? for wives/mothers

[lbreder]

How does he treat you the other 364 days of the year? I realize that its nice to be recognized on the "day" but my thing is that if they don't do it year round - don't buy me a card, flowers, etc. because it the right thing to do.

AMEN!!!

 

[jenbengen]

THANKS EVERYBODY!



Situation resolved. As tempting as it is to do payback, I've learned that it normally doesn't work in a marriage without harboring bitterness. My approach of just TELLING HIM worked wonders. Now he won't leave me alone. Guess he thought about it all night.

 

[sockgirl77]

Try the Pan Lady method.

 

[usagent]

THANKS EVERYBODY!



Situation resolved. As tempting as it is to do payback, I've learned that it normally doesn't work in a marriage without harboring bitterness. My approach of just TELLING HIM worked wonders. Now he won't leave me alone. Guess he thought about it all night.

 

[greeneyes36]

That would be too funny... My ex took my daughters shopping last week and they gave me 2 nice mothers day cards and my bday was monday and they had 2 more cards and a$20 gift card... It was very nice to see him take care of them like that even though we're not together anymore. He did the same last year too though...they came home with a gift bag full of things for my birthday and mothers day. i am blessed for having a decent ex-husband, huh?? He was always good at this though when we were married... sorry your's isnt thinking clearly....

 

[Chain729]

Don't listen to these bitter #####es with their childish punishments.

Notice how the quicker they are to "get revenge" the more likely they're either A) divorced or B) upset that they can't find a guy desperate enough to deal with them?

 

[Queenofdenile1]

I just dont get why she needs a note or card. She should know shes loved and appreciated. Why does it need to be just that one day Moms are noticed? Yes we do a whole lot, but thats our job we shouldnt expect anything in return. Our Fathers do just as much these days and I dont think they get as appreciated. Actually, my husband never forgot a birthday, anniversary, or any special event while he was deployed. Him being back home and working is when we get side tracked. We have never expected anything in return just appreciate eachother everyday and not just one.

Well, thats wonderful for you. Not everybody has your marriage. You all have a mutual respect and understanding. When you work, it's nice to feel appreciated in some way and perhaps Jen doesn't feel appreciated. We don't know other than what she is telling us. Being a Mom and Wife is a job, it's hard work and when you have a partner that appreciates that, it makes the job a little easier. However, some partners just expect things to be taken care of with no problems and they have to do nothing in return because it is expected. You begin to feel your efforts are unnoticed and they just don't care. So, if dinner isn't on the table and the fridge isn't stocked with beer and food and the kids are running around filthy, laundry is still sitting in the hamper, then it would be noticed!!!

 

[sockgirl77]

THANKS EVERYBODY!



Situation resolved. As tempting as it is to do payback, I've learned that it normally doesn't work in a marriage without harboring bitterness. My approach of just TELLING HIM worked wonders. Now he won't leave me alone. Guess he thought about it all night.

What was his excuse?

 

[Chain729]

You have an entirely different situation going on, dude. She has a right to expect her hubby to do something. You, on the other hand, have no obligation to get the mother of your child something since you are both mom and dad. And I commend you for that!

Maybe I do see it a bit different because of that, or maybe it's because my Princess is still in diapers. :shrug:

My kids are 7 and 3...their father could help a little. But thanks for reminding me how narrow-minded men can be.

Hehe.

If I told you how Mother's day went this year, you'd change your tune with me.

Believe it or not, I did talk to my GF before the original post, and though I'm more... direct, she agreed with me. It's one thing for him to take the kids out and help/encourage them with the gift, cards, etc. It's another to expect that HE should've gotten you something.

BTW, I didn't need a reminder of how selfish and materialistic women can be.

 

[Queenofdenile1]

THANKS EVERYBODY!



Situation resolved. As tempting as it is to do payback, I've learned that it normally doesn't work in a marriage without harboring bitterness. My approach of just TELLING HIM worked wonders. Now he won't leave me alone. Guess he thought about it all night.

Good for you!!! Payback is what you do when they don't listen. You try talking first but sometimes with some men it goes in one ear and out the other and they don't care!! So the comment about being bitter...these are people who possibly don't get it and maybe don't care and have a little bitterness goin' on in their own lives they aren't willing to admit.

 

[toppick08]

For any man to not recognize his wife(mother of his children) or Mom on Mother's Day is ..............PERIOD.

 

[usagent]

For any man to not recognize his wife(mother of his children) or Mom on Mother's Day is ..............PERIOD.

That gets confusing here in somd because many wives are our mothers.

 

[toppick08]

That gets confusing here in somd because many wives are our mothers.

Just be glad they care enough.........

 

[lbreder]

Wow! Its amazing how one things can get so blown out of propotion.

 

[Queenofdenile1]

That gets confusing here in somd because many wives are our mothers.

Just be glad they care enough.........

Thank you!!

 

[Queenofdenile1]

I always thought of Mother's Day to be just another "Hallmark Holiday" - but then I became a mother to a little girl who took me 5 years to make and I cherished that I finally got to 'belong' to this day! And on my very first Mother's Day I was pizzed that my husband got me nothing! (He's an idiot, and just didn't realize) When we went to my mother's house, my mom and my sister both got me a little something to celebrate my first Mother's Day. On the way home I asked him if he'd realized yet that he should've gotten me something - and he said that he did and felt like an idiot. Once we got home, I left the baby with him, took his credit card, went to the mall and bought myself a locket. He hasn't forgotten me since!

 

[Queenofdenile1]

Your bitter passive agressiveness turns me on...

Oh yeah?

 

[poster]

Say husband doesn't get you a Mother's Day card or even a little note saying that he appreciates having you as the mother of his children. Would your feelings be hurt?

Mine didn't get one or write a note or anything and I have been pulling double-duty for 3 months while he is away (aside from the weekends when he comes home).

I am feeling totally unappreciated but want to make sure I am not over-reacting. I try not to be the over-reacting type. My feelings are definitely hurt, but I want to see how many others would feel this way.

I wouldn't mind hearing a male's point of view, too!

Have a girlfriend who goes through this every year. This year he actually got her something - surprise, surprise. Usually it's the "you're not my mother" treatment.

How about this though, my husband's b-day fell on mother's day this year, we went out of town. He called his mother on sunday and wished her answer mach a happy mother's day - no return call. On monday she finally called him back and never wished him a happy birthday! Really hurt his feelings.

 

[Roxy1104]

My son's school had a Mother's Day Tea Party last Friday. He's in Kindergarten. They sang us a song and then we had tea and cookies, and made a picture frame out of that foam stuff (it was a kit), then the teacher took mom & son picture for the frame. It was really neat. No dad is around, and my older son (26) who is one of your typical so md azzholes didn't even call (not that I expected his sorry azz to). On Monday at work I opened my email, and my little ones father who is married and lives in NC even sent me a Happy Mother's Day email which I thought was nice, but kinda weird considering he hasn't seen his son in over 4 years.

 

[barncat]

I took Mother's Day into my own hands. Hubby had to work and the little one stayed with Grandma and Grandpa for the weekend. I woke up Saturday morning, got my hair cut and headed next door for a manicure/pedicure and decided to upgrade to the deluxe version.

Hubby asked if he needed to get me anything and I told him it was not necessary since I had pampered myself.

Grandma sent little one home with a card, home made cookies and an earring and necklace set.