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Kain99
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Looks like everyone gave you great advice! *Especially Catt* Glad he's home and back where he belongs. 
I am so pizzed I could bite a 10 penny nail in half
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Okay, no story because I'm not sure who will see this and I'm still interested in keeping the peace, even after my "discussion" with the ex this morning.
But let me just say the "conversation" ended with me saying, "Well, you're not paying for it anyway so why don't you shut up and mind your own business?"
And DAMN it felt good!
But let me just say the "conversation" ended with me saying, "Well, you're not paying for it anyway so why don't you shut up and mind your own business?"
And DAMN it felt good!
Penn
Dancing Up A Storm
Pete, outside of the terrible anguish and concern for your boys' safety, I suppose it couldn't have ended any better.I'm sure all of us thank the Lord he got home safe.
Next, it sounds as though he realised what had happened, from his point of view, and from your prospective and hers. At six years of age, it's hard to say something like it won't happen again, of course.
When you're only 6, emotions are played out on different levels; it's another matter altogether.
However, it sounds as though you have a terrific kid under your wing, if he was able to work it out for himself, go over it in his mind and figure out what went down.
PS: I did not think you'd lose it in front of him, and it's a credit to ya bud.
And, Pete, listen to Catt. Good advice! 
Larry Gude
Strung Out
How old is boy???
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Chasey_Lane
Salt Life
I had a similar discussion last week.Originally posted by vraiblonde
But let me just say the "conversation" ended with me saying, "Well, you're not paying for it anyway so why don't you shut up and mind your own business?"
And DAMN it felt good!
crabcake
But wait, there's more...
Originally posted by Pete
You have no idea how many times "Your mama is a rotton wench" almost rolled off my lips.
oh don't bet me ... I'm guessing it's damn close to the same number of times "your daddy is a worthless, no good, absentee sperm donor of a father who has said twice now he wants to relinquish his parental responsibilities to you!" has almost rolled off my tongue!
Pete
Repete
Problem is with mine she would never do that. She has it great, he shows up once a month or so, she gets to be Super Fun Mom then puts his stuff in a bag and send him home. She doesn't even have to save cash for his visits so they can go places. She just goes to her wealthy mother and says,Originally posted by tatercake
oh don't bet me ... I'm guessing it's damn close to the same number of times "your daddy is a worthless, no good, absentee sperm donor of a father who has said twice now he wants to relinquish his parental responsibilities to you!" has almost rolled off my tongue!
Poor me, Boy is coming to visit and I have no money to do things with him. CHA CHING money falls out. She gets adored, a cute little boy and she gets none of the fuss and muss.
crabcake
But wait, there's more...
The positive side of this all Pete is that your son is seeing you be a stand-up, responsible father. While the interim PITA ex makes it difficult at times like this, the plus side is your son sees the example you set for him, and will be a good father when his day comes too, and when that DOES happen, you can look at him and know that YOU are responsible for that ... his mama won't be able to say the same unless she changes her tune and steps up to the parental plate. 
Pete
Repete
Well this morning he was eating his bowl of mini wheats and out of the blue he asks me; Dad, what did the judge say when you and mom went in and fought over who was going to get me? 
Before when he was younger and the topic came up I could do the "Well your mom and I just didn't want to live together anymore and we thought it was best you lived with me."
Now he is asking harder questions. Making it more difficult is the fact he has a 12 year old half brother who lives with her because his father is a bigger goober than she is. If he was any type of man she would have lost him too. So now Boy is trying to get this all straight in his head.
1. I live with dad, brother lives with mom, why?
2. If mom was not sound enough to have me why does she have him?
3. What did mom do that was so bad that the judge said I should live with dad.
4. What did mom do that was so bad that judge said I shouuld live with dad but brother gets to stay with her?
These questions all have answers, good answers, none of which make mom look too good so I cannot just "tell it like it is". So now I have to dance carefully around the explainations, not painting his mom to be bad, but justifying the fact he lives with me and not her.
Before when he was younger and the topic came up I could do the "Well your mom and I just didn't want to live together anymore and we thought it was best you lived with me."
Now he is asking harder questions. Making it more difficult is the fact he has a 12 year old half brother who lives with her because his father is a bigger goober than she is. If he was any type of man she would have lost him too. So now Boy is trying to get this all straight in his head.
1. I live with dad, brother lives with mom, why?
2. If mom was not sound enough to have me why does she have him?
3. What did mom do that was so bad that the judge said I should live with dad.
4. What did mom do that was so bad that judge said I shouuld live with dad but brother gets to stay with her?
These questions all have answers, good answers, none of which make mom look too good so I cannot just "tell it like it is". So now I have to dance carefully around the explainations, not painting his mom to be bad, but justifying the fact he lives with me and not her.
workin hard
Icebox
Originally posted by Pete
Well this morning he was eating his bowl of mini wheats and out of the blue he asks me; Dad, what did the judge say when you and mom went in and fought over who was going to get me?
Before when he was younger and the topic came up I could do the "Well your mom and I just didn't want to live together anymore and we thought it was best you lived with me."
Now he is asking harder questions. Making it more difficult is the fact he has a 12 year old half brother who lives with her because his father is a bigger goober than she is. If he was any type of man she would have lost him too. So now Boy is trying to get this all straight in his head.
1. I live with dad, brother lives with mom, why?
2. If mom was not sound enough to have me why does she have him?
3. What did mom do that was so bad that the judge said I should live with dad.
4. What did mom do that was so bad that judge said I shouuld live with dad but brother gets to stay with her?
These questions all have answers, good answers, none of which make mom look too good so I cannot just "tell it like it is". So now I have to dance carefully around the explainations, not painting his mom to be bad, but justifying the fact he lives with me and not her.
does he feel jealous that the other boy lives with his mom and he doesn't? How well does the 2 boys get along?
Tell him that the judge decided who it would be best that he lived with and the judge chose you. If he askes about his half-brother you can tell him the same thing. That way he can, in his mind, see that you are the "World's Bestest Daddy".Originally posted by Pete
Well this morning he was eating his bowl of mini wheats and out of the blue he asks me; Dad, what did the judge say when you and mom went in and fought over who was going to get me?
Before when he was younger and the topic came up I could do the "Well your mom and I just didn't want to live together anymore and we thought it was best you lived with me."
Now he is asking harder questions. Making it more difficult is the fact he has a 12 year old half brother who lives with her because his father is a bigger goober than she is. If he was any type of man she would have lost him too. So now Boy is trying to get this all straight in his head.
1. I live with dad, brother lives with mom, why?
2. If mom was not sound enough to have me why does she have him?
3. What did mom do that was so bad that the judge said I should live with dad.
4. What did mom do that was so bad that judge said I shouuld live with dad but brother gets to stay with her?
These questions all have answers, good answers, none of which make mom look too good so I cannot just "tell it like it is". So now I have to dance carefully around the explainations, not painting his mom to be bad, but justifying the fact he lives with me and not her.
Pete
Repete
I don't know that he is jealous, they get along fine. It is a different world there as opposed to here with me. Since he has been with me since he was 13 months old, he has no reccolection of EVER living with his mom and half brother. As far as he knows going there is more like visiting a really cool aunt and a cousin.