Husband asked for a divorce....

[itsbob]

Somehow I don't think that's the issue - just how many unemployed fathers of 2 can stand up and say I want a divorce? Where will HE LIVE? With some other employed chick? If he doesn't have a job, he must be especially charming to have a 2nd woman, don't you think?

In reality he's an unemployed father of two.

On the internet he's a jet-setting independently wealthy plastic surgeon that drives a Ferrari and owns an offshore cigarette boat.

 

[Roman]

I can not afford an attorney and we really dont have much to split. We have two children and I will get custody of them (no matter what).

No he didnt really say why he wanted a divorce. But I am okay with it, honestly I have been thinking about it for awhile myself. I am just really scared about what I am going to do. What happens tomorrow, or the next day or the day after. I cant afford my house if I have to pay for daycare so I know I am going to have to move.

Should I file something in the courts now or do I wait the year?

Thank you all for your advice!

Sorry to hear the bad news. But..I have heard that your Husband has to maintain the living in which you are acustomed too for a year, if not two. I might be wrong. It is best for you to get an Attorney. If you can't afford one, then Hubby should provide you with one. Good luck to you.........

 

[itsbob]

Sorry to hear the bad news. But..I have heard that your Husband has to maintain the living in which you are acustomed too for a year, if not two. I might be wrong. It is best for you to get an Attorney. If you can't afford one, then Hubby should provide you with one. Good luck to you.........

The law school you went to accepted green stamps and coupons?

 

[Roman]

The law school you went to accepted green stamps and coupons?

I didn't say that I went to Law School. I posted this at about page 3, and didn't realize her Husband didn't work. So what are you trying to say to me?

 

[EmptyTimCup]

...I am going to live in Sin from here on out!

now that you are available ........... post a pic

 

[Vince]

Just so you know, legally separated in maryland still means you are committing adultery until the judge signs the final divorce papers.

Adultery in the state of Maryland is nothing. It was a $10 fine. Maybe $20 by now. But if you can prove adultery, it will get you a divorce right now. Even with children involved. At least this was the law around 10 years ago.

 

[FED_UP]

Somehow I don't think that's the issue - just how many unemployed fathers of 2 can stand up and say I want a divorce? Where will HE LIVE? With some other employed chick? If he doesn't have a job, he must be especially charming to have a 2nd woman, don't you think?

Some women get a high out of stealing another ladies man, ego boost of how good they look I guess, and willing to take the baggage as well.

Ark I am on my way over with the kids, cat, dog, mistress and I promise to get a job as a Wal Mart greeter and take care of you.

 

[ArkRescue]

In reality he's an unemployed father of two.

On the internet he's a jet-setting independently wealthy plastic surgeon that drives a Ferrari and owns an offshore cigarette boat.

Well now see, if he was cute like you, all he'd have to do is post his pic to get chicks.

 

[StokesPrincess]

Well the jerk is still in my house...urgh.

Although now he has taken to texting me ever 10 minutes, and they are not nice texts. I liked it better yesterday when he refused to talk to me.

I got the forms printed and I have begun filling them out. They ask for his address, can I just put unknown?

 

[StokesPrincess]

Adultery in the state of Maryland is nothing. It was a $10 fine. Maybe $20 by now. But if you can prove adultery, it will get you a divorce right now. Even with children involved. At least this was the law around 10 years ago.

At this point the $10 (or $20) would be well worth it. What do I have to do to get him to leave the house? He says he wants a divorce, he is saying horrible things and calling me names that I dont think I never heard before, I get that the fact that he is a loser and has no where to go but cut me a break.

Maybe me and the kids will go to a hotel tonight...use some of the bill money to get some peace of mind (and some sleep)

 

[Baja28]

I didn't say that I went to Law School. I posted this at about page 3, and didn't realize her Husband didn't work. So what are you trying to say to me?

Read the thread before posting.

 

[FED_UP]

At this point the $10 (or $20) would be well worth it. What do I have to do to get him to leave the house? He says he wants a divorce, he is saying horrible things and calling me names that I dont think I never heard before, I get that the fact that he is a loser and has no where to go but cut me a break.

Maybe me and the kids will go to a hotel tonight...use some of the bill money to get some peace of mind (and some sleep)

Why is he so pissed at you? He asked for the divorce. I take it you two have been distant for quite some time. From male point of view its just his way of trying to put you down, discourage you. He wants the control still, until the entire thing is over, you better flip the script on that one, ignoring helps. You sound like a nice lady but for all I know you could be a bietch. :shrug:

 

[StokesPrincess]

Why is he so pissed at you? He asked for the divorce. I take it you two have been distant for quite some time.

I honestly have no idea. We have been on shakey ground for a few months but nothing to the point of a divorce. He is just a total different guy since Wednesday night....Like I have never seen him before.

I just texted him and told him he needs to make arrangements to leave or I will involve the authorities....Can I do that?

 

[ArkRescue]

Some women get a high out of stealing another ladies man, ego boost of how good they look I guess, and willing to take the baggage as well.

Ark I am on my way over with the kids, cat, dog, mistress and I promise to get a job as a Wal Mart greeter and take care of you.

 

[Baja28]

I just texted him and told him he needs to make arrangements to leave or I will involve the authorities....Can I do that?

Nope. He lives in the house. he can't be forced to leave unless he turns violent.

 

[FED_UP]

I honestly have no idea. We have been on shakey ground for a few months but nothing to the point of a divorce. He is just a total different guy since Wednesday night....Like I have never seen him before.

I just texted him and told him he needs to make arrangements to leave or I will involve the authorities....Can I do that?

You will have to ask one of these divorce experts in the room who might be on a third marriage Hmmmm that sounds like another women involved, she must have *&^% his brains out on Wednesday. could be wrong.

 

[FED_UP]

Nope. He lives in the house. he can't be forced to leave unless he turns violent.

All she has to do is put a brick in a pillowcase and smack her face with it one good time while he is home and call the cops. Saw that on plenty of movies, it seems to work. Actually he does not even have to be home.

 

[ArkRescue]

I honestly have no idea. We have been on shakey ground for a few months but nothing to the point of a divorce. He is just a total different guy since Wednesday night....Like I have never seen him before.

I just texted him and told him he needs to make arrangements to leave or I will involve the authorities....Can I do that?

Depends on whose name the lease/mortgage is in, and if he has threatened you or assaulted you. They don't care if he has paid nothing. Same goes for a boarder - they also have rights. Generally you have to give a person 30 days notice to leave.

It gets complicated, but the law doesn't let you toss out your hubby easily. Both parties have rights, and the law is pretty good now at protecting men also. If you throw out or destroy any of his personal belongings you will likely be held liable in Court for reimbursing him for them. Women don't get away with near as much as they used to.

 

[StokesPrincess]

All she has to do is put a brick in a pillowcase and smack her face with it one good time while he is home and call the cops. Saw that on plenty of movies, it seems to work. Actually he does not even have to be home.

As much as I want him out I am not sure I could physically hurt myself to make it happen...

 

[StokesPrincess]

Depends on whose name the lease/mortgage is in, and if he has threatened you or assaulted you. They don't care if he has paid nothing. Same goes for a boarder - they also have rights. Generally you have to give a person 30 days notice to leave.

It gets complicated, but the law doesn't let you toss out your hubby easily. Both parties have rights, and the law is pretty good now at protecting men also. If you throw out or destroy any of his personal belongings you will likely be held liable in Court for reimbursing him for them. Women don't get away with near as much as they used to.

What about texts that are threatening? Like...I hope you choke, I will get you fired from your job, etc, etc, etc,