Moral Question of the Day
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cattitude
My Sweetest Boy
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She doesn't actually say I/me. But I think he's as frustrated with the responses as I am. Someone asks an opinion and you try to give it and your parenting skills [or whatever topic] are taken to task. Just gets old.
Originally posted by kwillia
Re-read it, Otter"You have good friends who have a teenage daughter.... you know cause she is friends with your daughter....
She doesn't actually say I/me. But I think he's as frustrated with the responses as I am. Someone asks an opinion and you try to give it and your parenting skills [or whatever topic] are taken to task. Just gets old.
pixiegirl
Cleopatra Jones
In my case it sure wasn't my ex's parents. I do it all myself. I'm not saying if my son got some girl prego and didn't take care of his responsibilities that I wouldn't step up to the plate and help out his baby's mama but it wouldn't be my responsibility. Boys are easier. With boys you only have to worry about one "unit" with girls you have to worry about every "unit" in town.
Anyway, Vrai how old are the kids in question? If they're 16 and up I'd keep my mouth shut. Kids that age are going to have sex regardless of whether their parent know or not. Kids that age already know if they can talk to their parents or not. I knew at 16 that I could talk to my mom about certain things and not my dad. Had my father ever appraoched me and tried to talk to me about sex I wouldn't have talked to him about it anyway. I'd have lied my tail off and said I wasn't doing it.
If they're younger then 16 I would say something though. Not that girls are terribly mature at 16 but anything younger then that is waaaaayyyy too immature to be having sex.
JabbaJawz
Be about it
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That's a very good suggestion. If you have talked with the parents on occassion and know where they stand, then you know what sort of information they'd appreciate hearing from you...or if they'd just want to b*tch-slap you if you tried to make mention of their
doing such a thing.
That's a very good suggestion. If you have talked with the parents on occassion and know where they stand, then you know what sort of information they'd appreciate hearing from you...or if they'd just want to b*tch-slap you if you tried to make mention of their
doing such a thing.
Christy
b*tch rocket
I have to wholeheartedly agree with Cari, Kwillia, and Pixie.
You're best bet is talking with the girl yourself and lending some good advice. Most girls want and need advice from someone responsible, who's been there done that. The last person they want to discuss things like that with is their mother (in most cases). Not because they don't like their mother, it's simply embarrassing.
I've already got friends signed on to be there for my daughter when that day and age comes. (I'm already doing it for their kids, so fair is fair
) I don't want them to feel that they have to tell me what they discuss with my daughter or reveal any of her secrets, unless it is a matter of safety.
You're best bet is talking with the girl yourself and lending some good advice. Most girls want and need advice from someone responsible, who's been there done that. The last person they want to discuss things like that with is their mother (in most cases). Not because they don't like their mother, it's simply embarrassing.
I've already got friends signed on to be there for my daughter when that day and age comes. (I'm already doing it for their kids, so fair is fair
) I don't want them to feel that they have to tell me what they discuss with my daughter or reveal any of her secrets, unless it is a matter of safety.
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Kain99
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Funny, I just don't see where anyones parenting skills were taken to task. I don't understand your thought process here. Maybe I'm missing something or maybe something was deleted.
Funny, I just don't see where anyones parenting skills were taken to task. I don't understand your thought process here. Maybe I'm missing something or maybe something was deleted.
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Kain99
Guest
Big deal... The cyber space shout... Still had nothing to do with your parenting Cari. We are not against you. In fact, we're glad your back!
yakky doodle
New Member
but it doesn't constitute a personal attack ... I know, I attended that class last week with the board mommy as instructor! 
I guess, in some respects, I'm appreciative of the forum "personal attack" policy. It removes the "perception" issue so people can't cry about being offended.
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Kain99
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Let me add one little thing here that might help. Cari, I know that in the past you thought JustHang'n and BK were the same person. You'll probably feel better to learn that they are not. 
yakky doodle
New Member
not unless one of them had a bunch of smoke and mirrors at christy's NYE party!Originally posted by Kain99
You'll probably feel better to learn that they are not.
yakky doodle
New Member
check your drawers kwillia
yakky doodle
New Member
sleuth
Livin' Like Thanksgivin'
Why not ask your teenage daughter what she thinks you should do. Explain your point of view and make sure you understand her point of view. She may elaborate on why/why not you should tell anyone.
Not saying you have to do what she thinks. But it might be helpful. And it might be a good exercise in seeing how your daughter thinks.
Not saying you have to do what she thinks. But it might be helpful. And it might be a good exercise in seeing how your daughter thinks.
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Kain99
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Originally posted by cattitude
I guess I should apologize for misunderstanding some of the posts and not using the correct wording in my post which apparently set off a whole other thread.
That's ok Catt! Your safe here, among the guilty.
yakky doodle
New Member
and then he ditched her!
that was the best!