Moving a 12 yr old from public to private school

[itsbob]

I really do appreciate everyone listening and letting me vent, I really have never have done so. It's a little humiliating I guess you can say when your child just doesn't get it. I never make excuses for my children, and they know that. I have two other kids, a senior at that, lol. He is having trouble with one particular class. I call that teacher every week. And it has helped. The teacher is great. Doesn't mind at all when I call. He has even pulled kids in on his planning period to help them make it thru his class. He is awesome.

So I guess what I am saying is of course I appreciate our teachers. I know it's not an easy job. But I just wanted to set up a routine for the transition from elementary to middle school. That's all I really wanted and needed. And after asking several times this year, it didn't work.

Since you didn't answer about the Saturday school, I'm assuming she's never been.. or after school..

Don't they even have a website parents can go to to see what homework has been assigned??

 

[keepsmiling]

I see your case as something completely different. In your case as described... it is the kid moreso than the school or teachers. Your kid may be better off doing the grade over again and letting maturity catch up.

I agree with this, it's getting the school to agree that is problem. But i won't pass my child to the 7th grade with the problems we have had.

 

[keepsmiling]

Since you didn't answer about the Saturday school, I'm assuming she's never been.. or after school..

Don't they even have a website parents can go to to see what homework has been assigned??

Yes my daughter has gone to Saturday school. I have to deal with the problem of organization and bringing home the necessary work that is needed.

 

[keepsmiling]

I bet your child really doesn't have an IEP in place at all. If your child does have one, it is up to you to enforce it. If your child's IEP states that they require multiple reminders, then the teachers have to conform. If the IEP states that they require additional time to get homework or classroom work completed then the teachers have to conform. At the beginning of the IEP process you are given a booklet that explains the student's rights and that if an IEP is not followed the student's rights have been violated and you have the right to sue the school system....they [school system] are not going open themselves up to such a potential law suit. Also, you have the right to request a review of your child's IEP in order to modify it every sixty days if you want.

Appointment has been scheduled tomorrow with the Principal. I haven't spoken with him yet, but I feel it's time I do. Thanks for your input.

 

[Christy]

I really do appreciate everyone listening and letting me vent, I really have never have done so. It's a little humiliating I guess you can say when your child just doesn't get it. I never make excuses for my children, and they know that. I have two other kids, a senior at that, lol. He is having trouble with one particular class. I call that teacher every week. And it has helped. The teacher is great. Doesn't mind at all when I call. He has even pulled kids in on his planning period to help them make it thru his class. He is awesome.

So I guess what I am saying is of course I appreciate our teachers. I know it's not an easy job. But I just wanted to set up a routine for the transition from elementary to middle school. That's all I really wanted and needed. And after asking several times this year, it didn't work.

Hey, I feel your pain, I truly do. All kids are different and whatever works for you and your kid, go for it.

 

[keepsmiling]

Hi everybody

I really got overwhelmed with all the responses,

but the private emails were great, thank you to all of you, I will respond as soon as I can, but you have given me some wonderful input, I was beginning to feel I was the only parent with a child that wasn't perfect. Thank you!!

 

[InsanelyBusy]

Im glad I posted my situation, keepsmiling.

At least someone has some direction with their situation.

I wish you and your children very well !! keep us posted if you will.

 

[pingrr]

I see your case as something completely different. In your case as described... it is the kid moreso than the school or teachers. Your kid may be better off doing the grade over again and letting maturity catch up.

Havn't you herd of no child left behind. This means that the school will pass you kid until they reach ninth grade. No matter how bad they do in school. They have kids that fail every class and still don't get held back.

 

[keepsmiling]

knobody cares about your stupid kid. Your kid sounds like a real dimwit to me.

Thank you so very much for your private message whoever you might be. I am praying to God that you are not a parent, and if you are I'll start praying to God for them. You need help. Send me some more bad karma, I could care less. Have a good one!!!

 

[InsanelyBusy]

Good grief.

That was not a nice pm from whoever it was.

Maybe when they are parents (?) they will understand?

Ignore them.

 

[nightowl]

I have 2 children in private school and 1 that went from private school to public high school this year. I do think that there is more communication between the private school and myself and they definitely know me much better than the high school since my children have been there 5 yrs. I can't say I'm 100% happy with the private school as I don't really feel like my children are getting a "better" education than if they went to public school. I do like that they are learning things that they wouldn't learn in public school though (about religion). I also think they all have very good manners (not that public school children don't) but I think middle school is tough and had my 1 child not went to private school 6-8 I think for who he is we would have had a lot more problems. With the high school we've had issues but I attribute most to my child not to the school. I have let the school know now that I need to be informed of everything and anything even if they think it's trivial. I've also contacted teachers through email and that seems to work well. I am hoping things will continue to work well for my 2 in private as well as my 1 in public. Really I just think it depends on the school and the teachers you're dealing with.

So if you feel like your not getting results with "that" school then I think your best bet would be to move your child somewhere else for her own safety and well being.