How do I get him to take care of his son??????????

[chemommy25]

Its been a while since I asked for any advice on here.

Last june I filed for Custody and child support of my now 19 month old son. I had my first court date in January. My son's father showed up for that one. He requested mediation because him and I couldnt agree on a custody agreement (go figure). A week later was the mediation. He got married and moved to Texas about two days before the mediation. So he didnt go to the mediation that he requested. So we had to go to another court date in march. Again he didn't show for that either. So i was awarded Sole custody of my son and a set amount of child support. The courts decided he should pay back child support from the time i filed lat june. To this day he has not paid for ANYTHING. i dont even think i have heard from him since January. He is pretty close to being around $4,000 behind on his Child Support. His father talks to him around once a week and says that My sons father always calls from a restricted number. Which i believe because he is a coward. I have no address for him. no phone number. nothing. I know the reason he moved to Texas was in hope of not having to pay for TWO kids in Maryland. But how long will the courts let this go on for? How am i supposed to find him so the courts can atleast send him the court papers? I don't know where to start. I have tried to call The child support enforcement agency, but all they do is transfer me around and talk alot of gibberish saying they will get back to me. i just need some financial help from my son's father and i don't know where to start so thay can atleast start garnishing his wages, or atleast penalizing(sp) him for not paying his child support. Arent they supposed to take his license away or put him in jail or something? If anybody has any information on where i should start or what i should do to get him to start paying his child support.I dont evenknow where he is. I mean i have done everything i think i could do. i have been to court. i have paid EVERY court cost. he has not shown up but for one court date. As of right now i have spent hundreds of dollars just trying to get him to take care of his son. and still i get nothin. please let me know. Thanks in advance.

 

[Beelzebaby666]

Wasn't your last query here just a means of stirring up his mother, who happens to post on this forum?

I'm not saying you don't have reason to be angry, but why are you asking here, again, when many of us all ready know what's up? It seems redundant.

 

[Mojo]

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[latinamomma]

Trust me when I say this, Child Support doesn't give a damn if he is paying or if he isn't. I too have a dead beat that won't pay for his kids, and who has left the state of MD. The only thing is he is almost $60,000.00 behind in support. Try looking him up on zabasearch.com and see if that helps or try whitepages.com and see if that turns up anything. I wish you the best of luck with this!

 

[RareBreed]

Its been a while since I asked for any advice on here.

Last june I filed for Custody and child support of my now 19 month old son. I had my first court date in January. My son's father showed up for that one. He requested mediation because him and I couldnt agree on a custody agreement (go figure). A week later was the mediation. He got married and moved to Texas about two days before the mediation. So he didnt go to the mediation that he requested. So we had to go to another court date in march. Again he didn't show for that either. So i was awarded Sole custody of my son and a set amount of child support. The courts decided he should pay back child support from the time i filed lat june. To this day he has not paid for ANYTHING. i dont even think i have heard from him since January. He is pretty close to being around $4,000 behind on his Child Support. His father talks to him around once a week and says that My sons father always calls from a restricted number. Which i believe because he is a coward. I have no address for him. no phone number. nothing. I know the reason he moved to Texas was in hope of not having to pay for TWO kids in Maryland. But how long will the courts let this go on for? How am i supposed to find him so the courts can atleast send him the court papers? I don't know where to start. I have tried to call The child support enforcement agency, but all they do is transfer me around and talk alot of gibberish saying they will get back to me. i just need some financial help from my son's father and i don't know where to start so thay can atleast start garnishing his wages, or atleast penalizing(sp) him for not paying his child support. Arent they supposed to take his license away or put him in jail or something? If anybody has any information on where i should start or what i should do to get him to start paying his child support.I dont evenknow where he is. I mean i have done everything i think i could do. i have been to court. i have paid EVERY court cost. he has not shown up but for one court date. As of right now i have spent hundreds of dollars just trying to get him to take care of his son. and still i get nothin. please let me know. Thanks in advance.

I doubt non-support capiases are even extraditable from any other state than the one they are issued in.

 

[SoccerMom2]

Its been a while since I asked for any advice on here.

Last june I filed for Custody and child support of my now 19 month old son. I had my first court date in January. My son's father showed up for that one. He requested mediation because him and I couldnt agree on a custody agreement (go figure). A week later was the mediation. He got married and moved to Texas about two days before the mediation. So he didnt go to the mediation that he requested. So we had to go to another court date in march. Again he didn't show for that either. So i was awarded Sole custody of my son and a set amount of child support. The courts decided he should pay back child support from the time i filed lat june. To this day he has not paid for ANYTHING. i dont even think i have heard from him since January. He is pretty close to being around $4,000 behind on his Child Support. His father talks to him around once a week and says that My sons father always calls from a restricted number. Which i believe because he is a coward. I have no address for him. no phone number. nothing. I know the reason he moved to Texas was in hope of not having to pay for TWO kids in Maryland. But how long will the courts let this go on for? How am i supposed to find him so the courts can atleast send him the court papers? I don't know where to start. I have tried to call The child support enforcement agency, but all they do is transfer me around and talk alot of gibberish saying they will get back to me. i just need some financial help from my son's father and i don't know where to start so thay can atleast start garnishing his wages, or atleast penalizing(sp) him for not paying his child support. Arent they supposed to take his license away or put him in jail or something? If anybody has any information on where i should start or what i should do to get him to start paying his child support.I dont evenknow where he is. I mean i have done everything i think i could do. i have been to court. i have paid EVERY court cost. he has not shown up but for one court date. As of right now i have spent hundreds of dollars just trying to get him to take care of his son. and still i get nothin. please let me know. Thanks in advance.

Do you know who he married? If not go online. The marriage license is online. Then you can just go to whitepages.com and look up both their names and call every number to you find them. Unless you know what part of Texas. Then that will narrow it down. If he miss a court order mediation and court date he should of got a failure to appear. At least i think he should of. My friend went through the state to get help. But that was in Va. Her baby daddy has to pay them back for not paying her.

 

[carolann]

Mine was $35,000 in arrears and back child support and never asked to see our daughter who lives 10 minutes from him. He finally asked to give up his rights and my husband adopted her in March of this year. The arrears and back child support will still be there in the background if she ever wants it, which she knows she will never get from him, and I don't have the stress of having him have a say in her life. She is very happy.

 

[bcp]

any man that refuses to take care of his own children is a POS.
I hate to say it but I personally think you are better off without him, his money, or anyone from his side of the family.
Move on and raise your child the best you can.

 

[cattitude]

any man that refuses to take care of his own children is a POS.
I hate to say it but I personally think you are better off without him, his money, or anyone from his side of the family.
Move on and raise your child the best you can.

 

[morningbell]

Mine was $35,000 in arrears and back child support and never asked to see our daughter who lives 10 minutes from him. He finally asked to give up his rights and my husband adopted her in March of this year. The arrears and back child support will still be there in the background if she ever wants it, which she knows she will never get from him, and I don't have the stress of having him have a say in her life. She is very happy.

That is sweet!

 

[onebdzee]

any man that refuses to take care of his own children is a POS.
I hate to say it but I personally think you are better off without him, his money, or anyone from his side of the family.
Move on and raise your child the best you can.

That rush of power from your truck just makes you say the bestest things

 

[PrepH4U]

any man that refuses to take care of his own children is a POS.
I hate to say it but I personally think you are better off without him, his money, or anyone from his side of the family.
Move on and raise your child the best you can.

So true!

 

[Bay_Kat]

any man that refuses to take care of his own children is a POS.
I hate to say it but I personally think you are better off without him, his money, or anyone from his side of the family.
Move on and raise your child the best you can.

I absolutely agree with you, but unfortunately after reading some of her previous posts it seems she's not the only baby's momma this guy owes support to. So I think your advice is perfect because he's obviously a POS that isn't paying for any of his kids.

 

[Seamaid]

Absolutely!

any man that refuses to take care of his own children is a POS.
I hate to say it but I personally think you are better off without him, his money, or anyone from his side of the family.
Move on and raise your child the best you can.

 

[sanchezf]

He finally asked to give up his rights and my husband adopted her in March of this year.

We are getting ready to do this ourselves, the father wants to give up rights and my finace wants to adopt him (he's been his dad anyway for the last 9 years). Can you give me any advice on what needs to be done. Need to get a lawyer? Cost?

Thanks in advance
sanchezf

 

[Suz]

any man that refuses to take care of his own children is a POS.
I hate to say it but I personally think you are better off without him, his money, or anyone from his side of the family.
Move on and raise your child the best you can.

He may be a POS but I love my grandson deeply. And I shouldn't be punished (nor should Che') for his fathers lack of responsibility. so stfu.

 

[PrepH4U]

He may be a POS but I love my grandson deeply. And I shouldn't be punished (nor should Che') for his fathers lack of responsibility. so stfu.

So how about making your son step up to the plate to "act" like a man. :shrug:

 

[01mds10]

any man that refuses to take care of his own children is a POS.
I hate to say it but I personally think you are better off without him, his money, or anyone from his side of the family.
Move on and raise your child the best you can.

i wouldn't say anyone from his side of the family. yes my brother needs to take care of his son, i agree. but don't compare me or my family with him. that's ignorant.. and frankly so are you.

 

[Suz]

So how about making your son step up to the plate to "act" like a man. :shrug:

And how am I suppose to do that? He and I don't even talk.

 

[nomoney]

i wouldn't say anyone from his side of the family. yes my brother needs to take care of his son, i agree. but don't compare me or my family with him. that's ignorant.. and frankly so are you.

if you or your other relations love this child so much and don't want to be compared to him then why aren't you out there trying to at least get his contact info to the woman?