Housing Help Needed

[czygvtwkr]

Then if you could please point me in the right direction because I have over 11 now teens and young adults who has applied almost everywhere in the area. And several adults trying to get work as well.

Thanks, any help is greatly appreciated

I would start with CSC/Dyncorp for NAVAIR Ranges support and aircraft maintainence. I will concede that most of those hired knew someone, that just seems to be the way southern Maryland works.

 

[lisa8439]

Then if you could please point me in the right direction because I have over 11 now teens and young adults who has applied almost everywhere in the area. And several adults trying to get work as well.

Thanks, any help is greatly appreciated

I think the jobs associated with the base and what they do might be hard to get (although their are positions there that don't require any degree - just have to keep your eye out on the list for job openings) but I see help wanted signs in quite a few places. What about the new stores that are going to be opening? Olive Garden, Kohls - and the stores going in the stripmall with Kohls will be hiring I'm sure. I know that both OG and Kohls have signs out about hiring and when it starts. I know I've seen help wanted signs in other businesses too - I can't think of them off the top of my head but I'll pay closer attention next time we're out. The only place I can think of right now is Brusters because I rode the kids through there last night But they have a help wanted sign in their window.

I know it can be hard to find teens and adults that don't have education jobs around here - but our area is in much better shape than many other areas in the country where places are closing left and right and the job market is saturated with professionals who have masters degrees and can't even find a job.

 

[Baja28]

I Beg to differ. You weren't there and therefore cannot make that determination about me. I spoke with this man in very lengthy detail about what I wanted and how it would work for weeks. It wasn't until he showed up at my home did he even tell me that what we agreed on which was a full cash out on my home that he could only do part cash out and the rest would be in a separate Home Equity Line of Credit (HELOC). Who does that. I know that should have been my 1st clue, but I had my reasons. I fought him for at least an hour and a half arguing thats not what we talked about and agreed on and how could he just come there and spring that on me? And he kept explaining why it had to be that way and of course I agreed in the end. This money was being used to fund Rita's and I was already in for a lot of money as it was, so I didn't want to loose what I had in it already so I did the deal based on his assurance everything would be as he said it would. He LIED! He also told me that the HELOC would be there as long as I needed it becasue I told him I would not be drawing off of it for a while. I didn't want to make payments on money I didn't need right then and there. He assured me that was no problem it would be there forever until I closed it out. Well turned out he was wrong when about 3 weeks prior to opening our store when I was going to draw that money to pay for the rest of my equipment the Mortgage co. decided home values had dropped too much in my area so they were taking back all lines of credit that had been issued in my area and I was one of them. I called and fought my heart out but got no where on it. So I almost lost the business then. But I made it through and that is also part of the reason I am where I am today. Also something out of my control that happened. Bad timing because then my husband was laid off about a week or two after that! Then list goes on and on from there. Like I said there's a lot to my story you do not know. Everyone is not perfect, and neither am I. But I strongly feel I was taken advantage of in this situation. Every page he explained to me nothing ever came up about partial payments and interest being added back into your loan, etc. I can promise you that.

I didn't read this non-paragraphed post but 2 words stuck out so I get the jist of it. "HE LIED"

Maam, I'm a realist and while I'm sorry for the predicament you're in, czygvtwkr is correct and the fact is, it's your fault.

What the loan officer said to you is of no relevance whatsoever. He could have been telling you that after 10 years you become the owner of the Brooklyn Bridge. You were given written, legal documents that YOU failed to read and understand.

You've posted how smart you are yet your posts are a spelling, punctuation and grammatical nightmare. I'm not surprised at your situation. Now get off the internet and fix this mess YOU'VE gotten yourself into.

Sorry to sound harsh but it sounds like all you want to do is blame others vs. rectifying the problem.

 

[czygvtwkr]

There is a job fair at the motel across from Gate 1 on jan 26th btw.

While this thread has gone in many directions I dont think it was necessary to put all of those details in the postings if all that was needed was and answer of where to turn. I think she was looking for reassurance or a "it's not your fault"

Hopefully anyone who reads this can learn from it. Here is what I think are the most valuable lessons.

#1 Don't do a cash out on your house for extra income, to open a business etc It just isn't smart under any conditions. There are business loans, especially ones catered to women own businesses. I work with quite a few people that did cash outs on their house for spending money and I can't tell you how stupid that is.

#2 Don't sign any legal documents that you don't understand. Chances are the loan officer didn't lie, chances are he didn't know what he was talking about. During the real estate boom there were a lot of new loan officers that had no more business being a loan officer than bozo the chimp.

#3 If you put yourself in serious debt do the damn math to verify your getting what you wanted. Too many people have the attitude "math is hard"

#4 If what you asked for is not what you are getting (and she stated this) don't sign the papers, there are plenty of other places to get the loan.

#5 Most small businesses fail, its a fact of life. So be prepared if this happens. You have to "do the math" and make unemotional economic based decisions.

 

[Clbkatz]

They aren't in the dark, they know. We talk at least once or twice a week. Just not every day like we used to...

You really need to tell your parents if you already haven't. Avoiding them because of it is just going to make your relationship worse. They might not like what you have to say, but they will get over it. Keeping them in the dark just isn't right.

Are you working? Looking?

 

[Clbkatz]

I do not live down that way so going to Lex Park is too far for a regular cashier type job, in the end for gas, it would be costing me to go to work. I need to stay more up near Waldorf/Hughesville or Clinton areas. I would go down that way if i could get a good job with potential to grow, etc. but those jobs are going to run credit checks I am sure, which I have already learned makes me out as a candidate it seems.

I think the jobs associated with the base and what they do might be hard to get (although their are positions there that don't require any degree - just have to keep your eye out on the list for job openings) but I see help wanted signs in quite a few places. What about the new stores that are going to be opening? Olive Garden, Kohls - and the stores going in the stripmall with Kohls will be hiring I'm sure. I know that both OG and Kohls have signs out about hiring and when it starts. I know I've seen help wanted signs in other businesses too - I can't think of them off the top of my head but I'll pay closer attention next time we're out. The only place I can think of right now is Brusters because I rode the kids through there last night But they have a help wanted sign in their window.

I know it can be hard to find teens and adults that don't have education jobs around here - but our area is in much better shape than many other areas in the country where places are closing left and right and the job market is saturated with professionals who have masters degrees and can't even find a job.

 

[Clbkatz]

You do not know what I am doing and I don't think that I need to worry about being grammatically correct posting on a community forum when i am more concerned about where I am going to be living in a few months. So I think you need to stop judging people and being so OCD about punctuation and grammar. I am trying to get answers for help not start high school back up again. Seems like it is much easier to point a finger at me when you have no idea of what I am really about or what I have been through or what I am doing now, then to actually think I could be right and it is possible that someone may have taken advantage of me and maybe misrepresented themselves to me. No smart person ever makes a mistake? PLEASE! I guess everyone out there just does it all perfect all the time. If you have bought a home before, I doubt you read EVERY single document from start to finish.....highly doubt it! Not many people I know....We trust what our realtor, mortgage broker, etc., tells us on a general basis. It may not be right but it is true no matter what you say.

I didn't read this non-paragraphed post but 2 words stuck out so I get the jist of it. "HE LIED"

Maam, I'm a realist and while I'm sorry for the predicament you're in, czygvtwkr is correct and the fact is, it's your fault.

What the loan officer said to you is of no relevance whatsoever. He could have been telling you that after 10 years you become the owner of the Brooklyn Bridge. You were given written, legal documents that YOU failed to read and understand.

You've posted how smart you are yet your posts are a spelling, punctuation and grammatical nightmare. I'm not surprised at your situation. Now get off the internet and fix this mess YOU'VE gotten yourself into.

Sorry to sound harsh but it sounds like all you want to do is blame others vs. rectifying the problem.

 

[Baja28]

You do not know what I am doing and I don't think that I need to worry about being grammatically correct posting on a community forum when i am more concerned about where I am going to be living in a few months. So I think you need to stop judging people and being so OCD about punctuation and grammar. I am trying to get answers for help not start high school back up again. Seems like it is much easier to point a finger at me when you have no idea of what I am really about or what I have been through or what I am doing now, then to actually think I could be right and it is possible that someone may have taken advantage of me and maybe misrepresented themselves to me. No smart person ever makes a mistake? PLEASE! I guess everyone out there just does it all perfect all the time. If you have bought a home before, I doubt you read EVERY single document from start to finish.....highly doubt it! Not many people I know....We trust what our realtor, mortgage broker, etc., tells us on a general basis. It may not be right but it is true no matter what you say.

Again, you're wrong. I've owned 3 homes. I just closed on a refi earlier this month and I read EVERY document. A couple I had questions on we set aside and I consulted an attorney.

I see in your latest post places are too far to travel so you'd rather sit home with no income. No one can help you if you won't help yourself.

As far as the grammar, if I were hiring and had to choose from 10 posters, you would be in the bottom 5 candidates. You're on an internet bulletin board begging for work and people are judging you by your posts. I'm really not surprised that you cannot find a job.

If you don't want honest advice, don't ask.

 

[Clbkatz]

With all due respect you do no tknow what you are talking about in regard to MY circumstances: I tried a BANK loan, but my husband went through some serious things with an ex (which I will not get into) but it is much more than just normal stuff I promise, which casused him to loose everything and he had to file Bankruptcy. Therefore no bank would lend us money we tried for 2 years, so cash out of my home was the only way or I was going to loose money and at that time things were still good with the economy and my husband was working with no signs of a lay off.

We did not fail because of anything other than loosing a $65-70/yr income which made us have to support ourselves in way we had not planned which depleted our savings, etc. So it is not all black & white like I try to tell you. I was trying to give you all a little background on me instead of just posting. Because ususally a post leads to why are you in this situation. So I thought I woudl just give a little background and get that out of the way. I don't need strangers to validate me or tell me I was "ok" or whatever. I know what I did and didn't do and in my heart what is or is not the cause of the failure. So I do not need you or anyone else on this board to tell me I am great or anything else. All I needed was advise on programs, people who could help a person who has worked all their lives and helped others when they could and been a good, decent, upstanding member of society for all these years who now needs a little shoulder to lean on for some assistance. Goes to show that sometimes no matter what you do you just cannot please all the people all the time. It amazes me how you all judge me when you do not know me rather than saying "let's offer this person some advise or assistance as they requested on some ideas of what she could try to do."

I don't think math is hard, I think the economy sucks and i know about 10.2 million people that would agree with me!

There is a job fair at the motel across from Gate 1 on jan 26th btw.

While this thread has gone in many directions I dont think it was necessary to put all of those details in the postings if all that was needed was and answer of where to turn. I think she was looking for reassurance or a "it's not your fault"

Hopefully anyone who reads this can learn from it. Here is what I think are the most valuable lessons.

#1 Don't do a cash out on your house for extra income, to open a business etc It just isn't smart under any conditions. There are business loans, especially ones catered to women own businesses. I work with quite a few people that did cash outs on their house for spending money and I can't tell you how stupid that is.

#2 Don't sign any legal documents that you don't understand. Chances are the loan officer didn't lie, chances are he didn't know what he was talking about. During the real estate boom there were a lot of new loan officers that had no more business being a loan officer than bozo the chimp.

#3 If you put yourself in serious debt do the damn math to verify your getting what you wanted. Too many people have the attitude "math is hard"

#4 If what you asked for is not what you are getting (and she stated this) don't sign the papers, there are plenty of other places to get the loan.

#5 Most small businesses fail, its a fact of life. So be prepared if this happens. You have to "do the math" and make unemotional economic based decisions.

 

[BadGirl]

I didn't read this non-paragraphed post but 2 words stuck out so I get the jist of it. "HE LIED"

Maam, I'm a realist and while I'm sorry for the predicament you're in, czygvtwkr is correct and the fact is, it's your fault.

What the loan officer said to you is of no relevance whatsoever. He could have been telling you that after 10 years you become the owner of the Brooklyn Bridge. You were given written, legal documents that YOU failed to read and understand.

You've posted how smart you are yet your posts are a spelling, punctuation and grammatical nightmare. I'm not surprised at your situation. Now get off the internet and fix this mess YOU'VE gotten yourself into.

Sorry to sound harsh but it sounds like all you want to do is blame others vs. rectifying the problem.

Again, you're wrong. I've owned 3 homes. I just closed on a refi earlier this month and I read EVERY document. A couple I had questions on we set aside and I consulted an attorney.

I see in your latest post places are too far to travel so you'd rather sit home with no income. No one can help you if you won't help yourself.

As far as the grammar, if I were hiring and had to choose from 10 posters, you would be in the bottom 5 candidates. You're on an internet bulletin board begging for work and people are judging you by your posts. I'm really not surprised that you cannot find a job.

If you don't want honest advice, don't ask.

 

[Clbkatz]

GET YOUR FACTS STRAIGHT: I am not on here begging for a job. I am on here ASKING for advise on housing help! When I apply for a job and I know that I am applying for a job I am professional about it from top to bottom. I am not on this forum to find a job. I am here to get help and advise on things I can do for housing help when my home is foreclosed upon. So you need to back off and stop being so nasty to people.

Let's talk about math!!!! Does it make sense to take a job that you are 50 minutes away from making $7.25 an hour when you will need to pay for gas at $2.60 or so a gallon and in the end you will loose any assistance you may get beause of this small income and then have more problems because you don't make enough to afford to put gas in the 1 car you have as a family. I am trying as best I can to be smart about getting a job. I would work for $7.25 an hour closer to home but to drive to Lex Park from Brandywine makes no sense at all unless it would lead to a better position with better pay. That I would consider. I do not understand how you do not see that since you act so much higher than I am, even though you do not know me or anything about me, my background or my intelligence. I do not think it is fair to judge me against some posts I make on a message board. That is ridiculous. I have never held a job where i did not get great reviews and told I was a wonderful employee. I put hard work and jump in full force in any job I do. I cannot help circumstances that are out of my control. I do not like people posting rash judgements about me on here and it is very irritating to me. But you and everyone else can believe what you want because I know the truth so in the end it does not change who I know I am inside and what I know about myself and my situation. Deep down it really does not bother me when I think about where and who it is all coming from: strangers who do not know me or my life.

Didn't your mother teach you manners and how to be nice to thy neighbor? If you have nothign nice to say then say NOTHING at all! You might want to give that a try. Tearing people down when they are already down is not nice at all and really tells me a lot about character and morals on all of you who post such negative things when all I did was ask for advise. I tried my best to respond to people who had a inquiry or question, that is all.

Again, you're wrong. I've owned 3 homes. I just closed on a refi earlier this month and I read EVERY document. A couple I had questions on we set aside and I consulted an attorney.

I see in your latest post places are too far to travel so you'd rather sit home with no income. No one can help you if you won't help yourself.

As far as the grammar, if I were hiring and had to choose from 10 posters, you would be in the bottom 5 candidates. You're on an internet bulletin board begging for work and people are judging you by your posts. I'm really not surprised that you cannot find a job.

If you don't want honest advice, don't ask.

 

[czygvtwkr]

With all due respect you do no tknow what you are talking about in regard to MY circumstances: I tried a BANK loan, but my husband went through some serious things with an ex (which I will not get into) but it is much more than just normal stuff I promise, which casused him to loose everything and he had to file Bankruptcy. Therefore no bank would lend us money we tried for 2 years, so cash out of my home was the only way or I was going to loose money and at that time things were still good with the economy and my husband was working with no signs of a lay off.

Ugh so this isn't a first time thing, sorry I tried to help. Apparently even if you do make it through this it will probably just happen again.

I don't think math is hard, I think the economy sucks and i know about 10.2 million people that would agree with me!

If you don't think math is hard then why didn't you do it? From our perspective the only thing we do have to judge you by is your posts. The economy in the southern Maryland and Washington DC areas are not that bad.

People get taken advantage of because they either let themselves or they just don't know any better simple as that.

 

[Baja28]

GET YOUR FACTS STRAIGHT: I am not on here begging for a job. I am on here ASKING for advise on housing help! When I apply for a job and I know that I am applying for a job I am professional about it from top to bottom. I am not on this forum to find a job. I am here to get help and advise on things I can do for housing help when my home is foreclosed upon. So you need to back off and stop being so nasty to people.

Let's talk about math!!!! Does it make sense to take a job that you are 50 minutes away from making $7.25 an hour when you will need to pay for gas at $2.60 or so a gallon and in the end you will loose any assistance you may get beause of this small income and then have more problems because you don't make enough to afford to put gas in the 1 car you have as a family. I am trying as best I can to be smart about getting a job. I would work for $7.25 an hour closer to home but to drive to Lex Park from Brandywine makes no sense at all unless it would lead to a better position with better pay. That I would consider. I do not understand how you do not see that since you act so much higher than I am, even though you do not know me or anything about me, my background or my intelligence. I do not think it is fair to judge me against some posts I make on a message board. That is ridiculous. I have never held a job where i did not get great reviews and told I was a wonderful employee. I put hard work and jump in full force in any job I do. I cannot help circumstances that are out of my control. I do not like people posting rash judgements about me on here and it is very irritating to me. But you and everyone else can believe what you want because I know the truth so in the end it does not change who I know I am inside and what I know about myself and my situation. Deep down it really does not bother me when I think about where and who it is all coming from: strangers who do not know me or my life.

Didn't your mother teach you manners and how to be nice to thy neighbor? If you have nothign nice to say then say NOTHING at all! You might want to give that a try. Tearing people down when they are already down is not nice at all and really tells me a lot about character and morals on all of you who post such negative things when all I did was ask for advise. I tried my best to respond to people who had a inquiry or question, that is all.

So you've been bankrupt twice and now you want to dispense advice on math?

Manners? You want manners? The last thing you need is manners! You need a swift kick in your ass! It's everyone else fault but yours that you're in this situation. The more you post, the more I see you deserve what you get. Turn off the computer hunney and step away from the keyboard.

 

[toppick08]

 

[czygvtwkr]

I know there are big box stores in that area, you need to apply to those. From what experience you have I would imagine you could get one of the higher paying hourly jobs in the stores such as cash office, claims or purchasing. Those jobs typically pay over $12/hour.

 

[lisa8439]

I only mentioned all of the jobs in the California/Lex. Park area because I thought you said you owned the Rita's in Lex. Park? So I figured if you were driving down here for that, you would drive down for something else. Sorry it didn't help...

If you are going to lose your house, maybe the answer is to move down to this area (Lex. Park) and rent... maybe the DSS people here will be more understanding about your husband (and BTW, he should have NO problem getting disability if he has multiple doctors that will vouch for his condition and recommend that he receive it - I've known several people with back problems or similar things that received disability and a couple who shouldn't have gotten it but their doctors backed them and that's all it took. He needs to do this - steady money every month is crucial).

With the mulitple stores/restaurants opening here I'm sure you could find something - maybe even managerial in a restaurant since you have that type of experience with Rita's. Perhaps secure a job first, drive back and forth a bit, then move down and rent. I've heard of people who are in situations like you that just left their house (I know that sounds silly but they did it because it was best for them to walk away I guess) or maybe you could do a short sale or something? Sorry if you discussed selling the house and I missed it in the thread, but I would consider that.

I think that the Lex. Park/California area is in better shape than Waldorf economically with the base growing... so if you can't find a job where you are, you might just have to move to where the jobs are. People do it all of the time and come from all over to work at the base because there are no jobs in California or Minnesota or wherever... at least you are close enough that you could drive to a job down here and make sure that you get hired.

 

[SoMDLady1]

I know EXACTLY what you are going through, I have been there, and believe me, the people here have NO IDEA what this is REALLY all about.

Until someone's LIFE is literly in the balance, they will NEVER understand the anguish you are going through, and the fear for those you love, can destroy your heart in seconds.

First, you will not be tossed out of your home for quite some time, so back off of that fear, for at least a few more months. When it creaps in, smack it back and tell it to shut up! You need a clear mind to deal with this, so take charge of your own thoughts NOW.

Consider that you may indeed have to move one day. Face it, and decide now, that if that is the case, you will make it through it, and will be better for it. I SWEAR TO YOU, YOU WILL BE, HONEST!

Most importantly, make yourself not freek out, it only damages you, and it will ruin the conversations with anyone you talk to when you are job searching.

Take everything you feel now, and think now, and for the sake of your success, you need to make it a "small thing" that you KNOW you will work out. Cry when you need to, scream when you need to, and when you are done, put it in a box, stash it in a drawer and LEAVE IT THERE UNTIL ANOTHER TIME YOU NEED TO CRY.

With $800.00 you have enough to eat and pay your electric bill, you are in great shape.

I had 3 people in a one room motel, living on $277.00 a week and $140.00 of that was the motel. $137.00 a week to feed 3 not including my husbands medication, which without it, he would die! All totaled, we had $121.00 a week to live on, and I thank the Lord my husband had prescription drug coverage and our part was only $16.00.

I lived in a Gorgeous home in Waldorf, and my husband made great money, we put our entire life, and our retirement money into our home, and in 1 day, we were ruined by his heart surgery, and multiple mini strokes. LIFE IS NOT ALWAYS FARE, AND IT WAS NOT OUR FAULT EITHER. You are not to blame for what happened, and you know that, so pick yourself up and don't ever argue that again.

Eventually I was out in the cold, and homeless, and for those who do not have to actually face that, they have not ONE CLUE about what this is like for us.

You will live through this, and the first step is............

Decide now that whatever tomorrow brings you, you will take it, and be thankful that you are all together, and safe. It's the first step in getting the worry of being homeless out of your head. So.... whatever the future is, ....So be it!

With that under your belt, you can now use your real brain to make the right decisions, but you can not continue to think like you used to. What was, is not anymore. Consider it done. Where you are going is your current path. You are not who you were, and nothing will be the same. Where your path takes you will be better than where you are now.

Your trying to make things like they used to be, and that will hurt you in the end. You already know what an impossible situation you are in, so GIVE IT UP FOR THE SAKE OF BEING IN YOUR NEW REAL WORLD, AND ABLE TO MAKE GOOD DECISIONS.

You may not know for a month or two what direction you are headed in, but it will show up, I promise you.

It's not easy, and you will cry, you will miss your Christmasses and what you had, but where you are going is where your eyes HAVE TO BE RIGHT NOW.

No, I'm not telling you what department you need to go to, but I am telling you where your head and heart needs to be for you to get through this, and that is what is number one right now.

You do need a job, and your frustration is showing. You are more than able to do a good job, that is obvious, so ACT like it, and leave the frustration at the door. You don't need it, your kids don't need it, and your husband doesn't either. So, if you have a copy of an old credit report, you need to take it with you to a job interview. Be direct, and tell them that you are including it ONLY BECAUSE OF YOURS, AND YOUR HUSBANDS CURRENT UNEMPLOYMENT, AND THE MESS IT'S MADE OF YOUR CURRENT REPORT.

Stop the explaining, don't feel guilty, they don't want to hear it, and you need to be someone that they want to hire, not someone that is telling them your troubles. Not good.

I would suggest that you do one small thing, it isn't easy, but DO IT.

Take no less than $50.00 and put it away, even if it means you don't eat.
You will need it sooner or later. It is your hidden stash, it will remind you that you are NOT BROKE, you can get ahead, and that you CAN do it.
It's also a way to come up with deposits and things, if you need them later.

Last, if you do become homeless, you can count on me to help.

I may have little to offer, but it is there for you. You will have a roof over your head, and something to eat.

There is nothing in this world that is worse than knowing your family is under the threat of being homeless and maybe without food.

Forget trying to save what was, and RUN to what is to come, whatever it is.

I'm out of debt, have property I'm going to build on this fall, and just purchased the property next to mine for planting my veggies on.

We came from living in a basement, and then in a one room motel, to having no debt at all, and no mortgage.

I would not change what happened to me for anything.

Priorities get changed, life changes, and it can be a good thing.

You will get a job, you are more than qualified, and many want someone like you, or did you forget that? Hang on, and keep at it.

You will know what to do when it is time. What you are doing right now is not just frustration, but is teaching you things you will know forever, so it's not for nothing, and when this country is in the pits, and a lot more are dealing with what you are facing, you will already be out of it.

Learning to bend is a hard thing, Don't be rigid, don't expect things to be as they were, the branch that bends, doesn't break, it thrives.

I pray that you fight the good fight, and that you hang on, this is NOT the end, it's a new beginning.

Your new direction is already here, relax and watch it unfold.

 

[TrueSOMDGirl]

Ugh so this isn't a first time thing, sorry I tried to help. Apparently even if you do make it through this it will probably just happen again.



If you don't think math is hard then why didn't you do it? From our perspective the only thing we do have to judge you by is your posts. The economy in the southern Maryland and Washington DC areas are not that bad.

People get taken advantage of because they either let themselves or they just don't know any better simple as that.

You keep saying that the economy is that bad, but I am telling you she is correct when it comes to finding jobs in this area. I know from experince as does she.

If you know of any jobs that are actually hiring and not just taking applications, then instead of repeating the same old thing, just PM here and help here out, otherwise turn the record over. you "imagine"...huh..well I imagine everyday my butt is smaller..but guess what...it ain't.

So you've been bankrupt twice and now you want to dispense advice on math?

Manners? You want manners? The last thing you need is manners! You need a swift kick in your ass! It's everyone else fault but yours that you're in this situation. The more you post, the more I see you deserve what you get. Turn off the computer hunney and step away from the keyboard.

Wow that was harsh.

(and BTW, he should have NO problem getting disability if he has multiple doctors that will vouch for his condition and recommend that he receive it - I've known several people with back problems or similar things that received disability and a couple who shouldn't have gotten it but their doctors backed them and that's all it took. He needs to do this - steady money every month is crucial).

It is harder for some people to get disability. I know of several that have had major problems, Doctors backing them up and it still took years to start collecting.

 

[TrueSOMDGirl]

I pray that you fight the good fight, and that you hang on, this is NOT the end, it's a new beginning.

Your new direction is already here, relax and watch it unfold.

SomdLady, I am speechless and in tears reading your post. I want to help too. I cannot take anyone in but I can certainly help with food or clothes and I KNOW she did not ask for it, which is why I am offering.

I am also looking into a lawyer that will help her out, and I asked her for her resume to send out as well. It is tough getting a job, not just in SOMD but everywhere...so bless you for taking the time for those kind words, it is nice to see people in the community like yourself.

 

[Chasey_Lane]

Jobs in somd are very hard to find. I have several teens I am trying to help locate jobs and a few adults as well.

Tough market out there.

Olive Garden AND Kohls are both hiring.