Maryland Sex Offender Registry....

K_Jo

K_Jo

Pea Brain
PREMO Member
PrepH4U said:
No you have every right to your opinion. I too have seen the pain that it causes. It's a very emotional issue, and I didn't mean to offend you in anyway. :flowers:
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Consider me un-offendable! I feel like we should exchange promise rings or something. :lmao:
 
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justhangn

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HollywoodFred said:
Obviously, it's come to light that I am listed in the Sex Offender Database. This is true.

During the period 1994 to 1998, I had many unfortunate things happen to me in my life. The most significant was the loss of my 13th month old son to liver cancer, after an unsuccessful transplant. I did not deal with the anger and grief caused by that, and things festered within my mind, and that's what triggered my offenses. They were not sexually driven, but instead were driven by anger.

Once I was arrested, I was led to my therapist, who is considered to be the best in the Baltimore area by both the court and probation systems. I started seeing him at once, not because it would help the court case, but because it was the right thing to do. Nor did I lie, or try to deny the things I did; I admitted I did them, I admitted that I knew they were wrong, but I also did not know where to turn for help.

I not only destroyed my own life, but the lives of those around me. To this day I regret that, and I always will.

Fortunately for me, everyone I encountered in the judicial system knew what they were doing, from the agent that conducted my pre-sentence investigation, to the judge that sentenced me.
It's a common misperception that sex offenders cannot recover: that's true in 1% of the cases... for the rest, it varies, and is proportional to the severity of the crimes committed.

For two and a half years I saw the therapist at my own expense, interrupted only by my periods of incarceration. I did this not because I was required to, but again, it was the right thing to do. I even went to a couple of extra sessions past when he wanted to release me, because I wanted to be absolutely sure that nothing of this nature ever happens again.

Everyone else involved received treatment as well. And although I know that is a scar that will never heal completely, at least they have the tools to deal with it.

I did my incarceration. I did my probation. I have a goal today, and that goal is to be removed from the list when they review me in 2009. All I want today is to have a somewhat normal life.

I am a better person today than I was when the offenses occured. Gone is the predjudice I used to have, because today I know what it's like to be judged unfairly. I try to help people whenever I can. I try to be the best person I can be and live my life following Christian principles. Because I was thorough in my therapy, I am no longer a danger to society... and if I ever feel like things like that will happen again, I will be taking steps to correct the problem before it becomes an issue. Were I to be convicted again, I'd be facing 25 years or more incarceration, and I have no desire to do that.

There's the truth. I don't expect anyone to understand. It's what I've done, not what I am. I will be leaving here now...I don't expect the forums will be too much fun for me anymore.
I will just go about my business, and continue to do the right thing.
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Tina2001aniT

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K_Jo said:
I do have several people very close to me - friends and family members - who have been victims of abuse, and I know it's been a lifelong struggle for them. I have shared their pain. These are the same people whose abusers have not had to do jail time or therapy and have gone on with their lives as if nothing has happened. So I was just saying that at least Fred recognized his mistake and TRIED to do something about it. Like I said, I'm not expecting anyone to forgive him. I just should have kept my mouth shut.
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OK I know I am going to regret posting this on here, but oh well, here goes....

My sister and I were both molested when we were young, by the same :loser: . Let me also say that it was very "minimal" molestation, compatred to what could have happened. He went to jail for a little while and now lives in St. Mary's County. We have both had to deal with this all of our lives and still deal with it now. Yes, we have both had therapy, I am now 25 years old and this happened when I was 9, I still deal with this every day. I have flashbacks and it definately affects my relations with men and I think it always will. Every time I go to St. Mary's I worry that I will run into him....He works at the power plant over here and I used to, everytime I would see him there he would stare me down like he was something....my sister used to work at a restaurant in St. Mary's and they made reservations she started crying and shaking sooo bad I had to pick her up from work and bring her home.......Why is it that he can go around living his life as if nothing has happened and it still affects our life on an almost daily basis??

As far as remorse and rehab.... :bs: does not happen.......remorse possibly, but rehab NO WAY........This :loser: that molested us was a family member, I told myy parents first, as I was older, and my parents confronted him and his said that he was in love with me and always has been and just can't get me off his mind.....remember I was 9.......then about 6 years later my sister who was 5 at the time and had no idea that anything had ever happened, told her school counselor that she was molested and named him as well......

In conclusion anyone that molests a child or children is a piece of sh*t and does not deserve to live a normal life as his victims never will.......... :shutup:

****Disclaimer~~~~rhis is in no way to be taken as a threat, JMO
 
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justhangn

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Tina2001aniT said:
OK I know I am going to regret posting this on here, but oh well, here goes....

My sister and I were both molested when we were young, by the same :loser: . Let me also say that it was very "minimal" molestation, compatred to what could have happened. He went to jail for a little while and now lives in St. Mary's County. We have both had to deal with this all of our lives and still deal with it now. Yes, we have both had therapy, I am now 25 years old and this happened when I was 9, I still deal with this every day. I have flashbacks and it definately affects my relations with men and I think it always will. Every time I go to St. Mary's I worry that I will run into him....He works at the power plant over here and I used to, everytime I would see him there he would stare me down like he was something....my sister used to work at a restaurant in St. Mary's and they made reservations she started crying and shaking sooo bad I had to pick her up from work and bring her home.......Why is it that he can go around living his life as if nothing has happened and it still affects our life on an almost daily basis??

As far as remorse and rehab.... :bs: does not happen.......remorse possibly, but rehab NO WAY........This :loser: that molested us was a family member, I told myy parents first, as I was older, and my parents confronted him and his said that he was in love with me and always has been and just can't get me off his mind.....remember I was 9.......then about 6 years later my sister who was 5 at the time and had no idea that anything had ever happened, told her school counselor that she was molested and named him as well......

In conclusion anyone that molests a child or children is a piece of sh*t and does not deserve to live a normal life as his victims never will.......... :shutup:

****Disclaimer~~~~rhis is in no way to be taken as a threat, JMO
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For what it's worth, I'm very sorry to hear you and your sister were put through this.


You are right, the only treatment for this kind of crime is death, and they are guaranteed not to re-offend!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
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geminigrl

Guest
Tina2001aniT said:
OK I know I am going to regret posting this on here, but oh well, here goes....

My sister and I were both molested when we were young, by the same :loser: . Let me also say that it was very "minimal" molestation, compatred to what could have happened. He went to jail for a little while and now lives in St. Mary's County. We have both had to deal with this all of our lives and still deal with it now. Yes, we have both had therapy, I am now 25 years old and this happened when I was 9, I still deal with this every day. I have flashbacks and it definately affects my relations with men and I think it always will. Every time I go to St. Mary's I worry that I will run into him....He works at the power plant over here and I used to, everytime I would see him there he would stare me down like he was something....my sister used to work at a restaurant in St. Mary's and they made reservations she started crying and shaking sooo bad I had to pick her up from work and bring her home.......Why is it that he can go around living his life as if nothing has happened and it still affects our life on an almost daily basis??

As far as remorse and rehab.... :bs: does not happen.......remorse possibly, but rehab NO WAY........This :loser: that molested us was a family member, I told myy parents first, as I was older, and my parents confronted him and his said that he was in love with me and always has been and just can't get me off his mind.....remember I was 9.......then about 6 years later my sister who was 5 at the time and had no idea that anything had ever happened, told her school counselor that she was molested and named him as well......

In conclusion anyone that molests a child or children is a piece of sh*t and does not deserve to live a normal life as his victims never will.......... :shutup:

****Disclaimer~~~~rhis is in no way to be taken as a threat, JMO
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Tina2001aniT

New Member
justhangn said:
For what it's worth, I'm very sorry to hear you and your sister were put through this.


You are right, the only treatment for this kind of crime is death, and they are guaranteed not to re-offend!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Thank you----was not looking for sympathy...I don't know about death, I have always been a firm believer in Castration....
 
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justhangn

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Tina2001aniT said:
Thank you----was not looking for sympathy...I don't know about death, I have always been a firm believer in Castration....
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The sad thing about that is, it doesn't fix the persons brain, that's where the actual issue resides.
 
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justhangn

Guest
Tina2001aniT said:
true...how about castration then death???
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Hmmm.......depends on how you rip off their sack......

Stop worrying about it being a threat, I'd wager you'd have help.
 
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HollowSoul

Guest
For the record.......the admition of above statement is something i admire.....it took a lot of guts to post that, and in response.....hats off. you have more soul that i will ever have...
 
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Tina2001aniT

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justhangn said:
:confused: with a horse, car or pair of plyers??
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pliers I guess.......seems slowest and most painful.......I was kinda leaning towards....oohhh what are they called, the big black things that hold papers together....oh yea binder clips......
 
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justhangn

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Tina2001aniT said:
pliers I guess.......seems slowest and most painful.......I was kinda leaning towards....oohhh what are they called, the big black things that hold papers together....oh yea binder clips......
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You have to be careful, he would lose conciousness if too much pain in brought about too fast......
 
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Kain99

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The crime is horrible and forgivness is basically impossible. I do however have to say, I appreciate HollywoodFred's honesty.

The truth is ugly and he told it. He could have said that was my evil twin brother or something.

I learned a really big lesson today...... No matter how long you've played in the same place on the internet.... It's never safe.
 
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