"My kids are my life."

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Cyurius

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I hear women say this all the time. To me, it sounds like they give up everything for their kids. No more hobbies, no more friends, etc. Their whole entire life revolves around their children.

Do you think someone would be a bad mother if she said, "I love my kids, but I am still a person, not just a mom." If she went out and made time for herself, and didn't let her entire world revolve around being a mother.

Is it possible to have a life and be a mother? At least when the child is young?
 
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Mousebaby

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My kids have been my life for the past 16 yrs. I would not know what to do with myself if I didn't have them around. It would almost feel like I was naked or something. :lmao:
 
kwillia

kwillia

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Cyurius said:
Does that mean a woman should give up everything for her kids? Never take time for herself? I can understand that kids mean the world to them, but to say they have nothing outside of their kids?
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That is not at all what I mean. My life revolving around my kids means to me that they are always forefront in my mind over anything and any and all plans I make for myself are fit in around their needs first. Mine are older now so I very often spend time away from them and they from me. But I would cancel or change my plans if I felt my kids needed me during that timeframe.

I can sum it up by saying, in general, I would do without before I would let my kids do without.
 
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KWAK

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kwillia said:
I can sum it up by saying, in general, I would do without before I would let my kids do without.
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I wholeheartedly agree.


What is the everything that you're referring to anyway?? Becoming a parent is the most special thing in the whole world a woman can ever do - why wouldn't you want your life to change around it?? That's not saying that you lose your sense of self, your identity - it's just saying that you change who you are, what your priorities are. There is no room for selfishness in parenting, and if you're so afraid of that then maybe it's not the right time for you to have children??
 
Radiant1

Radiant1

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kwillia said:
That is not at all what I mean. My life revolving around my kids means to me that they are always forefront in my mind over anything and any and all plans I make for myself are fit in around their needs first. Mine are older now so I very often spend time away from them and they from me. But I would cancel or change my plans if I felt my kids needed me during that timeframe.

I can sum it up by saying, in general, I would do without before I would let my kids do without.
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:yeahthat:

Putting your kids first doesn't mean you don't get a night out to stop being mom, wife/girlfriend, sister, daughter or whatever other role you may play in life. It just means that you put them first.
 
jetmonkey

jetmonkey

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I just hate people who feel the need to announce it. Whoop-de-do, you are doing what you are supposed to do :bigwhoop:
 
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