Guilt by Association

[itsbob]

I am hanging out with A and no sex will be involved.

:shrug:

Sucks to be A

 

[K_Jo]

I would let you buy me lunch, but I am afraid to be seen with you.

That's understandable, since I am an alcoholic and a whore.

 

[MysticalMom]

That's understandable, since I am an alcoholic and a whore.

Come to Crackhead. I'll make it all better.

 

[RoseRed]

That's understandable, since I am an alcoholic and a whore.

And I am Mother Theresa.

 

[nachomama]

Sure it does.
A asks me to hang out.
I tell my friend B I am hanging out with A.
B says to me - oh I don't like A. I heard she does sex tricks. C hangs out with and was arrested last week. Made the paper.
I tell B - well, I am not hanging out with C I am hanging out with A and no sex will be involved.

:shrug:

Am I the "A" to which you are referring?

 

[Pete]

Those are all minor examples and nobody thinks ALL friends are EXACTLY the same. I'm talking about character issues:

Your first friend not only smokes pot, but steals to get it (and you know about it but still choose to keep them as a friend).

The second friend is cheating on her husband and uses your cellphone to arrange her hookups.

The third friend routinely drives drunk, endangering others, and gets in drunken bar fights. (I get "alcoholic" karma all the time - I think it's because of my association with Pete )

Those are the types of associations we're talking about - not that Pixie has a terrible fashion sense, so you must too because you hang out with her.

 

[dems4me]

 

[migtig]

Am I the "A" to which you are referring?

Do ya wanna be?

 

[nachomama]

Do ya wanna be?

I thought I already was.

 

[migtig]

I thought I already was.

It was all made up to use as an example how one shouldn't judge. If it was about you I would have brought up all those neat positions and poses you can hold

 

[dems4me]

It was all made up to use as an example how one shouldn't judge. If it was about you I would have brought up all those neat positions and poses you can hold

Remember when you judged me the first time you met me? :shrug: You were waaayyyy off : :

 

[nachomama]

It was all made up to use as an example how one shouldn't judge. If it was about you I would have brought up all those neat positions and poses you can hold

Oh! :lightbulb: I got it! I was thinking of how we call ourselves the "A-Team" and how the other group we call the "B-Team" gets jealous of us.

 

[missperky]

I'm always guilty.

 

[migtig]

Remember when you judged me the first time you met me? :shrug: You were waaayyyy off : :

Exactly. I did apologize to you, but I am sorry for that.

That's the thing though, pre-judging someone is not the way to go. You miss out on the chance to get to know some really great people. I have made some friends from all different walks of life. Each one of them contributes something to the soup so to say. Not all are well educated, but darn if some of them don't have a vast amount of intellect. Not all have had any chance in life, but darn if they aren't positive people. Not all dress like 9-5ers, some wear grease stained uniforms, but darn if they don't know how to have a good time. I would hate to think I would have missed out on the opportunity to know some great people if I never gave them a chance.

 

[dems4me]

Exactly. I did apologize to you, but I am sorry for that.

I know - good thing is we've become good enough friends now where we can laugh about it At least I can I will always tease you about that

 

[MMDad]

Those are the types of associations we're talking about - not that Pixie has a terrible fashion sense, so you must too because you hang out with her.

What about the way that Pixie only hangs out with fat chicks so she looks better?

It doesn't make her guilty of being fat by association. :shrug:

 

[wkndbeacher]

It was all made up to use as an example how one shouldn't judge. If it was about you I would have brought up all those neat positions and poses you can hold

oh yeah the ones floating on the net those are HOT

 

[nachomama]

What about the way that Pixie only hangs out with fat chicks so she looks better?

It doesn't make her guilty of being fat by association. :shrug:

uttingfriedoreosdown: I am not fat. ickingfriedoreosup:

 

[mommarock]

I can see where this holds true a lot of times. However, I don't think that is always the case.

 

[Ken King]

Those are all minor examples and nobody thinks ALL friends are EXACTLY the same. I'm talking about character issues:

Your first friend not only smokes pot, but steals to get it (and you know about it but still choose to keep them as a friend).

And did you ever think that the relationship remains because the one needs help getting their life together and the other is willing to help as a friend would do?

The second friend is cheating on her husband and uses your cellphone to arrange her hookups.

Maybe the phone is lent to the friend because they know how miserable their friend has been and what they are dealing with and only want their friend happy again like they used to be,

The third friend routinely drives drunk, endangering others, and gets in drunken bar fights. (I get "alcoholic" karma all the time - I think it's because of my association with Pete )

So your idea of proper behavior is to distance yourself from a friend in obvious need of help and just let whatever happens happen wthout trying to save your friend and maybe others,

Those are the types of associations we're talking about - not that Pixie has a terrible fashion sense, so you must too because you hang out with her.

Character, what is it when someone is judgemental, uncaring, and stereotypes others, oh yeah, you call them friends.