Just Got My Court Order

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julz20684

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aps45819 said:
It's a deduction on my paystub.

I consider it my privlege to be in my son's life on as close to a daily basis as I can.
Sorry you're bitter about your ex.

I'm glad you consider it a privlege ~ I get so tired of hearing men count down to when they no longer have to "pay" for their kids.

Fact of the matter is I am not bitter at my ex, yes at one time I was bitter, but no longer. I feel sorry for him. He is missing out on the two best people he will ever know. Even though it takes everything I have - physically, emotionally, and financially having frick & frack in my life and being their mother is the best thing that has ever happened to me
 

aps45819

24/7 Single Dad
julz20684 said:
Then why the joy over 10 years aps? I've turned down a million things for my kids as well.
The joy is over the end of a court ordered payment, not the end of my obligation to my son. There's just something grating about being ORDERED to do something.
 
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julz20684

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mainman said:
A million, or are you embellishing just a tad? :confused:

MM, a figure of speech that's all. :razz: Thank you for pointing out my horrible ways.
 

Nickel

curiouser and curiouser
Chasey_Lane said:
His sister just called me out of the blue. Apparently he was driving through Frederick (lives in VA) and got pulled over for improper display of a license plate or something. Showed up as having an outstanding warrant so they took him in. He can't leave until he pays $9k, which is about 3/4 what he owes. :killingme I don't know what he expects me to do, he failed to return adoption paperwork I sent him a year ago, and I've never called social services to complain about the non-payment. I hope he likes his jumpsuit. :roflmao:
 
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julz20684

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aps45819 said:
The joy is over the end of a court ordered payment, not the end of my obligation to my son. There's just something grating about being ORDERED to do something.

I often wondered why people had to be ORDERED to take care of their children, why wouldn't that just be a given?
 

Nickel

curiouser and curiouser
Chasey_Lane said:
Can I have the address of the jail? I'd like to send him some mistletoe to hang in his cell. :smile:
It's somewhere in Frederick. Maybe Vrai can pay him a visit. :giggle:
 

Azzy

New Member
julz20684 said:
I often wondered why people had to be ORDERED to take care of their children, why wouldn't that just be a given?
Because there are too many people who quit their jobs and work under the table like Mexicans so they wont have to pay it (ex) :ohwell: Messes it up for everyone.
 

aps45819

24/7 Single Dad
julz20684 said:
I get so tired of hearing men count down to when they no longer have to "pay" for their kids.
Just a "guy" thing. SOmetimes I'll answer the "how old is he?" question with "negative 10 in child support years."
julz20684 said:
Fact of the matter is I am not bitter at my ex, yes at one time I was bitter, but no longer. I feel sorry for him. He is missing out on the two best people he will ever know. Even though it takes everything I have - physically, emotionally, and financially having frick & frack in my life and being their mother is the best thing that has ever happened to me
Egzactly, I wouldn't want to miss seeing my guy learn and do things. I was recently offered an overseas job at triple my current pay and turned it down because I would be gone for at least a year.
 

SouthernMdRocks

R.I.P. Bobo, We miss you!
Dougstermd said:
$3000 to pay for the appeal and that would pay two more months of CS WTF. My dad said he would give me the money but I think its a waste of money. Plus i have never had to taker a handout from anyone. I have always been the one handing out.

Something is not right here. You could have done a better job taking it to court w/o the lawyer. Years ago I was given a court order to receive 620/month for my son. Father never paid, he told me it was just too much so I told him to file for a modification (maybe $75 at that time to do it yourself), I asked him what he could afford, he told me 450/month and I agreed and it was change. Needless to say he still didn't pay until they finally threw his arse in jail.
 

aps45819

24/7 Single Dad
julz20684 said:
I often wondered why people had to be ORDERED to take care of their children, why wouldn't that just be a given?
because the ex went to court. Turned out all the money I'd given her prior to the judgement didn't count and I was in arrears starting from his birthday.
 
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julz20684

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aps45819 said:
Just a "guy" thing. SOmetimes I'll answer the "how old is he?" question with "negative 10 in child support years."

Egzactly, I wouldn't want to miss seeing my guy learn and do things. I was recently offered an overseas job at triple my current pay and turned it down because I would be gone for at least a year.


Ok, my rant is over now, thank you I feel much better :flowers:
 

BuddyLee

Football addict
julz20684 said:
I often wondered why people had to be ORDERED to take care of their children, why wouldn't that just be a given?
This is because oftentimes people don't agree; say you were Aps' wife for instance.

People are complicated and different in that they diverge on various issues. You almost need an arbitrator (lawyer) and enforceable rule of law (judge and law enforcement) to come to some order between the disputing parties.

Isn't this common sense? My bad, common sense must have been one of the million things you gave up for your children.
 
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