Moral Question of the Day

[justhangn]

Originally posted by cariblue
Yes, they do. However, if it were my daughter, I'd still tell you it's none of your business. When I say danger, I'm talking about an immediate life threatening event like driving drunk or being in a vehicle with a driver under the influence. Talking about suicide or running away.

Banging like a screen door is not the most responsible act you want to just let your children do. Unfortunately with the media sources the way they are, kids already get the idea that doing any and everything is ok, sex is just for recreation, right??

 

[justhangn]

Originally posted by laureng
Oh, and also...personally, if another parent told me I wouldn't even tell my kid where I heard the information. I'd just tell them it was a reputable source, and not to worry about it. It's not WHO I found out from that matters, it is WHAT I found out that is the point.

They don't even have to say they heard anything.........just bring up the importance of safe sex and the responsibility that it requires.

 

[JabbaJawz]

Originally posted by justhangn
They don't even have to say they heard anything.........just bring up the importance of safe sex and the responsibility that it requires.

That's true, too. Or, they could just say they have a 'notion' that something could be going on, and want to reiterate the importance, blah blah blah.

 

[justhangn]

Originally posted by laureng
That's true, too. Or, they could just say they have a 'notion' that something could be going on, and want to reiterate the importance, blah blah blah.

I don't know about you, but when I was a pup and I had done something....I was more than aware of what my parents were thinking when they just happened to start talking about something that even came close to what I had actually done.

 

[JabbaJawz]

Originally posted by cariblue
I thought we were suppose to be posting our thoughts on this, not arguing that one opinion is better than the other, right or wrong. Did I blast your opinion because I disagreed with it? Perhaps you'd be happier if I just removed my post. I'll be happy to. Really. Not a problem at all.

No one is blasting, I don't think, we are just debating opinions in a reasonable manner. I said above that I can see where you are coming from, but just don't agree with your opinion. We all have a right to parent how we see fit, but are giving Vrai our best opinions on the matter at hand.

 

[JabbaJawz]

Originally posted by justhangn
I don't know about you, but when I was a pup and I had done something....I was more than aware of what my parents were thinking when they just happened to start talking about something that even came close to what I had actually done.

Okay, you got me. GOOD point. When they just happened to start a discussion on something I had goofed on, I felt even more nervous and anxious because I KNEW that they KNEW without them telling me they actually KNEW.

 

[Kain99]

Originally posted by cariblue
I thought we were suppose to be posting our thoughts on this, not arguing that one opinion is better than the other, right or wrong. Did I blast your opinion because I disagreed with it? Perhaps you'd be happier if I just removed my post. I'll be happy to. Really. Not a problem at all.

Don't get upset Cari. This is just one of those topics that illicits a gut type response from parents. For as long as you've been around I'm sure you realize that many of us take our opinions very seriously. It doesn't add anything to the topic to throw a tantrum and delete your posts.

 

[JabbaJawz]

Crap...time for me to head to the base. I'm anxious to get back and put in more of my 2 cents, lol!

 

[justhangn]

Originally posted by laureng
Okay, you got me. GOOD point. When they just happened to start a discussion on something I had goofed on, I felt even more nervous and anxious because I KNEW that they KNEW without them telling me they actually KNEW.

Exactly my thoughts

 

[justhangn]

Originally posted by cariblue
Oh gee, I didn't get a gut type reaction. Must mean I'm either not a parent, or not a good one. I'm not upset. Just trying to appease the more important people on the site. I really wouldn't want to step on any one's toes.

Oh Cari, you're such a butthead!!!! No one here is any more important than any other.

No one is saying you're a bad parent, I just don't agree with your style of parenting and I know there are those that don't agree with my style of parenting too.

and don't delete your post, that's what I did long ago and it solved nothing.

 

[justhangn]

Originally posted by kwillia
Vrai, do you have any kind of relationship with this girl? I'm not saying I think you should take on the parents role and cover the topic, I'm just wondering if you couldn't talk to her about the importance of talking with her parents. That way your daughter's friend knows you know and you can giver her a different perspective... maybe she will get that clue that it would be best for her parents to hear it from her rather than from somewhere else. If you take that approach, it may end up just where you want it with the girl and her parents talking and the trust between you and your daughter will still be there.

 

[Kain99]

Originally posted by cariblue
Oh gee, I didn't get a gut type reaction. Must mean I'm either not a parent, or not a good one. I'm not upset. Just trying to appease the more important people on the site. I really wouldn't want to step on any one's toes.

I sure didn't mean to say that you weren't a good parent. I guess I just misread your post. I thought your reaction was "gut induced" Even though it was different than mine.

 

[Kimmy]

Man reading all these posts kind-of makes me happy that I have boys!

 

[RoseRed]

Originally posted by Kimmy
Man reading all these posts kind-of makes me happy that I have boys!

and that makes thing better, why??? They can be father's can't they?

 

[Kain99]

Originally posted by Kimmy
Man reading all these posts kind-of makes me happy that I have boys!

Think again Kimmy! AIDS does not discriminate. When your son knocks up some chic who do you thinks going to foot the child support bill?

 

[Kimmy]

Originally posted by RoseRed
and that makes thing better, why??? They can be father's can't they?

Yes!! But to me it just seems like you have to worry more about girls than boys when it comes to the birds and the bees. But then on the other hand its boys that make it diffcult for the girls.

 

[cattitude]

why bother...

 

[Kain99]

This is a matter of priorities. Plain and simple. It is Vrai's job to parent her daughter not to be her best friend. If Vrai decides that this girl is in sufficent danger and brings it to the parents attention then daughter will learn a valuable lesson. "Do the right thing!" No matter how uncomfortable and no matter how hard.

 

[blueeyes76]

Well, I say don't get involved. Your responsibility is to your daughter, make sure she knows the risks involved with being sexually active, and drill it into her head that she doesn't have to be sexually active just because "everybody else is doing it". If at some point in the future you feel like the other girl's actions are affecting your daughter, by all means, go have a talk with the parents. JMHO.

 

[giggles04]

Originally posted by blueeyes76
Well, I say don't get involved. Your responsibility is to your daughter, make sure she knows the risks involved with being sexually active, and drill it into her head that she doesn't have to be sexually active just because "everybody else is doing it". If at some point in the future you feel like the other girl's actions are affecting your daughter, by all means, go have a talk with the parents. JMHO.

I feel the same way about that.