See, and I tend to like OPC because they're not mine and I can give them back.
"My kids are my life."
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See, and I tend to like OPC because they're not mine and I can give them back.
onebdzee
off the shelf
I'll give you mine....but, you can't give them back....they fight WAY to much
onebdzee
off the shelf
Pete
Repete
I hardly knew he was even there :shrug:
onebdzee
off the shelf
That's cause you were paying attention to other peoples kids like you always do
SShewbert
What love is all about
My kids are my life because I choose for them to be. I chose to have kids and make them my life. I wanted a lot out of my life but my main thing was kids. That is what I chose over everything because I want to be able to be running around with my kids, I want to be able to play with them and be that "room mom" in school (if they still have those). I want to do everything for my kids that my mom wasn't able to, but I wanted her too. She was a single parent and had to work to support me she did the best for me.
The point is not whether you can go and do stuff without the kids. I think everyone needs a little time away or you will go nuts. The point is how much of your time you take away. If you are not willing to give of yourself unselfishly 24/7 then maybe as another stated it is not time to have kids.
To me if I was to put myself ahead of my kids at any point I would be neglecting them.
The point is not whether you can go and do stuff without the kids. I think everyone needs a little time away or you will go nuts. The point is how much of your time you take away. If you are not willing to give of yourself unselfishly 24/7 then maybe as another stated it is not time to have kids.
To me if I was to put myself ahead of my kids at any point I would be neglecting them.
BuddyLee
Football addict
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Having children isn't in the cards for everyone - but the post wasn't about whether or not women should have children, where I would have replied differently.
I truly also believe that every womans life experiences and child desires would answer this question differently. The woman who got knocked up, then adjusted to becoming a parent, is going to respond differently than someone, for example, in my shoes, who received several rounds of fertility treatments and consequently spent thousands of dollars on becoming a parent. No, that doesn't make me a 'better' parent, but I know what my kids cost me - and the desperation I went through to have them. That is something you never forget, and as a result, your kids do become your life - and what makes you complete - because you always remember the time that you never thought it would happen.
RareBreed
Throwing the deuces
My husband and I purposedly waited two years after we got married before trying to have kids. The entire time, I felt like something was missing. Like I didn't have a purpose. Now I have one. I wouldn't say that my kids "are" my life but I would definately choose their life over mine in a heartbeat.
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See, this is how I view it, too. I got the impression that the original poster equates that as "not having a life" if you have kids. It's as if she's trying to justify not putting the kids first.
kwillia
n/a
I completely disagree with this... it's our job as a parent to raise our kids to be independent and self-reliant. This doesn't happen over night just because they hit a magical age or certain milestone in life. It happens over the years of childhood. Long before they are of age to head out the door and lead their own life, they should be quite capable of doing things and caring for themselves without intervention from us.
Teaching them that they aren't the center of the universe is another critical lesson in development as well.
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If your children aren't given everything they want within seconds of demanding it, and don't believe they are the center of the universe and everyone else merely exists to serve them, then you are a bad mommy and I feel sorry for your children.
If you do this Mommying thing right, your baby will never leave you and will always be your best friend. You also may be the subject of a Lifetime movie. 
kwillia
n/a
Well crap... remind me not to tell you how they are also expected to do household chores and their own laundry.If your children aren't given everything they want within seconds of demanding it, and don't believe they are the center of the universe and everyone else merely exists to serve them, then you are a bad mommy and I feel sorry for your children.
RareBreed
Throwing the deuces
If your children aren't given everything they want within seconds of demanding it, and don't believe they are the center of the universe and everyone else merely exists to serve them, then you are a bad mommy and I feel sorry for your children.
My oldest cracked me up last night regarding this exact thing. We asked him who he'd want to live with if both my husband and I died. He told us he'd want to live with one of our neighbors because they would buy him cool stuff like an ATV, motorcycle, and video games like they do their own son. I asked him if he thought they were good parents and would take care of him and he said "No, I just want stuff."
Well crap... remind me not to tell you how they are also expected to do household chores and their own laundry.
I'm calling CPS.
Pete
Repete
SShewbert
What love is all about
I agree with you. We are in that process now of teaching our three year old to be independent once again. We had her that way until me moved out here and grammy spoiled her. Now my youngest I did that too, and we are trying to get her indenpendent as well. What I said and what I was thinking may not have been made clear by my post, and I can't retract it now and try to explain it since I was thinking what I posted really late at night. I do however agree with what you said and I am sorry if my post made anyone think anything different.