PJay
Well-Known Member
Not only easier and sweeter for the both of you, but for your friends also. Most sure they appreciate not having to pick a side.
Getting along with the Ex
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Not only easier and sweeter for the both of you, but for your friends also. Most sure they appreciate not having to pick a side.
Radiant1
Soul Probe
I'm envious of anyone who has a good relationship with their ex. You'd think after 20 years of marriage and four children together my ex and I would get along, but we don't. Far from it, no matter how hard I've tried. He hooked up with his gf a few months after we split and I then became a wicked biotch and an object of vengeance. After five years of him giving me hell I've pretty much given up trying. And yes, it absolutely DOES take a toll on our children. 
withrespect
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I'm having all my ex's over for milk and cookies tomorrow night.
lol... I always feel awkward when there is more than one person in a room that I have slept with.
It's like they are going to compare notes or something.
lol... I always feel awkward when there is more than one person in a room that I have slept with.
Eh, you get used to it.
struggler44
A Salute to all on Watch
lol... I always feel awkward when there is more than one person in a room that I have slept with.
Helluvaofficeparty
Eh, you get used to it.
LMFAO!! My more recent ex would love that attitude...
My oh my didn't you hit that nail on the head. Mutual friends seemed to be the first casualty and the most assured one too.
I didn't have that with either of my marriages because we made it obvious that we were cool and no hard feelings, so friends didn't feel like they had to be "loyal" or whatever.
GWguy
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That doesn't apply to just ex's either. I've been in a car with my long-time married friends when they had a go at it. At one point they turn to me to back up one or the others side. I looked at them and said 'no way, I have to be neutral, I can't take a side with either of you'.
Fortunately, they understood. (but I usually take her side... she's cuter...)
Hank
my war
Wenchy
Hot Flash
I could write a book.
DH and I split but we still got along...for years...until the girlfriend.
I don't blame her because DH still had more than "friend" feelings for me.
Our relationship is different now, and we do have children in common. He basically raised my daughter and we have a son together. I was/am close to his daughters from a previous marriage.
I still get a hug and a kiss when we meet to "swap" our son. That sounds bad but it's the way it is.
We care about each other.
DH and I split but we still got along...for years...until the girlfriend.
I don't blame her because DH still had more than "friend" feelings for me.
Our relationship is different now, and we do have children in common. He basically raised my daughter and we have a son together. I was/am close to his daughters from a previous marriage.
I still get a hug and a kiss when we meet to "swap" our son. That sounds bad but it's the way it is.
We care about each other.
Dakota
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lol... I always feel awkward when there is more than one person in a room that I have slept with.
I'm kidding... I've been married forever and only really have 2 exes that I dated for any length of time. One wanted me to move with him to Virginia (closer to West Virginia) and I wouldn't go. I was young, just graduated high school and he was older. Soon after, he got a girlfriend and graduated to hating my guts. That girlfriend eventually became his wife then his 1st ex-wife (he's in the process of divorcing for a 3rd time now). I was friendly with the rest of his family and when his younger brother died, my husband and I were right there. His younger brother was good friends with my sister. We are friends now – but there is zero attraction – more like relief.
The other guy was somebody I lived with and he was physically abusive…. Or rather became physically abusive after I moved in. I moved out while he was passed out drunk…. About 3-4 years ago (might have been longer than that) he walked up to me at the store… my husband was close by and he apologized to me. Even still, I wouldn’t go out of my way to speak to him. He’s another that is getting his 3rd divorce. His parents are friends with my dad… which is awkward.
IMO, you only live once... and we are only here a minute so no reason for hating anyone… but there are instances where it is best to leave that ex in the past… where they belong.
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withrespect
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I'm kidding... I've been married forever and only really have 2 exes that I dated for any length of time. One wanted me to move with him to Virginia (closer to West Virginia) and I wouldn't go. I was young, just graduated high school and he was older. Soon after, he got a girlfriend and graduated to hating my guts. That girlfriend eventually became his wife then his 1st ex-wife (he's in the process of divorcing for a 3rd time now). I was friendly with the rest of his family and when his younger brother died, my husband and I were right there. His younger brother was good friends with my sister. We are friends now – but there is zero attraction – more like relief.
The other guy was somebody I lived with and he was physically abusive…. Or rather became physically abusive after I moved in. I moved out while he was passed out drunk…. About 3-4 years ago (might have been longer than that) he walked up to me at the store… my husband was close by and he apologized to me. Even still, I wouldn’t go out of my way to speak to him. He’s another that is getting his 3rd divorce. His parents are friends with my dad… which is awkward.
IMO, you only live once... and we are only here a minute so no reason for hating anyone… but there are instances where it is best to leave that ex in the past… where they belong.
I have been in one serious relationship after another. And then I got married so I don't have to worry about that #### anymore. 
I guess I have one ex that I am ok with but that is only because he lives on the other side of the country now so we don't speak. I am a crazy beeyotch.... It is a miracle of God someone loved me enough to put up with my ass and marry me.
My poor husband.
Wenchy
Hot Flash
My latest song.
Some SO's are easy to get along with and some you just have to cut ties with.
No children in common makes it easy.
My children didn't like him and his child didn't like me.
Easy.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8UVNT4wvIGY
Some SO's are easy to get along with and some you just have to cut ties with.
No children in common makes it easy.
My children didn't like him and his child didn't like me.
Easy.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8UVNT4wvIGY
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belvak
Happy Camper
I don't have an "ex", and hope it stays that way forever (30 years and counting)! It would be hell to lose my best friend in the world! On topic though, we have friends of both varieties. From my perspective, it seems it is mostly determined by what kind of people they are at heart, and the reason that their relationship fell apart.
Wenchy
Hot Flash
to you and 30 years.
Not me, man. I jump right in. I used to HATE it when I'd appeal to someone else to talk some sense into Larry and they'd puss out with the old, "Oh, I don't want to get involved..."
If you don't want to get involved with your friends and family, what the hell good are you??
When one of the parties - doesn't matter which one - is being an ass and their target appeals to you for help, you give it. The end. If ass doesn't like it, that's their problem. They shouldn't be an ass in front of other people.
Same goes with friends who ask me for an opinion on whatever is going on with them. If they're in the wrong or being a jerk, I will tell them so.
Once more:
If you don't want to get involved with your friends and family, what the hell good are you?
belvak
Happy Camper