Need advice from the married women!!!

vraiblonde

vraiblonde

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kwillia said:
A 29 year old man who likes it "his way or the highway" and is in control of the money, the purchasing decisions, and probably every other aspect of his homestead has hooked up with a 23 year old not even done with school yet.... yeah, odds are she is supposed to sit there and look pretty.
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And there's nothing wrong with that. Not everyone is good at everything, and that's what makes a relationship - different skill sets for different needs. I frankly admit I'm a terrible car shopper because I hate the haggling process. The price I see on the window is the price I expect it to be; when I go "yikes" and pass it by, and some salesslime runs over and wants to start negotiating, I keep walking and wouldn't even consider doing business with that dealership.

So I'm not going to dog Jess if, at the ripe old age of 23, she's not a master debater and just wants what she wants. That's why they invented other people.

There's nothing wrong with sitting there and looking pretty.
 
MMM_donuts

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Yeah, you let us know how "sitting there and looking pretty" works out for you when you get older. And fatter (because both WILL eventually happen to you).

And if that gets you the car you want or if you have to settle for whatever he chooses for you.

And if you're willing to do it with your mouth open to get your way (because, IMO, there really isn't anything necessarily wrong with that), then why stop there? You could take it to the streets and easily get a man that'll buy you a brand new car with zero miles on it. Have you seen how much money the people on base make?
 
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czygvtwkr

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$80 difference a month is pretty big. I have two vehicles with full coverage and only pay $1100 a year or $91 a month.

Convertables are nothing but trouble btw.
 
MMDad

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MMM_donuts said:
Yeah, you let us know how "sitting there and looking pretty" works out for you when you get older. And fatter (because both WILL eventually happen to you).

And if that gets you the car you want or if you have to settle for whatever he chooses for you.

And if you're willing to do it with your mouth open to get your way (because, IMO, there really isn't anything necessarily wrong with that), then why stop there? You could take it to the streets and easily get a man that'll buy you a brand new car with zero miles on it. Have you seen how much money the people on base make?
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What happened to you to make you such a miserable witch? Why such disdain for everyone?
 
MMM_donuts

MMM_donuts

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MMDad said:
What happened to you to make you such a miserable witch? Why such disdain for everyone?
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Encouraging a girl to treat her boyfriend with honesty and respect, and to make a well-rounded decision, is disdainful? Makes me miserable? How so?
 
vraiblonde

vraiblonde

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MMM_donuts said:
Yeah, you let us know how "sitting there and looking pretty" works out for you when you get older. And fatter (because both WILL eventually happen to you).

And if that gets you the car you want or if you have to settle for whatever he chooses for you.

And if you're willing to do it with your mouth open to get your way (because, IMO, there really isn't anything necessarily wrong with that), then why stop there? You could take it to the streets and easily get a man that'll buy you a brand new car with zero miles on it. Have you seen how much money the people on base make?
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OFF THE RAILS.

Why do you care so deeply about the lives of strangers?
 
drivingdaisy

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Good grief you guys have been grilling this girl. If she is happy in her relationship other than a difference in opinion about their next car purchase, its not really that big of a deal.

As for manipulation, maybe that was a poor choice in words, but when you're in a relationship and you both have a strong, opposite opinion about something sometimes "compromising" verges on manipulation. As long as you aren't complete opposites on a lot of issues, it works out ok.

My husband keeps trying to tell me my next car is going to be a jacked up excursion (like my preggo butt doesn't have enough trouble getting in his jeep). He clearly hasn't thought about how much our insurance will go up once I keep backing into other cars, the garage, small children...
 
Dakota

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MMM_donuts said:
Care to elaborate? I fail to see where I've demonstrated a deep caring for this stranger, why care at all would be a bad thing, and where I've not made a valid point.
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Come hang out with me for a while.... I used to care about people... now I don't give 2 craps - people often create their own problems. Some of my worst problems in my life... *I* (all by myself) created. If she wants something and cannot get it her self... *her* problem. I get what I want, NOW!!! I had to learn my lessons the hard way and she will too. You get exactly what you give and what you put up with...
 
Hank

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Dakota said:
Come hang out with me for a while.... I used to care about people... now I don't give 2 craps - people often create their own problems. Some of my worst problems in my life... *I* (all by myself) created. If she wants something and cannot get it her self... *her* problem. I get what I want, NOW!!! I had to learn my lessons the hard way and she will too. You get exactly what you give and what you put up with...
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And I believe Vrai may have used the phrase "off the rails" to describe you once or twice back in the day...:lmao:
 
mamatutu

mamatutu

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ChesBchSportsmn said:
I think you are with your "soon-to-be-husband" because of his stupidity to put his things in your name, and because of him getting a house given to him from his relatives. I think you have dollar signs and/or financial support on your mind, even though you are working too. I think your man is with you because of the sex, especially since you are much younger than him and especially if you bring other women into the bedroom. Again, maybe you two are right for each other. It sounds like you two are equally mature despite the age difference.
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Ches is right in the fact that this is how you come across. But, in your best interest, be independent in your own right, build your own credit, etc., and don't combine anything with your SO until you know for sure, as in, after you are married. You think you know someone, but you really don't until that whole marriage/reality/house/kids/life thing settles in. Trust me, the father of my children was like a gawd to me; I put all my eggs in one basket (so to speak). He left when my children were 4 and 7. I cleaned my neighbors' houses on top of my day job to make ends meet; especially to make the mortgage of my way too big house in Darnestown. If you become totally self sufficient, you will be surprised how much more you can bring to a relatiohship. And, your SO will think you are really smart. I am smart now, but I wish I was smart then (I was a tad older than you, when I married him). Take advice from people that have lived and learned. I wish you the best.
 
SoMDGirl42

SoMDGirl42

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afjess1989 said:
Well sorry....whats the saying opinons are like... Lol
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orgasms, and only mine matters
beachcat said:
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why? how? why are you on his insurance and you're not married? i didn't think this was possible.
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any licensed driver in your household living with you has to be added to your policy as a driver. Been there done that.
acommondisaster said:
mitsubishi eclipse has had a lot of mechanical issues. you may want to investigate the year you're looking at before buying.
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Very True. My daughter has one sitting in her yard broke down right now. Pretty lawn ornament.

BTW, I can not give you any advice. I'm happily divorced. :coffee:
 
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kwillia said:
BTW, I've been looking for a "new" used car for my daughter and have never seen a 2006 with only 25k in mileage and never a car with only 25k in mileage for only $6,000.
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co worker has a 2000 Avalon 41 k BB is 5 - 8000
 
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