mAlice
professional daydreamer
I know. I'm just saying that some immerse themselves so deeply in their childrends lives that they lose sight of themselves. Hell...I did it.
"My kids are my life."
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I know. I'm just saying that some immerse themselves so deeply in their childrends lives that they lose sight of themselves. Hell...I did it.
That's their choice.
I'm quite the opposite - becoming a mother has made me a better person, and more in touch with my own identity and purpose. But that was my way - and it doesn't work for everyone I know that.
I can see what you're saying. Maybe it just sounded weird hearing women say, "My kids are my life." Like being a mother is the ONLY thing going in their life.
Says you. Women can do much more than give birth.
Exactly. I guess that's my question. I mean, can't you still be a great mom but want to keep some sense of identity?
jetmonkey
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mAlice
professional daydreamer
Yes. Once I realized I had no identity left, I made a lot of changes.
I never said that a woman couldn't do more than give birth. For me, personally, I can't imagine anything bigger in my life.
godsbutterfly
Free to Fly
I have to agree that my kids/grandkids mean the world to me and I can't imagine my life without any of them. I have many other identities too: wife, sister, aunt, friend, boss, teacher - and I'm sure there are more, but I feel they combine to make me who I am and not that they have overtaken me.
punjabigyrl
Active Member
My kids are my life. However, i go out with my frineds when I can. I ususally get up 30/45 minutes before anyone for "ME" time because once they are up unitl they go to bed all you do is things with the kids, for the kids, and by the kids. piroritizing is the key.
And when my daughter wants to get my attention she hollers, "Kwillia!" and it works every time...
redneck_woman
Starting Over
I take time for myself every 2 weeks, block out 2.5 hrs on my Friday off for myself to get the hands and feet done. But I have my kids 24/7 and I deserve it 
I do feel bad afterwards and pick them up to have lunch together...
I do feel bad afterwards and pick them up to have lunch together...
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redhotmomma
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Everything i do revolves around my kids. I put them first, then my Hubby them me. I have always been that way. I always put myself last. I have to make sure others are taken care of first. I still have ME time. When they take a nap or when i go grocery shopping. I just make sure i schedule it in. Thats just how i do things.
Hey, if you want to be a selfish bad Mom, nobody is stopping you. How can your child be your best friend if you don't spend time with them?
Exactly. Instead of (whatever your first name is) you become So-and-So's Mommy. Just like when you get married, you become So-and-So's Wife. After awhile you get so used it it you start signing your checks that way. Then you know you're a TRUE woman.
I'm not sure it's healthy for parents to be their kids' best friends. And if you want to get snippy, I can bring up the point that you said before you smoked while pregnant. That sounds like you put the child first.
And if you want to get snippy, I can bring up the point that you said before you smoked while pregnant. That sounds like you put the child first.
Now that my kids are grown, I've seen the error of my ways.
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redhotmomma
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I feel very lucky that i able to be home with my kids. I got/get to see all their first. My Hubby doesn't. I wouldn't pass that up for anything!
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redhotmomma
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And if you want to get snippy, I can bring up the point that you said before you smoked while pregnant. That sounds like you put the child first.
I want to make sure my kids can come to me with any problem they have. I was never able to talk to my parents about anything. I think that is unhealthy. You just have to make sure they still know who is in charge.
kwillia
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I look back and wish I didn't work so many hours when my kids were young. We never had a normal dinner time and rarely sat down to eat together.