Help With The Kid..........

[BS Gal]

In my opinion,

if you really want to help your son and his family then he needs to make up with his wife and get back his daughter's family unit.

His wife is his first duty and not you nor that schooling.

The grandparents have so very much power and influence so that if the grandparents help the marriage then it is more likely to stand the trials,

and if the grandparents do not accept the divorce then it is much harder to happen.

But grandparents and parents-in-law that push for divorce or even accept divorce puts a huge burden on any young family.

Your daughter-in-law is now forever a part of your family whether you like it or divorce or not.

Kindly shut up, JPC. TIA.

 

[Qurious]

the only thing you really can do is just let him learn on his own....

if he's acting like this at his age, I wonder how good of a father he is?

Keep a close eye on his behavior with the grandchild....let him handle his personal issues with his wife on his own....

 

[BS Gal]

the only thing you really can do is just let him learn on his own....

if he's acting like this at his age, I wonder how good of a father he is?

Keep a close eye on his behavior with the grandchild....let him handle his personal issues with his wife on his own....

If he's acting like WHAT? Sounds to me like he is trying to better his life by going to school so he can better support the wife and child. Sounds like he has his head pretty firmly on his shoulders and a goal.

 

[Qurious]

If he's acting like WHAT? Sounds to me like he is trying to better his life by going to school so he can better support the wife and child. Sounds like he has his head pretty firmly on his shoulders and a goal.

If he's acting like a low self esteemed boy who when confronted with adulterous acts can't act like a man and stand up for him and his son.

Instead of trying to give this nasty trick chance after chance he should be focusing on his child - NOT HIS WIFE....and take care of the baby. I'd immediatly file for custody. A judge would love to hear how nasty this trick is....

 

[camily]

In my opinion,

if you really want to help your son and his family then he needs to make up with his wife and get back his daughter's family unit.

His wife is his first duty and not you nor that schooling.

The grandparents have so very much power and influence so that if the grandparents help the marriage then it is more likely to stand the trials,

and if the grandparents do not accept the divorce then it is much harder to happen.

But grandparents and parents-in-law that push for divorce or even accept divorce puts a huge burden on any young family.

Your daughter-in-law is now forever a part of your family whether you like it or divorce or not.

God help me. I agree with you again.

 

[chewy3384]

Im sorry but 21 in my opinion is too young for a child or marriage. I was unmarried and had my daughter at 21. I was NOT READY FOR IT! My family helped me alot and still does. Like many have said... just tell him your opinion and let him learn from his mistakes. Be proud of him for trying to keep a family together. Most of all....secure the child. If his wife is really that bad, then that should be both of your concern first and foremost. It is one thing to let your son learn from mistakes...but the child should be protected as best you can.

 

[sockgirl77]

Im sorry but 21 in my opinion is too young for a child or marriage.

Not necessarily. My parents had me at 21. They were ready. My grand parents got married at 15 and began to have kids at 16. It all depends on the person.
Oh and...it doesn't matter how old you are, you are never truly prepared for a child.

 

[sockgirl77]

Kindly shut up, JPC. TIA.

I love you more and more each day!

 

[CRoyal]

Not necessarily. My parents had me at 21. They were ready. My grand parents got married at 15 and began to have kids at 16. It all depends on the person.
Oh and...it doesn't matter how old you are, you are never truly prepared for a child.

Yes, the more life experience and knowledge you have to offer a child that comes into your world, the better. Ask ANY psych professional-- someone at 16 years old is not mentally prepared for parenthood.. 21 is not far off, you should be building your professional career and coming into who YOU are, not trying to raise a kid.
Also, the older someone is, usually the more financially stable you are to provide for a child.
This day and age, having kids young is a risk and an outdated way of living.
In my most not humble opinion.

 

[Chasey_Lane]

Oh and...it doesn't matter how old you are, you are never truly prepared for a child.

Why not?

 

[BS Gal]

I love you more and more each day!

 

[sockgirl77]

Why not?

I've seen people try for years to get pregnant. After finally doing so they were amazed at how much work a new baby is and at how much they cost. This includes my parents who were both remarried and had kids after 3 years of marriage. Even after having me, they were not truly prepared for having a baby.
Having a baby completly changes your life. I was almost 27 when I had my first. I thought I was totally ready. Nope.

 

[Chasey_Lane]

I've seen people try for years to get pregnant. After finally doing so they were amazed at how much work a new baby is and at how much they cost. This includes my parents who were both remarried and had kids after 3 years of marriage. Even after having me, they were not truly prepared for having a baby.
Having a baby completly changes your life. I was almost 27 when I had my first. I thought I was totally ready. Nope.

That's not every scenario and you cannot automatically assume nobody is ever ready for a child.

 

[sockgirl77]

That's not every scenario and you cannot automatically assume nobody is every ready for a child.

I have yet to see anyone who is truly ready for what having a child does to their life. :shrug:

 

[Chasey_Lane]

I have yet to see anyone who is truly ready for what having a child does to their life. :shrug:

Oh whatever.

 

[sockgirl77]

Oh whatever.

I just love your snide remarks. Makes my day. Thanks.

 

[chewy3384]

Not necessarily. My parents had me at 21. They were ready. My grand parents got married at 15 and began to have kids at 16. It all depends on the person.
Oh and...it doesn't matter how old you are, you are never truly prepared for a child.

I completely agree that you are never fully prepared for a child. And yes there are some cases where young people have the mindset and finances to properly raise children. This is not a personal attack..... but there is also a huge difference between keeping a child alive until adulthood, and properly raising children.

sorry about threadjacking.......back on target people!!!.....j/k

 

[sockgirl77]

Not necessarily. My parents had me at 21. They were ready. My grand parents got married at 15 and began to have kids at 16. It all depends on the person.
Oh and...it doesn't matter how old you are, you are never truly prepared for a child.

Help With The Kid......... 09-13-2007 10:16 AM if no one is ready, how were your parents ready at 21?

What I meant was that my parents were mature enough for a child.

 

[Chasey_Lane]

I just love your snide remarks. Makes my day. Thanks.

Stupid remarks deserve snide comments.

 

[chewy3384]

I've been on the forums for 2hrs and already messed up my karma.......i'm not usually this much of a troublemaker.