Getting along with the Ex
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Chasey_Lane
Salt Life
I don't have a relationship with my daughter's dad, but I'm good friends with his ex-wife. 
Dakota
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Here's a good one for ya-
I went the wake of my soon to ex's father. Her 3 ex husbands, me (soon to be ex#4) and her new boyfriend were there...talk about awkward! The funny part was when the new BF came up to ex#3 and said hey you must be...thinking it was me. ( I wonder if he knows what he's getting himself into)Plus I went with her kids from ex#2 and BF between #1 & #2 and they hung out with me. I need to write book!
You sound like you could be a member of my family…. Shesh
Several years ago, my cousin called up this man that also fathered a daughter with the same women he did. They, now, each have sole custody of their daughters and mom eventually bailed out of the picture (the close relationship between the 2 men I think really bothered her). But, we all get along well and the girls get to have a close relationship because these 2 guys decided to be friends. I adore them both very much and am glad they are this way.
My dad called my step mother’s ex-husband up many years ago and he has attended several family dinners since. We also have an aunt that left our uncle many years ago… she has since remarried and has another daughter (3 total – 2 with the ex). Everyone gets along well and they come to our parties and such.
I have a relative that has been married 3 times and him and his 3rd wife help his 2nd wife out whenever they can because she has cancer again. There is no animosity or anything and my dad calls her often to see how she is doing and any one of them will drive her to any place she needs driven.
Then we tried to maintain a relationship with another now ex of one of our relatives and all hell broke loose. He left her so why it bothers him that we are still friends with her is beyond me… makes no sense. I guess about a month ago, him and his now ‘new’ wife treated my husband and I like we had the bubonic plague at a family dinner. His wife is much more vocal about hating my guts than my husband’s guts (behind our backs - not to our face). I don’t do well with conflict like that… makes me want to punch people like that in the face.
And I will not lie, I almost confronted her about it and it wouldn't have been nice. I've known the new wife longer than the old one but that doesn't matter... there are children involved and no reason to act this way.I do understand though that when a relationship ends that is or was abusive... no contact really should be used for your best interest though... of course none of that existed in the examples above.
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Railroad
Routinely Derailed
My ex left me in June of this year (after a 33-year marriage), and I helped with the endless data calls and forms she had to complete to get assistance so she could move into a nursing home. Also, I agreed to all the terms of separation without any argument and have given her all the personal property she asked for (32 boxes plus other things too big to box, like furniture). During that time I was able to talk to her a number of times and tried to assure her there were no hard feelings on my part. She isn't to the point where she'd be comfortable with a visit from me, and now we only correspond through our daughter. I don't know if that will ever change, but it's early yet. I feel like I'd be a little nervous about seeing her again, but I'd be friendly.
But I don't want any more breakups. If that entails making big changes in myself, I'm still willing.
But I don't want any more breakups. If that entails making big changes in myself, I'm still willing.
SoMDGirl42
Well-Known Member
My ex in staying with me right now because his girlfriend threw him out.
I said he could stay a few days. It's been a few weeks. The jerk needs to go like, YESTERDAY. He's driving me insane. I prefer him to be an ex not staying at my house.
ONLY reason I allowed him to stay is he is my daughter's father and he'd be living on the streets. It's time he go live on the streets before I kill him.
mamatutu
mama to two
I felt a very strong urge to give you a hug after reading your story. I am sorry for your breakup. I hope things work out.
Hank
my war
Are you guys boinking?
SoMDGirl42
Well-Known Member
OH HELL NO
I wouldn't touch that with a 10 foot pole. I know where it's been the last 2 years
dontknowwhy
New Member
My wife & I split for awhile but decided to give it another shot
I figured a second honeymoon might do the trick
Kinda tragic how snorkling in Aruba always turns out for us Americans
I figured a second honeymoon might do the trick
Kinda tragic how snorkling in Aruba always turns out for us Americans
Yep, you need some help.
My problem (little tiny fist)
Not my problem (big huge arm wave)
Baja28
Obama destroyed America
Yanno you didn't have to air our crap here. The house is pretty much done and I'll be going back this weekend.
And how do you know where Thor has been the last two years?
Hank
my war
Yanno you didn't have to air our crap here. The house is pretty much done and I'll be going back this weekend.
And how do you know where Thor has been the last two years?
Oh damn... K_Jo is gonna be pissed, you stud!
Baja28
Obama destroyed America
I'll fill her with booze at AR this evening then fill her with Thor later. She'll be very happy.
Railroad
Routinely Derailed
I felt a very strong urge to give you a hug after reading your story. I am sorry for your breakup. I hope things work out.
Thank you! They will.
I'll fill her with booze at AR this evening then fill her with Thor later. She'll be very happy.
Sorry to burst your bubble, but I think I'm going solo.
Oh good. You're a light drinker. Bar tab will be reasonable....
She's not bringing her DD...
Oh good. You're a light drinker. Bar tab will be reasonable....
Oh this sounds like a challenge.
Oops you're right, I should have had more kids!