Just Got My Court Order
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Bronwyn
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Azzy said:
They won't do that simply because of the fathers out there that would take advantage of that rule. Why pay 1400$ a month when you could simply quit your job and go work at McDonalds. They hold you to what you are "Capable" of making.
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Bronwyn
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Most lawyers suck and take all your money. Truth is though, that some judges will step all over you if you show up without a lawyer that knows what's right and wrong. I won't mention any names, Master Wells was famous for walking all over pro se cases.Pete said:
oldman
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Dougstermd said:
All I can add is that as a Dad with grown up boys I consider it my duty to push money their way when they really need it, not to mention I feel good doing it. My family helped me out in the past and I always repayed them, but I do not ask for repayment from my sons. I'm not leaving them much when I pass, so I will give it to them now, as they need it, rather than later. And face the facts, you cannot afford to live unless something changes. Most of us have bumps in life and sometimes you just have to accept help when it's offered. I wish you luck.
Azzy
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That doesnt sound right. I was told that you can go in at any time and ask them to refigure it and base it on what you have at the time. Technically, as long as my ex is not working a "real" job, the lawyer told me that he can go in and explain it and have his child support waved until he does get a real job. You need to find out for sure because nothing in the court system costs $3K unless thats what you're paying a lawyer.Dougstermd said:
Azzy
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Usually thats how it works BUT he did not quit his job, and obviously he can't make what he use to because if he could, there is no doubt in my mind that he would be making that. It would be one thing if he went there unemployed and they said "this is what you can make" but then he has to look for the same kind of job he had. Apparently he can't get that kind of job now and CS should be adjusted accordingly. $1400 a month is STILL way too high IMO unless its for daycare and insurance andBronwyn said:
but I don't think thats the case. $1400 is a freakin mortgage payment. CS is ALSO supposed to be calculated on what the other parent makes as well. It is unfair for the noncustodial parent to pay that freakin much, when the other parent is married and the new spouse probably pays a good bit of what the children get each month. http://www.marylandlawonline.com/cal/MDCSC.html
See what you come up with on here and then you have an idea of what to say if you go to have it changed.
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Bronwyn
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Azzy said:Usually thats how it works BUT he did not quit his job, and obviously he can't make what he use to because if he could, there is no doubt in my mind that he would be making that. It would be one thing if he went there unemployed and they said "this is what you can make" but then he has to look for the same kind of job he had. Apparently he can't get that kind of job now and CS should be adjusted accordingly. $1400 a month is STILL way too high IMO unless its for daycare and insurance and
http://www.marylandlawonline.com/cal/MDCSC.html
See what you come up with on here and then you have an idea of what to say if you go to have it changed.
I agree that he might be paying WAY to much considering his circumstances. I have seen both sides of this fence. I collect child support from my first husband, and we keep it a reasonable amount abt $400 a month. The problem is that he quits his job every time we attach his wages and he moves all over the country. It's frustrating to watch him manipulate the system with every excuse in the book....
On the other side I have a friend who divorced his wife after she admitted to cheating on him. He pays abt 1500$ a month for the two kids plus alimony plus insurance for her and the kids. She doesn't work at all, and he gave her the house in the divorce. He got screwed so bad and his lawyer was no good. I feel bad about his situation because he is a really nice upstanding guy and she is a crazy b*tch.
Dougster,
Get familiar with Subtitle 12 of the Family Law Article of Maryland Code. As you were fired from the previous job and didn't just quit you are not "self-impoverished" and as such the amount of support should be adjusted to your new earnings.
Get familiar with Subtitle 12 of the Family Law Article of Maryland Code. As you were fired from the previous job and didn't just quit you are not "self-impoverished" and as such the amount of support should be adjusted to your new earnings.
Subtitle 12 help
This is the link to the guidelines and definitions for family law subtitle 12. hope it's some help. http://www.dhr.state.md.us/csea/help.htm
This is the link to the guidelines and definitions for family law subtitle 12. hope it's some help. http://www.dhr.state.md.us/csea/help.htm
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Dougstermd said:
Since your financial situation has changed have you filed for a modification?
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julz20684
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Do you see your children? Do you have regular visitation?
Cowgirl
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I know what you're going through Doug...sort of. My boyfriend is having to pay CS for 3 months because his ex's mistake (too long of a story to really go into). I can't believe how screwed up the system can be sometimes. We were calculating the amount he'd have to pay on the Child Support Calculator...don't know the website, but I'm sure you can find it. It's absolutely rediculous how much some people have to pay. The idea is for the kids to be living in the same standards as they would with both parents are together. So...the 'custodial' parent can be a lazy slacker and the 'non-custodial' parent who busts their butt to get a good job gets screwed. I'm all for the idea of 'child support' but hate when it gets to the point of "support for the lazy asses who milk the system and don't try to do anything to better themselves."
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sockgirl77
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Can I sit on your Santa's lap?julz20684 said:
sockgirl77
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Dear Doug,
You got screwed. Find a better job. Pay your CS.
Love,
Socki
P.S. You may have to give up
for a bit. :shrug:
You got screwed. Find a better job. Pay your CS.
Love,
Socki
P.S. You may have to give up
for a bit. :shrug:
Toxick
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What? The guy can't even enjoy a beer or two because he has to send nearly every single penny that he makes for child support? Come on now.....he's doing the right thing by taking care of his children, but at the same time he's been forced to deny himself a life, too. That's not right.sockgirl77 said:Dear Doug,
You got screwed. Find a better job. Pay your CS.
Love,
Socki
P.S. You may have to give up
Does it really cost $1400 to care for two children?