Honest Opinion and/or Insight

[LadyWolf]

My personal opinion...I think High Def is right. This guy is young, and can come up with some of the dumbest crap. He wants his space...that is so typical of most men!!! What a crock!!! Also....if he's drunk the night before, clearly he isn't too concerned w/pain. I'm still not convinced that this story is entirely true and I'm starting to think this girl is backpedaling!!! She's put way too much out there and now can't keep track of the lies and NOW she is so busy defending him after 33 pages of people's opinions and thoughts and he is the greatest guy in the world... "We love each other AND HOW DARE YOU BE RUDE AND SAY MEAN THINGS ABOUT HIM!" I"m sorry, but I"M THINKING

I'm all for "true love", but this ain't true love... this is more like true lies!!!

 

[Roberta]

Yeah, but we don't have ALL the information. :shrug:



Actually, she isn't getting all upset. Calm down. There is no reason for YOU to get upset.

I think she was using us as a sounding board, and we all seemed to know that and gave our input off what parts of the story we were seeing and our life experiences.

That's what advice is.

And sometimes, it's easier to ask strangers for input rather than whining to your fmaily and friends. :shrug:

No worries. Besides this was a good a little tread for a while. I also hope InMarsh keeps us informed semi-regularly on their relationship.

I wish her the best.

I THINK SHE WAS USING US TO TRY TO CONVINCE HERSELF

 

[K_Jo]

I feel so used!

 

[kwillia]

I feel so used!

Better to be used than abused...

 

[Roberta]

I don't believe you ever mentioned this....matter of fact, I believe that you stated he drove himself to the hospital....seems you are making stuff up as you go along to defend him

and you wonder why we all think he is a liar

My question is: Who drove him home from DC to MOMMY?

 

[High-Def]

My personal opinion...I think High Def is right. This guy is young, and can come up with some of the dumbest crap. He wants his space...that is so typical of most men!!! What a crock!!! Also....if he's drunk the night before, clearly he isn't too concerned w/pain. I'm still not convinced that this story is entirely true and I'm starting to think this girl is backpedaling!!! She's put way too much out there and now can't keep track of the lies and NOW she is so busy defending him after 33 pages of people's opinions and thoughts and he is the greatest guy in the world... "We love each other AND HOW DARE YOU BE RUDE AND SAY MEAN THINGS ABOUT HIM!" I"m sorry, but I"M THINKING

I'm all for "true love", but this ain't true love... this is more like true lies!!!

 

[High-Def]

My question is: Who drove him home from DC to MOMMY?

excellent point

 

[ewashkow]

I've finally read through this entire thread and I still stand by my prior post. The boy may be there physically, but emotionally he is gone. He seems to be telling you what you want to hear to have you hang around and be willing to give him the occassional romp in the sack. If you are willing to stick around, so be it but don't be surprised or heart broken when you realize he has just been using you.

 

[lnmarsh]

My question is: Who drove him home from DC to MOMMY?

excellent point

His friend from NY (actually Philly but he just moved to NY but regardless). His friend isnt familiar with DC so he drove to my bf’s house Wednesday night and they left for DC together in my bf’s new truck Thursday. Or maybe he came to my bf’s Thursaday?? I honestly don’t remember. But anyway…

My bf’s friend drove home from DC, to answer your question.

Why are people continually trying to find loopholes in my bf’s story? Are you really that dead-set on getting me to believe hes a jerk? You ask questions and/or make comments such as these, I answer and/or reply to them, then you call ME a liar because I am actually able to answer and/or reply.

Your not going to change your view(s) that hes a liar, cheat, etc. no matter what I say or how concisely I answer your inquiries.

You're not going to get me to believe that his hospital story (or any other story) is BS because I've seen the evidence, and believe it or not... I TRUST my bf.

So stick that in your juicebox and suck it

I've finally read through this entire thread and I still stand by my prior post. The boy may be there physically, but emotionally he is gone. He seems to be telling you what you want to hear to have you hang around and be willing to give him the occassional romp in the sack. If you are willing to stick around, so be it but don't be surprised or heart broken when you realize he has just been using you.

I promise not to be suprised

 

[greeneyes36]

Love this line


Because I am sure she is embarrassed of the situation and doesnt want to get family or friends involved in her drama. Here she has anonymity.

NOT REALLY.......

 

[vraiblonde]

Why are people continually trying to find loopholes in my bf’s story?

Because they don't want to admit they were wrong.

If you're satisfied that your beau is telling the truth, that should be the end of it. You do not have to justify yourself to strangers on the internet.

I will tell you that his story sounded fishier than hell, and I snorted at it more than once. BUT it's your situation, you know what happened, you saw the papers or whatever, so there it is - right?

 

[onebdzee]

My question is: Who drove him home from DC to MOMMY?

I KNOW!!!!.......one of his friends that was drunk

what'd I win??

His friend from NY (actually Philly but he just moved to NY but regardless). His friend isnt familiar with DC so he drove to my bf’s house Wednesday night and they left for DC together in my bf’s new truck Thursday. Or maybe he came to my bf’s Thursaday?? I honestly don’t remember.you said he was DD cause all his friends were getting drunk But anyway…

My bf’s friend drove home from DC, to answer your question. <--drunk?

Why are people continually trying to find loopholes in my bf’s story? because you started with some fact about him and now you are backpedaling in order to defend him Are you really that dead-set on getting me to believe hes a jerk? You ask questions and/or make comments such as these, I answer and/or reply to them, then you call ME a liar because I am actually able to answer and/or reply.

Your not going to change your view(s) that hes a liar, cheat, etc. no matter what I say or how concisely I answer your inquiries.

You're not going to get me to believe that his hospital story (or any other story) is BS because I've seen the evidence, and believe it or not... I TRUST my bf.

If you trust him so much, why are you in the internet posting the stuff you did in order to get our "honest opinion and/or insight"? <--your words

 

[onebdzee]

Because they don't want to admit they were wrong.

I may not always be right....but, I'm never wrong

 

[High-Def]

His friend from NY (actually Philly but he just moved to NY but regardless). His friend isnt familiar with DC so he drove to my bf’s house Wednesday night and they left for DC together in my bf’s new truck Thursday. Or maybe he came to my bf’s Thursaday?? I honestly don’t remember. But anyway…

My bf’s friend drove home from DC, to answer your question.

Why are people continually trying to find loopholes in my bf’s story?[/B]Are you really that dead-set on getting me to believe hes a jerk? You ask questions and/or make comments such as these, I answer and/or reply to them, then you call ME a liar because I am actually able to answer and/or reply.

Your not going to change your view(s) that hes a liar, cheat, etc. no matter what I say or how concisely I answer your inquiries.

You're not going to get me to believe that his hospital story (or any other story) is BS because I've seen the evidence, and believe it or not... I TRUST my bf.

So stick that in your juicebox and suck it

[Because we want you to see what is clear to the rest of us. We don't know either of you personally therefore have no preconcieved notions, we just know what you have told us and something doesn't add up with him. Whether it's the hospital/pain pill/food poisoning thing or the weekend without calling thing or the treating you like poop by not calling or texting you for 2 days or how about questioning your relationship after you miscarried....I don't know why would we not like him and think he sounds like a winner? Hmmmmm gee I don't know. As unbiased strangers on the internet we can see the situation from a different angle. What do your family and friends have to say about all this?[/COLOR]

 

[lnmarsh]

Because they don't want to admit they were wrong.

If you're satisfied that your beau is telling the truth, that should be the end of it. You do not have to justify yourself to strangers on the internet.

You're so right. Im just going to stop...

I will tell you that his story sounded fishier than hell, and I snorted at it more than once. BUT it's your situation, you know what happened, you saw the papers or whatever, so there it is - right?

Do you mean the hospital story? I thought it was fishy at first, too, to be honest. Not that I didnt believe him, but I was skepticle. But when he started going into more details and could answer the "Who drove you to the hospital?" and "Who drove back from DC?" questions without hesitation, I started to believe him. Then I saw the IV marks, etc. Plus, I've seen what happens when he runs out of meds for 2 days (i.e. the snowstorms making it so the UPS guy couldnt bring them to the house and we couldnt get out to go get them). He gets sick that quickly. That, and when he knows/figures he'll be drinking, he makes a point to not take meds. If he has taken meds, he dosnt drink. So I believed him when he said he didnt take anything Saturday and then started withdrawling Sunday.

I guess to a 3rd party, the whole withdrawls/hospital sounds like a yeah-right type of thing. But let me tell you, we are the type of people that if something crazy is going to happen, ittl happen to us. We're the kind of people who go camping, drive to the middle of nowhere (with no cell signal), get a flat tire, only to find out that his brand new truck didnt have a jack. I'm the type of person who's horses fall in a well and die, and/or get struck by lightening while pregnant and die. He's the type of person that buys a $100 leather wallet only to have it stolen out of his work van and have $1200+ run up on his credit cards before he realized its gone. Basically, if we didnt have bad luck we wouldnt have any at all. So when crazy "I-cant-believe-that-actually-happened stories come up, its hard to not believe them

 

[retiredweaxman]

Hmmmmm gee I don't know. As unbiased strangers on the internet we can see the situation from a different angle. What do your family and friends have to say about all this?[/COLOR]

I asked basically this same question a couple of hours ago and received a couple of responses - but nothing from the OP.

 

[onebdzee]

Because we want you to see what is clear to the rest of us. We don't know either of you personally therefore have no preconcieved notions, we just know what you have told us and something doesn't add up with him. Whether it's the hospital/pain pill/food poisoning thing or the weekend without calling thing or the treating you like poop by not calling or texting you for 2 days or how about questioning your relationship after you miscarried....I don't know why would we not like him and think he sounds like a winner? Hmmmmm gee I don't know. As unbiased strangers on the internet we can see the situation from a different angle. What do your family and friends have to say about all this?

Please don't ever use that color again

AUNTIE VRAI....GET RID OF THIS COLOR PLEASE

 

[vraiblonde]

This tread has totally nuked the shark.

 

[onebdzee]

This tread has totally nuked the shark.

<--best smilie ever

 

[lnmarsh]

I KNOW!!!!.......one of his friends that was drunk

what'd I win??

His friend wasn’t drunk when they drove home. My bf was DD Saturday night. They came home Sunday w/ no drinking beforehand.

Originally Posted by lnmarsh
His friend from NY (actually Philly but he just moved to NY but regardless). His friend isnt familiar with DC so he drove to my bf’s house Wednesday night and they left for DC together in my bf’s new truck Thursday. Or maybe he came to my bf’s Thursaday?? I honestly don’t remember.you said he was DD cause all his friends were getting drunk But anyway…

He WAS DD… on Saturday night!

My bf’s friend drove home from DC, to answer your question. <--drunk?

No.

Why are people continually trying to find loopholes in my bf’s story? because you started with some fact about him and now you are backpedaling in order to defend him
Oh damn… you caught me.

Are you really that dead-set on getting me to believe hes a jerk? You ask questions and/or make comments such as these, I answer and/or reply to them, then you call ME a liar because I am actually able to answer and/or reply.

Your not going to change your view(s) that hes a liar, cheat, etc. no matter what I say or how concisely I answer your inquiries.

You're not going to get me to believe that his hospital story (or any other story) is BS because I've seen the evidence, and believe it or not... I TRUST my bf.

If you trust him so much, why are you in the internet posting the stuff you did in order to get our "honest opinion and/or insight"? <--your words

Because I was hurt and confused about his “questioning.” There. Happy? But I never asked people what they thought of him as a person. I asked how I should handle the situation of him questioning our relationship and then going out of town for the weekend.

As unbiased strangers on the internet we can see the situation from a different angle. What do your family and friends have to say about all this?

The one friend I told suggested I not call and/or text him and give him time to sort things out in his own head. But I only told that ONE friend because she was having issues with her BF too and we were guy-bashing on the phone one day As some others on here mentioned before, I didnt tell everyone I know because I dont want them to be burdened with my drama.
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I honestly think this may be my last post to this thread. Its turned into me

The amount of constructive comments (criticism or support) have dwindled in comparison to the amount of random comments that arent doing anything but getting my blood pressure up and making me scruntch up my forehead with the "WTF?" face.

Thank you, everyone, for your advice, suggestions, insight, etc. Even if I dont agree with you, I appreciate your time