Honest Opinion and/or Insight

[retiredweaxman]

blah blah blah, here u have the sedentary bunch, the sistahood, the 1`s that aint had any in a coons age, estranged w/e relationships with whomever, the bored archaics, & w/e else in it.

Basically InMarsh,
i got challenged when i first came in2 these open forums, (as i was also accused of the chat room petering out) Yet my suggestions on how to improve certain aspects of this site in a business/$ manner were welcomed. (& they r on record also) & was even accused/mistaken 4 some other person in a local hangout there (BW & B). But i corrected that bs real quik. As far as others that challenged me or tried to call me out, i put their azzes in a trick real quik. Kinda like i know u, but u don`t know me Expose.
& a bunch of y`all to include the Bored Mommy, never had me fooled from go street, i was on2 this bs b4 they even knew it. & sum1 knows sumthin that the rest doesn`t know about when it comes to social chat networks random monitoring/viewing.
If u think 4 a second that all that bs isn`t archived elsewhere by like i told ya "never know who is really monitoring websites of this nature" , you are more than sadly mistaken.
& the kicker to it all, no1 still knows who this member acct user is.

It's no wonder I have you on iggy....I have no idea where your last post came from...talk about coming "out of left field."

 

[lnmarsh]

1) If you have to detox then yes you have a problem and can be labled a junkie.

Just because you withdrawal from meds does NOT mean you’re a junkie nor means that you have a problem. Look, hes on a high-ish dose of extended-release morphine. He takes it twice a day. After missing 4 doses (partly he did KNOWINGLY and WILLINGLY), his body went into withdrawals. Its morphine. That’s powerful stuff. Because his body physically craved it dosnt make him a junkie. If he can knowing and willingly skip doses, hes not a junkie

2) Which is it he was detoxing or had food poisoning? I'm confused

He knows for sure he was withdrawling. He thinks he also may have has food poisoning, but isnt sure. Im not sure where I posted that part but I know I did somewhere…

3) Who drove him home? He wouldn't be allowed to drive home after recieving morphine and anti nauseua meds hospitals make you get a ride home and will let you use the phone to call for one.

His mother drove him home, as she drove him to the hospital because he was not in a state to be able to drive himself.

4) Yes, it is my assertation that he is lying to you and playing on you sympathy and is playing you based on the facts that you provided in your posts.

Ok.

5) Yes I'm sure for him "losing" the baby was hurtful but it is far harder on women and most men with testicles don't question their relationship with their girlfriend of 4 years because she miscarried their baby

Now don’t get me wrong - things between him and I havnt always been rainbows and butterflies. We've had some massive fights, taken "breaks" (never lasted very long), etc. Most of it had to do with the fact that we were so young when we met and we both had a lot of maturing to do.

He isnt questioning the relationship because of me losing the baby. He is questioning our relationship because of things that have happened in the past.

6) Good for him that he was a Marine and served our country my hubby is a retired service member and I have nothing but respect for them....however the fact that he was an honerably discharged Marine doesn't mean that that alone make him an upstanding guy. Based on YOUR posts he comes across as dishonest person.

You’re right – just because he was a Marine dosnt make him an upstanding guy. And I understand that your take on my posts made him sound dishonest.

Men who are in love with their women DO NOT forget to call, text when they say they will and do not cause you to worry all weekend about their whereabouts. PERIOD real men don't do that. I wish you all the best I was with a man that sounds like your guy for 2 years. He too didn't call when he said he would, would forget to text, could never be reached and was shady about where he was. Just trying to spare you some heartache. Good luck with him because unfortunately it sounds like you are going to need it.

Thanks for the good-luck wishes. My car’s tanny just died. At this point, I could use some good luck.

 

[onebdzee]

1) If you have to detox then yes you have a problem and can be labled a junkie.

2) Which is it he was detoxing or had food poisoning? I'm confused

3) Who drove him home? He wouldn't be allowed to drive home after recieving morphine and anti nauseua meds hospitals make you get a ride home and will let you use the phone to call for one.

4) Yes, it is my assertation that he is lying to you and playing on you sympathy and is playing you based on the facts that you provided in your posts.

5) Yes I'm sure for him "losing" the baby was hurtful but it is far harder on women and most men with testicles don't question their relationship with their girlfriend of 4 years because she miscarried their baby

6) Good for him that he was a Marine and served our country my hubby is a retired service member and I have nothing but respect for them....however the fact that he was an honerably discharged Marine doesn't mean that that alone make him an upstanding guy. Based on YOUR posts he comes across as dishonest person.

Men who are in love with their women DO NOT forget to call, text when they say they will and do not cause you to worry all weekend about their whereabouts. PERIOD real men don't do that. I wish you all the best I was with a man that sounds like your guy for 2 years. He too didn't call when he said he would, would forget to text, could never be reached and was shady about where he was. Just trying to spare you some heartache. Good luck with him because unfortunately it sounds like you are going to need it.

wonder if she will see all the flags that you and I have put out there?....my guess is no

 

[Booboo3604]

1) If you have to detox then yes you have a problem and can be labled a junkie.

I will argue this. A girl I used to work with had back surgery after a horrific car accident a few years ago. She was on very strong pain medication for several months. The last few weeks on it her doctor basically had to wean her off it because as he said "her body had become physically addicted to it". She has since moved on to a job at NSA where part of her polygraph questioned her drug use. She told them about the situation and passed the questions relating to misuse of the medication and incidents related to any other types of drug use. I think my coworker and the OP's boyfriend based on what was said are nowhere close within the realm of a "junkie". If he is still on the medication, his body could have some harsh reactions to quitting cold turkey.

 

[onebdzee]

His mother drove him home, as she drove him to the hospital because he was not in a state to be able to drive himself.

I don't believe you ever mentioned this....matter of fact, I believe that you stated he drove himself to the hospital....seems you are making stuff up as you go along to defend him

and you wonder why we all think he is a liar

 

[High-Def]

I will argue this. A girl I used to work with had back surgery after a horrific car accident a few years ago. She was on very strong pain medication for several months. The last few weeks on it her doctor basically had to wean her off it because as he said "her body had become physically addicted to it". She has since moved on to a job at NSA where part of her polygraph questioned her drug use. She told them about the situation and passed the questions relating to misuse of the medication and incidents related to any other types of drug use. I think my coworker and the OP's boyfriend based on what was said are nowhere close within the realm of a "junkie". If he is still on the medication, his body could have some harsh reactions to quitting cold turkey.

I had cancer and lived on pain meds for 2 years. They are hard to get off of yes but why would someone who "needs" them knowingly and willingly stop if they truly are in pain? Any one with any sort of common sense knows you need to wean off of them not stop cold turkey.

 

[High-Def]

I don't believe you ever mentioned this....matter of fact, I believe that you stated he drove himself to the hospital....seems you are making stuff up as you go along to defend him

and you wonder why we all think he is a liar

And why did his mother not call to let her know her s/o of 4 years was ill at the hospital? Ummm that's just not adding up my first thought would be to say mom call so and so and let them know what's going on but to each his own

 

[High-Def]

wonder if she will see all the flags that you and I have put out there?....my guess is no

My guess is no love is deaf, blind and dumb sometimes....been there done that sometimes you just have to learn the hard way

 

[lnmarsh]

Just remember that the Marines teach HONOR and yeah their are some bad apples everywhere, for the most part believe in your Man untill your heart tells you different. As far as the disibility and ER charges, the VA and tricare work together for service related matters and really only comes down to what bucket of cash do you draw from. The VA has multiple levels of service (up to eight) depending on service persons status and disibility. The tricare is more set up like a health insurance network and would simply be the initial start of the process to admitt him to a private emergency service and garentee payment and they would then sort out the "what bucket of cash do we draw from". Remind him that there are alot of private non profit groups that could possibly help with his back such as wounded warrior and others. Sorry to hear about his buddy. This happens way to much with our vets in America. Remind your former Marine that Maryland State has a new (upgraded) veterans program that he might want to check out. Maryland State is doing alot more to supplement the U.S Gov VA system. Good Luck to both of you.

He has actually gotten a lot of help from one Marine-specific program. They funded him for a non-surgical procedure when TriCare wouldn’t. It was a temporary fix, but it worked! Unfortunately, 3 herniated disks, 2 bulging disks, 1 narrowing disk due to Degenerative Disk Disease and a fractured vertebrae isn’t something that’s a “quick fix.” The VA just keeps stressing him to let them fuse his back. Hes like “Hell no.”

And thank you

Actually, I am surprised it took this long to get nasty..must be a record. Either way, I wish you luck. SOunds like you got what you were worried about straightened out, and I see no evidnec that he was doing coke off a hookers ass or anything else others have imagined. Sounds like he wanted a weekend away without having to call. I want that too, sometimes..to go out with my girls and not have to check in anywhere. i'm glad thigns worked out for you and hope they continue.

@ the coke comment

Exactly - I think he just wanted to chill this past weekend. I want/do that sometimes, too. I definitely wish he had called and it irks me that he didnt, but it is what it is and honestly, him not texting me for two nights isnt grounds for me to leave him IMO. Grounds for me to get pissy, but not to leave him.

Thanks for the kind words

 

[High-Def]

Thanks for the good-luck wishes. My car’s tanny just died. At this point, I could use some good luck.

It'll happen...I've been in your shoes it's a long hard lesson to learn but the light on the other side of the tunnel does come you just have to be willing to see it

 

[onebdzee]

I had cancer and lived on pain meds for 2 years. They are hard to get off of yes but why would someone who "needs" them knowingly and willingly stop if they truly are in pain? Any one with any sort of common sense knows you need to wean off of them not stop cold turkey.

You also know that you aren't suppose to be drinking when you are on pain killers, also

And why did his mother not call to let her know her s/o of 4 years was ill at the hospital? Ummm that's just not adding up my first thoought would be to say mom call so and so and let them know what's going on but to each his own

I KNOW THE ANSWER TO THIS!!!!!!!.....His mother doesn't know that they are in a relationship.......

WAIT!!!!......his mother didn't get out of the car and/or didn't have reception in the hospital either

what'd I win????

 

[High-Def]

You also know that you aren't suppose to be drinking when you are on pain killers, also



I KNOW THE ANSWER TO THIS!!!!!!!.....His mother doesn't know that they are in a relationship.......

WAIT!!!!......his mother didn't get out of the car and/or didn't have reception in the hospital either

what'd I win????

I like the way you think you read my mind

 

[lnmarsh]

I will argue this. A girl I used to work with had back surgery after a horrific car accident a few years ago. She was on very strong pain medication for several months. The last few weeks on it her doctor basically had to wean her off it because as he said "her body had become physically addicted to it". She has since moved on to a job at NSA where part of her polygraph questioned her drug use. She told them about the situation and passed the questions relating to misuse of the medication and incidents related to any other types of drug use. I think my coworker and the OP's boyfriend based on what was said are nowhere close within the realm of a "junkie". If he is still on the medication, his body could have some harsh reactions to quitting cold turkey.

I don't believe you ever mentioned this....matter of fact, I believe that you stated he drove himself to the hospital....seems you are making stuff up as you go along to defend him

and you wonder why we all think he is a liar

Im not making things up… You’re right. I didn’t mention this. I didn’t mention it because I didn’t want to get the “So big man had Mommy drive him” stigma. THAT’S why I said he went to the hospital (whether I he he drove himself or not, I don’t remember). He was hurling and/or dry heaving constantly so he couldn’t drive.

I had cancer and lived on pain meds for 2 years. They are hard to get off of yes but why would someone who "needs" them knowingly and willingly stop if they truly are in pain? Any one with any sort of common sense knows you need to wean off of them not stop cold turkey.

1.) Im sorry that you had cancer. That’s a terrible thing and Im glad to see you pulled through.
2.) What, are you NOT reading my posts and just randomly commenting on them?! He didn’t take them on Saturday because his back wasn’t hurting him and he had plans to go out drinking. Then he got to the restaurant/bar and decided to be DD. By the next morning (Sunday), however, he started getting sick (leading him to believe he had food poisoning). Because of him throwing up, he couldn’t keep down his NEXT dose of meds. Thus, by 3pm on Sunday, he had missed 4 doses of morphine and went through withdrawls. I did explain all this.

And why did his mother not call to let her know her s/o of 4 years was ill at the hospital? Ummm that's just not adding up my first thought would be to say mom call so and so and let them know what's going on but to each his own

Because his mother thinks that she is all he will ever need That, and he may have told her not to call me because he didn’t want me to worry. That’s an assumption on my part because I know how he is – I’ve seen him sick before and he dosnt want ANYONE around and/or to worry.

You also know that you aren't suppose to be drinking when you are on pain killers,

Thats why he didnt take them on Saturday. Hense the withdrawls...

It'll happen...I've been in your shoes it's a long hard lesson to learn but the light on the other side of the tunnel does come you just have to be willing to see it

Im sure the bottom line is you’re just looking out for my best interest. You just approached it in a way that bothered me. That dosnt make you or what you said wrong. Im just saying that it irked me so I came back at you the way I did.

 

[lovinmaryland]

This whole story is nothing but a hot mess! He's a junkie detoxing from pain meds, doesn't call, is a DD but got drunk and is obviously a liar by the whole my cell phone didn't have service story in the er....news flash ask to use the hospital phone they'll let you. You're a gullible naieve young woman who is getting played wake up and smell the Folgers coffee brewing honey. Roll in sh$$ smell like sh$$ as my mom used to tell me. Get out before he sucks you in to his loser drama and brings you down. And yes it's unfortunate that you back and catch another better one.

Love this line

If you really wanted straight forward answers, why not ask mutual friends, your family, his family, etc? You know, people that actually know you and your personal situation.

Because I am sure she is embarrassed of the situation and doesnt want to get family or friends involved in her drama. Here she has anonymity. I am the same way I dont like to tell my personal details to anyone friends or family.

When one of my best friends was in a bad marriage she would tell me every detail of their problems. When I offered advice she would agree it was what should be done... but then she would do the exact opposite. It got so bad I had to eventually tell her I couldnt take it anymore she either needed to stop telling me all these horrible things and asking my advice, or I couldnt be friends with her. This situation had me pretty much decide I would never involve friends or family in my relationship problems or issues.

 

[K_Jo]

Actually, I am surprised it took this long to get nasty..must be a record. Either way, I wish you luck. SOunds like you got what you were worried about straightened out, and I see no evidnec that he was doing coke off a hookers ass or anything else others have imagined. Sounds like he wanted a weekend away without having to call. I want that too, sometimes..to go out with my girls and not have to check in anywhere. i'm glad thigns worked out for you and hope they continue.

I miss Artie.

 

[High-Def]

Love this line


Because I am sure she is embarrassed of the situation and doesnt want to get family or friends involved in her drama. Here she has anonymity. I am the same way I dont like to tell my personal details to anyone friends or family.

When one of my best friends was in a bad marriage she would tell me every detail of their problems. When I offered advice she would agree it was what should be done... but then she would do the exact opposite. It got so bad I had to eventually tell her I couldnt take it anymore she either needed to stop telling me all these horrible things and asking my advice, or I couldnt be friends with her. This situation had me pretty much decide I would never involve friends or family in my relationship problems or issues.

I too have been quilty of soliciting advice and then not listening I am trying harder these days to figure it out on my own and do the smart thing. Marriage is hard work but it's worth it I am just grateful I'm not single anymore theres too many turds in the punch bowl in single life

 

[lovinmaryland]

I too have been quilty of soliciting advice and then not listening I am trying harder these days to figure it out on my own and do the smart thing. Marriage is hard work but it's worth it I am just grateful I'm not single anymore theres too many turds in the punch bowl in single life

Yeah I am sure you were this bad though... Her husband was actually stealing $ they had set aside for rent and hitting strip clubs with his buddies, coming and going at all hours of the day, left her alone on her birthday but was evil enough to call her and say "oh I am on my way home honey I have roses for you" and then showed up 2 days later.... This was out of control ####! Oh she was pregnant when this all happened too :shakinghead:

 

[lnmarsh]

Yeah I am sure you were this bad though... Her husband was actually stealing $ they had set aside for rent and hitting strip clubs with his buddies, coming and going at all hours of the day, left her alone on her birthday but was evil enough to call her and say "oh I am on my way home honey I have roses for you" and then showed up 2 days later.... This was out of control ####! Oh she was pregnant when this all happened too :shakinghead:

 

[High-Def]

Yeah I am sure you were this bad though... Her husband was actually stealing $ they had set aside for rent and hitting strip clubs with his buddies, coming and going at all hours of the day, left her alone on her birthday but was evil enough to call her and say "oh I am on my way home honey I have roses for you" and then showed up 2 days later.... This was out of control ####! Oh she was pregnant when this all happened too :shakinghead:

Oh snap now that's a dirtbag poor girl like I said love is blind, deaf and dumb sometimes

 

[whome20603]