mitzi
Well-Known Member
Ugh. I've followed this story for over 40 years. Seems I remember you mentioning this before.
I am the mother of "that child"
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Ugh. I've followed this story for over 40 years. Seems I remember you mentioning this before.
DannyMotorcycle
Active Member
Of course that's possible.
DannyMotorcycle
Active Member
here are some random thoughts off the top of my head.. distract him.. wear him out.. sign him up for all kinds of sports to focus on.. idle hands are the devils workshop?
Like 7 days a week..
Let him vent his aggression via sports, and also tire himself out... move to a state that allows it or secretly try canabis oil or brownies.. whatever you can secretly administer..
Get him into swimming.. maybe it will relax him and wear him out and also hinder his tantrums.. he can punch all the water he wants to..
put him in a boxing school? martial arts acadamey/daycare or military academy...
Get him a bicycle and let him ride it around the neighborhood...maybe he can tire himself out or the exercise might normalize his chemical balances... but if he can get himself locked up.. oh well... The next time he's locked up, tell the cops courts that he just made a threat to you, which he has in the past right? have him charged with that and kept.
At this point i'd consider being charged with abandonment.. i don't think they'll find 12 jurors to convict you when you tell your tearful story.
The next time you so much as get a scratch.. call the cops.. have him arrested... Either he'll stop harming or he'll stay locked up. Even if he throws something at someone.. call the cops.. assault.
press charges..
I also have to wonder how much of the medicine is contributing to his behavior.. might be time to consider either no medicine or medicine that sedates him.
Like 7 days a week..
Let him vent his aggression via sports, and also tire himself out... move to a state that allows it or secretly try canabis oil or brownies.. whatever you can secretly administer..
Get him into swimming.. maybe it will relax him and wear him out and also hinder his tantrums.. he can punch all the water he wants to..
put him in a boxing school? martial arts acadamey/daycare or military academy...
Get him a bicycle and let him ride it around the neighborhood...maybe he can tire himself out or the exercise might normalize his chemical balances... but if he can get himself locked up.. oh well... The next time he's locked up, tell the cops courts that he just made a threat to you, which he has in the past right? have him charged with that and kept.
At this point i'd consider being charged with abandonment.. i don't think they'll find 12 jurors to convict you when you tell your tearful story.
The next time you so much as get a scratch.. call the cops.. have him arrested... Either he'll stop harming or he'll stay locked up. Even if he throws something at someone.. call the cops.. assault.
press charges..
I also have to wonder how much of the medicine is contributing to his behavior.. might be time to consider either no medicine or medicine that sedates him.
littlelady
God bless the USA
I don't think that I am wrong, but you said somewhere on the forum that you don't have children. Thus, you have no reason to be giving advice on the subject. If I were you, I would be working on your marriage; according to your other comments about your roofing accident.
I don't think that I am wrong, but you said somewhere on the forum that you don't have children. Thus, you have no reason to be giving advice on the subject. If I were you, I would be working on your marriage; according to your other comments about your roofing accident.
Regardless if he has children or not, I think he offered up some good ideas. You on the other hand...
HeavyChevy75
Podunk FL
I don't think that I am wrong, but you said somewhere on the forum that you don't have children. Thus, you have no reason to be giving advice on the subject. If I were you, I would be working on your marriage; according to your other comments about your roofing accident.
REALLY sometimes people without children occasionally have ideas of how to help with them. Where I ride we have a child that is extremely hyper active. My suggestion was the days he rides the parents should bring him early and let him burn some of that energy off around the farm. Always stalls to be clean, horses washed and there is wide open space where he can just run. Shockingly enough - it has worked. They were like how did you know. 1. Been around horses a long time and see many hyper active kids burn that energy off running around the ring, jumping jumps and just being kids.
foxxynhounds
Member
Whether you have kids or not - all good ideas, and most of which (besides the cannabis), we've tried.
Sports - if he doesn't like the way it's going, he just quits. On the field. Try to push him, he explodes. Game over.
Swimming - won't do organized swimming, only playing - and that's not exhausting.
Bicycle - has one, rides the hell out of it.
We have not tried the military academy yet, though we did try Tae Kwon Do years ago. Didn't like that either (see his reaction to swimming).
foxxynhounds
Member
Yes, though obviously not inherited from us (mom and dad). BUT - almost impossible to differentiate between behaviors caused by genetics and those caused by early environment at this point.
I don't think that I am wrong, but you said somewhere on the forum that you don't have children. Thus, you have no reason to be giving advice on the subject. If I were you, I would be working on your marriage; according to your other comments about your roofing accident.
I disagree with this on many levels. A person doesn't have to be on fully equal "playing fields" to not have a valid opinion or something to contribute. The examples are endless where this is true.
Sometimes it's the person who isn't familiar with all the details or aren't fully invested in the emotion of it because they don't have an identical experience who sees a simple answer or solution. The whole "can't see the forest for the trees" concept. Personally I think his ideas have some merit and may be helpful is not considered previously.
Clem72
Well-Known Member
I don't think that I am wrong, but you said somewhere on the forum that you don't have children. Thus, you have no reason to be giving advice on the subject. If I were you, I would be working on your marriage; according to your other comments about your roofing accident.
Holy shet. I don't know a damn thing about DannyMotorcycle, but on his behalf you can go right on and feck yerself.
frequentflier
happy to be living
Yes, I understand he is not your birth child. Since I have never had children, I really don't know much about raising them. It was something that was not mentioned. I admire you and your husband for taking care of and loving this young man.
LightRoasted
If I may ...
If I may ...
There you go again. Criticizing someone when you have no pony in the show. Will you never learn?
I don't think that I am wrong, but you said somewhere on the forum that you don't have children. Thus, you have no reason to be giving advice on the subject. If I were you, I would be working on your marriage; according to your other comments about your roofing accident.
There you go again. Criticizing someone when you have no pony in the show. Will you never learn?
Redskinsmama
New Member
I don't think I am wrong, but you are ignorant. You do not have to have children to provide insight on a situation where multiple avenues have been sought. If I were you, I would be working on your personality; according to your comment you're a grade A jerk.
black dog
Free America
I don't think that I am wrong, but you said somewhere on the forum that you don't have children. Thus, you have no reason to be giving advice on the subject. If I were you, I would be working on your marriage; according to your other comments about your roofing accident.
If I was the parent of a Crackhead and a kid that can't even order a Uber I wouldn't be running off the mouth with parental advice..
black dog
Free America
You might want to learn how to use the " Quote Feature " that way folks understand whom you are replying to.
PsyOps
Pixelated
Foxxy... I haven't read every post, so I'm sorry if this has been mentioned. Have you looked closely at his diet? Consider food allergies and intolerances. Allergies don't always affect a person physically - as in a rash or asthma or other like-symptoms. Allergic reactions or food intolerance can affect the way the brain reacts. Of course the obvious is foods with a lot of sugar. If you do a food log and try to catch what he might eat during days that are worse, this may clue you in. The thing to really get connected with is, everything we eat doesn't only affect our body: muscles, skin, organs, etc... it also affects our brain.
Another question... does he have gastro issues. Lots of stomach pain, irregular bowels...? Look up leaky gut and ADHD/Anxiety/stress. Lots of correlating factors between the two.
Just another thing to think about.
Another question... does he have gastro issues. Lots of stomach pain, irregular bowels...? Look up leaky gut and ADHD/Anxiety/stress. Lots of correlating factors between the two.
Just another thing to think about.
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DannyMotorcycle
Active Member
I don't think that I am wrong, but you said somewhere on the forum that you don't have children. Thus, you have no reason to be giving advice on the subject. If I were you, I would be working on your marriage; according to your other comments about your roofing accident.
You are wrong.
I am not giving advice. I'm just sharing ideas off the top of my head as i stated.
Don't worry about my marriage. If I don't care to keep it, you certainly should not.
perhaps you should not be commenting by your logic.
DannyMotorcycle
Active Member
Regardless if he has children or not, I think he offered up some good ideas. You on the other hand...
Thank you
DannyMotorcycle
Active Member
This was a very good post. physical stress and pain could cause one to be irritable, impatient, and short tempered without one even realizing what's going on. Even if he's one to procrastinate on using the bathroom, all that could be manifesting... and at least be part of the problem... and of course hunger too.