I could use some input ....

Nanny Pam

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Christy said:
I think your best bet would be to send out a reminder letter to ALL parents regarding sweets and such. That way it gets them the msg, but it isn't directed specifically towards them. Just note that all sweets sent in will be put up and given back to the child when the day is over. :shrug:
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The evil side of me wants to give it to the kid just before she leaves. :evil:
 
crabcake

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Nanny Pam said:
Yeah, it's R***
Do you know that it is going on 4 weeks since her hair was combed? She was in Florida for a week of that, too.
I did it the last time. Washed, combed and braided it for them. I am really upset about this entire situation. I guess I'll wash it for her when she gets up from her nap. Poor kid.
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Yea, umm, we call that "neglect" in these parts. :twitch:
 
vraiblonde

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crabcake said:
Yea, umm, we call that "neglect" in these parts.
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That's what we call it around here, too. :ohwell:

Talking to the Mom sounds like a waste of time. Curious why the grandparents don't take better care of the child or at least make the daughter do it?
 
Christy

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vraiblonde said:
That's what we call it around here, too. :ohwell:

Talking to the Mom sounds like a waste of time. Curious why the grandparents don't take better care of the child or at least make the daughter do it?
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Either way, I don't feel that it is the role of the daycare provider to tell a parent or a grandparent how they should properly raise their child. The only say a daycare provider should have is as far as what is the rules that are enforced at the daycare. :shrug:
 
crabcake

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Sounds like it's time for a total daycare policy review by all the parents ... as a mommy, sometimes we develop relationships with our daycare providers that crosses over into friendship, and sometimes it's easy to unintentionally take advantage of that relationship without really meaning to, and we need to be reminded of the fact that while we might be friends, there is also a contract between us pertaining to care for our children.

I suggest you draft up a reminder doc for all the parents to include a reminder of the drop-off policy (if you're not coming, please call); meal times (if your kid isn't here by 9 a.m., you better have served them breakfast, and a bag of M&Ms doesn't equate to breakfast :nono:); pick-up times (and the per-minute fee for being late); that children are expected to be bathed and otherwise clean when dropped off; don't bring your kids if they're sick (to get the others sick); etc. Reiterate that your priority is the health and safety of ALL the kids, and include on the letter that this is a friendly reminder to ALL parents.

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cattitude

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Christy said:
Either way, I don't feel that it is the role of the daycare provider to tell a parent or a grandparent how they should properly raise their child. The only say a daycare provider should have is as far as what is the rules that are enforced at the daycare. :shrug:
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Exactly BUT..just as a teacher...I'd think if you suspect neglect, really and truly neglect, you have an obligation to report it.
 
Christy

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cattitude said:
Exactly BUT..just as a teacher...I'd think if you suspect neglect, really and truly neglect, you have an obligation to report it.
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I agree, but I don't think any of those issues she stated warrants a call to CPS. :shrug:
 
crabcake

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Christy said:
Either way, I don't feel that it is the role of the daycare provider to tell a parent or a grandparent how they should properly raise their child. The only say a daycare provider should have is as far as what is the rules that are enforced at the daycare. :shrug:
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You're right; however, if the behavior demonstrated by the parents/grandparents carries over in the form of misbehavior in the daycare, it becomes an issue for the provider.

At that point, the provider (NP) needs to tell them that while it's up to them how they do things under their roof, it's up to her how things are done in her home. And if they choose to keep about their ways, they'll need to find alternative child care for the kiddo.
 
FancyBelle

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I think Vrai's got the right idea. "Explain your situation nicely - "I have a favor to ask. I know you like to give little Ermentrude treats, but could you please not send them with her when she comes here, unless there's enough for all the kids? We'd love to have you provide snack on occasion, but it's really not fair to the other children when Ermentrude has treats that they don't. I'm sure you understand."
Then if they continue, tell the mom you can't deal with lil Ermentrude on Monday's and just drop her off Tues thru Fridays. :wench:
 
Nanny Pam

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I have been talking to the grandparents before I just posted to chasey. They are so happy I called them. They said that she was throwing a fit so they gave her cookies to "shut her up." They asked me what I would have done. I suggested that by giving in to her demands they were teaching her a bad habit. "Throw a fit to get what I want."
They admit they have no clue how to raise a child as they always had a live in Nanny for their daughter.
I told them I never want to loose their friendship, however things have been a bit strained as far as R***'s behavior issues are concerned. They both agree 100% (I had both grandparents on the phone at the same time.)

They also told me to call them whenever I had any concers\ns.


I feel a lot better now.


Thanks again, everyone!
 
Nanny Pam

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crabcake said:
So what was the explanation for not washing that nappy ass head of hair? :snacks:
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I already knew why ... She cries and she doesn't like it. :rolleyes:

Yeah well, she screams bloody murder when I wash her hair too, but If I don't do it, no-one will. Pity.
 
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