved and appreciated. Why does it need to be just that one day Moms are noticed? Yes we do a whole lot, but thats our job we shouldnt expect anything in return. Our Fathers do just as much these days and I dont think they get as appreciated. Actually, my husband never forgot a birthday, anniversary, or any special event while he was deployed. Him being back home and working is when we get side tracked. We have never expected anything in return just appreciate eachother everyday and not just one.
 
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KWAK

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I always thought of Mother's Day to be just another "Hallmark Holiday" - but then I became a mother to a little girl who took me 5 years to make and I cherished that I finally got to 'belong' to this day! And on my very first Mother's Day I was pizzed that my husband got me nothing! (He's an idiot, and just didn't realize) When we went to my mother's house, my mom and my sister both got me a little something to celebrate my first Mother's Day. On the way home I asked him if he'd realized yet that he should've gotten me something - and he said that he did and felt like an idiot. Once we got home, I left the baby with him, took his credit card, went to the mall and bought myself a locket. He hasn't forgotten me since!
 
jenbengen

jenbengen

Watch it
vraiblonde said:
Yes. But let it go.
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I've let it go. I let him know that my feelings were a bit hurt (kindly, I must say). He took it into account, which is all I asked of him.

I got a phone call this morning saying "HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY" and asking if he could make it up to me. I told him it was alright. I don't need a make up day. Just acknowledgment that he heard what I was saying. So all is good.
 
SoMDGirl42

SoMDGirl42

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Since he's gone all week and only comes home on the weekend, it would be a shame if your cycle suddenly goes out of kilter and you're on the rag EVERY SINGLE WEEKEND from now until after fathers day!:whistle: Buy yourself a new battery operated boyfriend (BOB) for mother's day and enjoy your month off. Maybe he would learn to appreciate you then. Men are such jerks!
 
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bluesmom31

New Member
How does he treat you the other 364 days of the year? I realize that its nice to be recognized on the "day" but my thing is that if they don't do it year round - don't buy me a card, flowers, etc. because it the right thing to do.
 
jenbengen

jenbengen

Watch it
usagent said:
You should be furious. Your a great Mother and wife you deserve to be appreciated. If I were you I'd have a no-strings attached evening of hot sex with a forumite you've never met to ease your anger.




PM me:howdy:
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:lmao: Thanks for the offer of blissful pleasure. :)
 
Lugnut

Lugnut

I'm Rick James #####!
Queenofdenile1 said:
I realize it's your husband and forgive me when I say "DIRTBAG". LAME, LAME, LAME!!!! Those don't even make sense. If your in the store picking out a MD card for Mom, why would you put off to get your wife's MD card? He's a bad liar!! Your Mother is right. Fathers Day...Conveniently FORGET and then say "Whoops, Oh I'm so sorry, I completely forgot. I was in the store and thought about getting you a card but then I got sidetracked with this gorgeous man in isle 10 and it just slipped my mind". I'm not joking. Don't be his doormat!!! You go buy him something, he's going to continue to take advantage of it. This year it's a MD card but it escalates from there. Wants to see how much he can get away with.
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Your bitter passive agressiveness turns me on... :really:
 
vraiblonde

vraiblonde

Board Mommy
PREMO Member
Patron
jenbengen said:
I've let it go. I let him know that my feelings were a bit hurt (kindly, I must say). He took it into account, which is all I asked of him.

I got a phone call this morning saying "HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY" and asking if he could make it up to me. I told him it was alright. I don't need a make up day. Just acknowledgment that he heard what I was saying. So all is good.
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:yay:

Don't listen to these bitter #####es with their childish punishments.
 
kwillia

kwillia

n/a
I have found that men don't think like women and that cannot be changed. Therefore, IMO, your current approach is the best approach. You've been straightforward with him and let him know how his oversight left you feeling disappointed and unnappreciated and now you are willing to let it go. You really are already "getting passed" it because you are already realizing you will certainly recognize him for Father's Day because that's true to who you are and what you do. Marriage isn't a game so playing the retaliation game would result in nothing but building up resentment and contention. The most important piece I can offer on this subject is that you continue to let him know exactly how you feel when you find he seems oblivious.
 
kwillia

kwillia

n/a
jenbengen said:
I've let it go. I let him know that my feelings were a bit hurt (kindly, I must say). He took it into account, which is all I asked of him.

I got a phone call this morning saying "HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY" and asking if he could make it up to me. I told him it was alright. I don't need a make up day. Just acknowledgment that he heard what I was saying. So all is good.
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I'm just now reading this... perfect...:yay: :clap:
 
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