Be ADVISED....
the following conversation took place "after the fact" tha she left her husband....with 2 kids...and drainging his bank acct. down to $50.
you will plainly be able to see how she employes help from others knowing full well she is in the wrong.
my ONLY regret in posting this is that I do it alone, there are half a dozen other members that also know the full story (not necessarily stated below) however they choose to let this skank pull one over on her husband
Wednesday aug. 29
NOMONEY
alright, so he's already moved on and has a new girlfriend. Her names Ashley. Of course he doesn't know I know yet , thats the beauty of it all. So my quesion to y'all......
I know he's taken her to my house, I know he's been with her at the green door, I know he even took her to a family wedding this last weekend and introduced her to his dad, etc......should I let him know I know? Or should I go ahead and keep letting him hang himself and hit him with a 30 day divorce when I have enough witnesses, proof?
and jamie, if you could find out her last name, etc from JD maybe; that would be awesome. I'd love to do my typical background search on her to see if she's a loony bin so I know what im getting into....
CHASEY LANE
I heard about the wedding thing this weekend. What an ass! How can he think that you don't know? I'd ring his ass in court if I were you. AND, if you play along like you don't give a shiat, it'll probably upset him more. HOWEVER, how do you make sure that the boys are not around her? I mean, I think it is a little too soon to be introducing them to "daddy's friend."
Nomo, how about we follow him around town this weekend? A secret, covert operation, eh?
JABBAJAWZ
I'd hit it with the 30-day divorce as nicely as I could. I mean, that would make things so much easier for you to be done and overwith it quickly! Tell him you ain't mad at him, but you're ready to move on also and that this will just make things easier.
NOMONEY
well this week he has the boys, so I would hope he's decent enough not to be around her at all.
But next week i could leave the boys with my momma , she'd be happy to know i was going on a covert operation, you can drive the suv (he wont recognize it) and I can bring my camera.....it will be great fun
CHASEY LANE
See, exactly! Seriously, let me know if you are up for it. It would be awesome to roll into court and throw down a bunch of pictures in front of him.
But...before you do that...can you get something in writing (from him) that says he is allowing you to leave the house you and him have together? That way he can't turn around and get you for abandonment. I know he said he wouldn't, but if you pull this card, he could always counter back.
NOMONEY
I'm serious about doing that. It would actually be kind of fun.
Tue and thurs would be the best bets because he'll have games then and I'll at least know where he'll be and be able to follow him. I have an insider that could tell me from his game if he has plans to go anywhere after, it might be a quick call you and roll scenerio
NOMONEY
how should I write that up? I should get the 50/50 thing with the boys written up as well huh?
I mean its not like I'm going to hit him with child support etc. I just would love the 30 day divorce; be done with it. And that means a quicker decision on the house as well.
NOMONEY
I can't know yet until I know how i'm going to play this.
CHASEY LANE
Sounds good to me. Want me to draft something for you? I'm pretty good at writing when I need/want to.
Send me a good email addy to send it to. I need some additional information first. What are the exact days and times for the 50/50 custody?
NOMONEY
Monday-Monday starting at 4pm.
daycare is 50/50. they stay under his insurance. I'll assist with copays, etc. any details with the children concerning their health care and school activities are to be decided upon together
CHASEY LANE
Okay, give me a little bit and I'll send.
Alright, done! Check your email.
NOMONEY
You're the bestest
JAMEO
Can't ya'll just kiss and make up?
I've always considered you and Steve friends. I hate seeing ya'll go thru this
NOMONEY
there's def no chance for reconciliation. But dont worry girl, I'm not going to make you pick and choose ....I know some of our common friends are feeling weird about which one of us they have to remain friends with etc....I would never make any of them feel akward. Actually now that im thinking about it, i dont want to put you in the middle by asking you to get her last name for me. that wasn't fair of me. steve and I dont hate eachother, I won't bad talk him to our common friends-thats not fair either. If some choose him and quit talking to me all together, then so be it. I'm fine with that and I understand completely. Some have chosen me as well even though I've made it clear that its not necessary. I'd prefer to keep the common/shared friends just that.
CMC
Just tell him you know and ask him to fess up to it so you get the 30 day
Easier for both or you and there won't be any ####tiness over it all. You do have to deal with this man for the rest of your life because of the boys so IMO the less drama the better.
NOMONEY
thats very true, good point. I think I'll get him to sign this agreement, do the covert trip next week to get some pics incase he decides to deny deny deny, then let him know I know and try to make it as easy on him about it as possible. Hell if he's getting some he'll be less likey to be a dick to me. so its a good thing
JAMEO
What's a 30 day divorce anyways? (besides the obvious
CMC
Instead of having to be "seperated" for a year and then filing for divorce you get to be divorced in 30 days
It'll probably be cheaper for both of them in the long run
JAMEO
Is there certain grounds for a 30 dayer? If not, why wouldn't all divorces be like this instead of having to be separated and drug out for a year?
CHASEY LANE
And nomo, if you and Steve can agree on divorce terms, don't waste time with lawyers. You can file on your own and just pay court costs of like $30 or something.
ELLE
Wow, that's pretty fast for him to be soo distraught and then to move on like this. But I guess it makes things better for you. I'd try to not let on that you know until you can get proof. Since you are the one that left, I doubt that he'd admit to anything just to not make himself look bad so I'd wait out if you can until you have proof.
NOMONEY
I'm just scared he introduces her to the boys. Its way to early for that. I wouldn't think he would-but hell I wouldn't have thought he'd take her to a family function yet either and introduce her as his girlfriend. So who knows what he's thinking.
Heard she's extremely young to, and that concerns me.
not a problem.
