Let me say, I don't resent Chasey and Kwillia smacking me in the head with the truth:
Chasey said:
Seriously, Vrai...kids go away to college and succeed; it's not far fetched for one to do so. In all honesty, she showed a pattern of behavioral problems long before failing a class, and I believe this is only the beginning for you.
Kwillia said:
Vrai, I'm thinking this is the same daughter you had mentioned "cleaning up behind" several times before, even for things such as running her school books to school because she didn't think about them until to late, etc. If it is the same kid, it makes sense pulling her back home if you intend to keep prodding her along and assisting her with her responsibilities into adulthood. There are some kids that need continuous parenting well into adulthood. Perhaps this is how she functions best.
Ouch. But there you have it.
Kwillia is right about me spending years cleaning up her messes because of her lack of organization and planning, not to mention that her priorities are all screwed up. In hindsight, we should have known better than to toss this kid into a college like NYU. We figured she'd get her #### together because she HAD to - there was no Mommy dropping what she's doing to take came of some "emergency" that could have been easily prevented.
She'd still call me on Saturday morning because she needed money for books for a class that started on Monday. Same ####, different day. So obviously the "sink or swim" method didn't work like I had hoped - she sunk like a rock.
It's frustrating because she had a "pity me, it's not my fault" mentality before and NYU has just reinforced it, from her teachers down to her classmates, because that's how they all think. So our problem with her is worse than when we started.
At the end of the day, she's not the first kid who ever flunked out of college. We'll all lick our wounds over this, then make a plan and move forward.