It has come to my attention...

[mAlice]

And wanna know why we get skinny when we break up? To make you guys mad....not really to attract another man.

I thought it was because there was no longer someone walking in the door at the end of the day asking what's for dinner.

 

[libertytyranny]

I thought it was because there was no longer someone walking in the door at the end of the day asking what's for dinner.

Now that I live with someone..that is absolutely correct..

 

[Toxick]

But it doesn't stop you from being annoyed though..does it?

I don't believe I ever date someone who completely let herself go while we were together only to get back on her game after I was gone.

However if I were in the situation where a girl did that, I'd probably be less "annoyed" and more confused and sad wondering why she didn't care enough about me or our relationship to do those things while we were together. Especially if I was doing 300 sit-ups and taking Enzyte every day to make her happy.

 

[GWguy]

And wanna know why we get skinny when we break up? To make you guys mad....not really to attract another man.

This makes sense..... When we were breaking up, my ex started curling her hair, painting her toenails, getting skinny.... I thought it was either to boost her morale or look for guys. It makes absolute sense that she wanted to tick me off.... "Here I am, I'm looking good, and you can't touch.."

 

[libertytyranny]

I don't believe I ever date someone who completely let herself go while we were together only to get back on her game after I was gone.

However if I were in the situation where a girl did that, I'd probably be less "annoyed" and more confused and sad wondering why she didn't care enough about me or our relationship to do those things while we were together. Especially if I was doing 300 sit-ups and taking Enzyte every day to make her happy.

You equate weight with how much a woman cares about you and your relationship?

 

[SG_Player1974]

You equate weight with how much a woman cares about you and your relationship?

Don't know about Tox but,

I 100% EQUATE WEIGHT TO HOW MUCH A WOMAN CARES ABOUT HERSELF!!

And if a woman does not care enough about herself then why would I think she cares about her mate?

 

[libertytyranny]

Don't know about Tox but,

I 100% EQUATE WEIGHT TO HOW MUCH A WOMAN CARES ABOUT HERSELF!!

And if a woman does not care enough about herself then why would I think she cares about her mate?

Not herself...you and your relationship.

And why would you think that a woman equates her weight with how she feels about her partner or her relationship?


Men are allowed to gain that "comfy relationship" weight..but not women?


What if you were in a relationship with a total hottie..and she got say, crohns and was put on steroids and blew up like a balloon? How then?



I had a really good talk with SO about this once..He and perfectly honestly...that if I got fat he would still love me..but he would no longer be sexually attracted and that is an important thing to him. We agreed that if one of us gained too much weight we would try to help each other..but never did it cross either of our minds that something like that would happen because we no longer care about each other or our realtionship...that's just ridiculous. What if your gf/wife had a child and had a hard time getting the weight off would you assume she hates you and your relationship?


What an assinine theory.

 

[vraiblonde]

I thought it was because there was no longer someone walking in the door at the end of the day asking what's for dinner.

This gets my vote.

 

[RoseRed]

I thought it was because there was no longer someone walking in the door at the end of the day asking what's for dinner.

 

[vraiblonde]

beer, batteries, "adult" entertainment and PPV fights... sounds like a great weekend.

If they had a woman who'd have sex on demand, make them snacks, and do it all without speaking or trying to engage them in any way, this would be most guys' idea of a perfect weekend.

 

[betty99]

If I had a man who would give backrubs on command, clean my house, and do it all without speaking, I might oblige. Everyone could be happy

 

[Christy]

Why is it that women tend to get fatter when they finally do rope in a man but, as soon as they get rid of or lose him, they are right back on the treadmill or in the gym. Isn't this counter productive to the end result?

I wouldn't say they were comfortable, I would say they were miserable. Speaking from personal experience I dropped weight without even trying when I got rid of the 190 lbs of douchebag man.

 

[MMDad]

Translation: Once I no longer want to have sex with you, you cease to hold my interest on any level.

"When Harry Met Sally" explains it for you.

 

[SG_Player1974]

Not herself...you and your relationship.

And why would you think that a woman equates her weight with how she feels about her partner or her relationship?


Men are allowed to gain that "comfy relationship" weight..but not women?


What if you were in a relationship with a total hottie..and she got say, crohns and was put on steroids and blew up like a balloon? How then?



I had a really good talk with SO about this once..He and perfectly honestly...that if I got fat he would still love me..but he would no longer be sexually attracted and that is an important thing to him. We agreed that if one of us gained too much weight we would try to help each other..but never did it cross either of our minds that something like that would happen because we no longer care about each other or our realtionship...that's just ridiculous. What if your gf/wife had a child and had a hard time getting the weight off would you assume she hates you and your relationship?


What an assinine theory.

Actually, what is assinine is that you think that the only time a woman gains weight or keeps it on is for the reasons you stated above!

Health issues and child birth are always the #1 and #2 things that women throw out there when this issue comes up but, what is the excuse 2-3 years after child birth? It is when laziness and lack of self respect come into play is when I get upset. Not sickness and child birth!

And I don't equate it with how a woman thinks about her partner or relationship.... That was Tox! I said it 100% equates to how she feels about herself.

 

[Toxick]

You equate weight with how much a woman cares about you and your relationship?

Hey, I was just rolling along with the conversation...


If I remember correctly, it was a conversation that you were a part of, and one in which you implied that women fix themselves up (perhaps lose weight, perhaps other things) "after" they break up with a man in order to piss him off.

The above quote seems to hint that you now all of a sudden want to get an attitude with me about the conversation and the way it's going.



Alright, since you asked straight out, the way you maintain your looks says a great deal about how much you care about your relationship.

I'm aware that people get older, and it's harder for women to maintain that hourglass, and men will get soggy around the midsection, and the gray is going to creep in, and boobs/balls are going to succumb to the long term effects of gravity. Sometimes the thyroid acts up, and people are suddenly round...

That's natural and has nothing to do with relationships nor the respect thereof.

However, if you snag a partner, and then suddenly decide that spending an hour at Curves is suddenly too much to ask, Bic Razors are suddenly too expensive for frequent shaves, running the brush through your hair 100 times every night is finally boring, and passing up that extra rack of ribs and beer is a bit more restraint than is really necessary, then it is a sign of complacence, and indicates that you don't respect yourself or your partner or your relationship enough to keep trying.

There. I said it.

 

[mAlice]

Why are these discussions always about women who gain weight because of (insert reason), and rarely about the the man slob who parks in front (insert sporting event) with his beer and chips? Jeez, you people make it sound like men don't get fat.

 

[vraiblonde]

Why are these discussions always about women who gain weight because of (insert reason), and rarely about the the man slob who parks in front (insert sporting event) with his beer and chips? Jeez, you people make it sound like men don't get fat.

Because men are shallow asshats who only care about superficial qualities like looks.

And, Tox, if you think only the good looking hotties care about their relationships, I have some gals I'd like you to meet. Typically they, like their extraordinarily hot male counterparts, are insanely self-centered and do not even think about you, let alone care about you. Most of them think all they have to do is show up and you should fall down in a heap of gratitude.

Choice between a rack of ribs and beer, and some guy who only likes you when you're a size 6? No contest, baby.

 

[PrepH4U]

Why are these discussions always about women who gain weight because of (insert reason), and rarely about the the man slob who parks in front (insert sporting event) with his beer and chips? Jeez, you people make it sound like men don't get fat.

When did it become ok to burp, fart and scratch their privates in front of their spouse also. That sure didn't happen when they dated either. :shrug:

 

[SG_Player1974]

Why are these discussions always about women who gain weight because of (insert reason), and rarely about the the man slob who parks in front (insert sporting event) with his beer and chips? Jeez, you people make it sound like men don't get fat.

If you want the honest answer.... It is because it does not happen NEARLY as much as with women!

I pose this question to you: How often do you see slim men with wider women? I know I see it ALL THE TIME!

Now, how often do you see slim women with wider men? HARDLY EVER!!!

I would be willing to bet you a paycheck that the fat, chip eating, beer guzzling slob you are referring to will be going home to an equally ice cream devouring, rotund GF or wife!

 

[libertytyranny]

Hey, I was just rolling along with the conversation...


If I remember correctly, it was a conversation that you were a part of, and one in which you implied that women fix themselves up (perhaps lose weight, perhaps other things) "after" they break up with a man in order to piss him off.

The above quote seems to hint that you now all of a sudden want to get an attitude with me about the conversation and the way it's going.



Alright, since you asked straight out, the way you maintain your looks says a great deal about how much you care about your relationship.

I'm aware that people get older, and it's harder for women to maintain that hourglass, and men will get soggy around the midsection, and the gray is going to creep in, and boobs/balls are going to succumb to the long term effects of gravity. Sometimes the thyroid acts up, and people are suddenly round...

That's natural and has nothing to do with relationships nor the respect thereof.

However, if you snag a partner, and then suddenly decide that spending an hour at Curves is suddenly too much to ask, Bic Razors are suddenly too expensive for frequent shaves, running the brush through your hair 100 times every night is finally boring, and passing up that extra rack of ribs and beer is a bit more restraint than is really necessary, then it is a sign of complacence, and indicates that you don't respect yourself or your partner or your relationship enough to keep trying.

There. I said it.

Yeah. And we are supossed to ignore when hubby stops shaving, starts farting, gains the inevitable "marriage weight", walks around in hole-y boxers, reduces their exercise to cutting the grass on the riding lawnmower and abandons chinos and collared shirts for tucked in tshirts and ratty jeans?


but giving life to children doesn't entitle you to a couple of extra pounds and a thrice yearly shave?






Still. I fail to see how the way a person LOOKS...equals how they feel about ANOTHER person. It's silly.

and staying skinny is a lot of hard work for some women..if they want to chill out a little and be more comfy...so what. if you are looking for a stepford wife..I hear they have the kits on ebay. Cuz unless you are brad pitt and plan on staying that way...you have no room to talk