Marriage: What is it good for?

LexiGirl75

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In these days and times when celebrity lifestyles are definiing things and influencing tomorrow's future generations. What is going to become of marriage?

SoMD what say you? :popcorn:
 
Otter

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LexiGirl75 said:
In these days and times when celebrity lifestyles are definiing things and influencing tomorrow's future generations. What is going to become of marriage?

SoMD what say you? :popcorn:
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StanleyRugg

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Ma'am, I am still savin myself for marriage. Momma gave up hope a long time ago that there was a woman out there who would treat me right but I aint. I still court form time to time but I am holin out for Ms. Rite.
 
vraiblonde

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Shacking up is tacky, plus society doesn't respect it. People figure if you were a legitimate couple, you'd get married. When you just live together, there's no appearance of commitment.

Plus there are legal aspects of marriage that shack-ups don't enjoy. Your husband or wife is your next of kin, no ifs ands or buts.
 
StanleyRugg

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vraiblonde said:
Shacking up is tacky, plus society doesn't respect it. People figure if you were a legitimate couple, you'd get married. When you just live together, there's no appearance of commitment.

Plus there are legal aspects of marriage that shack-ups don't enjoy. Your husband or wife is your next of kin, no ifs ands or buts.
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You talkin about livin in sin? No way I would do that, first off Momma would kick my overalls insideout. Nope, gotta be married. I even have the plans to add onto the trailer for me and my bride when I find her.
 
sushisamba

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History repeats itself. Marriage was sacred once and lately we've seen a steady decline in the sanctity of the institution. It's bound to come full circle at some point. :shrug:

Personally, I would only do it again if I thought I was sacrificing a great deal of independence to be with the person. For example, he gets a fantastic job offer that requires moving to Boston but I can't find a job making what I make now in Boston. If he really wants me to go, he better marry me. I'm not giving up a good paycheck, place to live, friends and family to move to Boston and get dumped a month later. :boo: Marrying me would prove just how serious he is. :yay:
 
sockgirl77

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vraiblonde said:
Shacking up is tacky.
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I married a man that I had never lived with before. Mistake. I am a firm believer that people need to live with each other before getting married. You need to see someone in their own habitat before marrying them. IMHO. :shrug:
 
sushisamba

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sockgirl77 said:
I married a man that I had never lived with before. Mistake. I am a firm believer that people need to live with each other before getting married. You need to see someone in their own habitat before marrying them. IMHO. :shrug:
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If you date someone and they have their own place, which you would be visiting, you do get to see them in their own habitat :confused:
 
vraiblonde

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Lugnut said:
Just because that couple has three children and bought a house together doesn't mean they're a committed couple...
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If you've got kids together, why wouldn't you just get married? :confused:
 
Nickel

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sockgirl77 said:
I married a man that I had never lived with before. Mistake. I am a firm believer that people need to live with each other before getting married. You need to see someone in their own habitat before marrying them. IMHO. :shrug:
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I think the term "shacking up" in the context Vrai is using, is describing people that have no intentions of getting married. I "shacked up" with D, but only after we were engaged to be married. I agree that you should see what you're getting yourself into before you get into it, but I also feel like there should be some agreement that you will be advancing the relationship at some point, and not just "shacking up". That is simply my opinion though, I don't expect other people to abide by my standards.
 
vraiblonde

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sushisamba said:
If you date someone and they have their own place, which you would be visiting, you do get to see them in their own habitat
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:yay:

Larry and I didn't live together. :shrug:
 
LexiGirl75

LexiGirl75

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That's one way to look at it.

vraiblonde said:
Shacking up is tacky, plus society doesn't respect it. People figure if you were a legitimate couple, you'd get married. When you just live together, there's no appearance of commitment.

Plus there are legal aspects of marriage that shack-ups don't enjoy. Your husband or wife is your next of kin, no ifs ands or buts.
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I think to people who have been lucky enough to experience a successful marriage will view anything less is just that... less.

However, in my situation. I have my children and I don't want anymore, I have reached my 30's without marrying as well as have seen the ship of "innocence in love" sail away to a really frustrating reality (men have minds too).

So, with that said for me I am not sure if I ever will marry but should I it will be after my sons are adults because I don't want to raise my sons with an additional man because I want to totally focus on my son's becoming successful with my undivided attention as far as a full-time home environment.

And more so when I finally settle down with a man be it marriage or shacking or just a relationship I want a man to only focus on me and there to be minimal distractions and challenges.

That might sound selfish (or tacky) but I really want life to be as simple as possible. I want to lie in one bed at a time (of the beds I've made).
 
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